If you’re reading this then I’m sure you’re aware that the limited success you’re having with women isn’t driven by your lack of ‘knowledge’ or ‘information’.
I’m sure you’re aware that there’s something internally that’s preventing you from expressing the attractive and powerful guy you have inside you..
..and you’re looking for a way to remove the barriers which prevent him from coming out.
If so, then good. This is exactly what I’m going to talk about today.
That guy is there..
..hidden behind layers of doubts, fears and and insecurities. If you want to let him out, the first thing you need to do is work out what those doubts and insecurities are.
This article is all about that crucial first step – identify the roadblocks that you’re using to hold yourself back.
Getting in touch with those doubts and insecurities can seem like a very big task, especially if you’re not very aware of the unconscious patterns that are running through your mind.
So to make it easier, I’ve broken it down into a three step process that will take the hard work out of it.
The first skill in developing awareness of the patterns that are running through your subconscious is noticing how you feel.
Your feelings are the gateway to your unconscious because whilst you can tell yourself stories about what you think you think, your feelings are always a clear representation of your true perceptions about the world.
Once you’re skilled at noticing how you feel in different places in your life, the next level is to notice the external triggers that are triggering these feelings inside you.
Do your feelings change when you see a beautiful woman?
Do your feelings change when you have to push your comfort zone? Do your feelings change when people give you strange looks?
Once again, your logical mind is very good at coming up with stories to prevent you from seeing what’s really going on in your world.
If you can identify when you’re feelings change and the external triggers that are triggering this change then you’re very close to finding the unconscious patterns that are preventing you from unleashing the powerful and attractive Man that is being held back by these insecurities.
Once you’ve clearly identified the external triggers that are creating allowing these feelings to come up, it’s time to go one level deeper.
As you notice the external triggers come into your world, start to notice the conversation you’re having in your head about these different triggers.
When a beautiful woman walks into your world, what thoughts run through your head? Is it to do with how you’re standing and how you look?
Is it questions about whether or not she’s going to like you?
Is it a conversations about what actions you should be taking? What are the thoughts you’re having around these triggers? And what do they tell you about how you see yourself and the world?
This isn’t a process that happens overnight.
For a lot of guys, it can be very hard to get in touch with how they feel, let alone, to stay in touch with that whilst they’re noticing the triggers that setting those feelings off, let alone noticing the conversations they’re having around those triggers.
That’s why this is a three step process. If you’ve not used to being aware of how you feel then it can take some time to get used to staying in touch with the feelings in your body.
And that’s fine.
Take some time becoming very aware of how the feelings in your body change throughout your day.
Once you’re intimately aware of how you feel and how that changes over the day depending on the different triggers you’re encountering, then pay specific attention to what those triggers are.
Once you’re very aware of the triggers that set off your emotions, then pay specific attention to the conversations you’re having in your head about the triggers.
By following these steps, you’re going to be able to identify your unique set of insecurities and doubts which is the first and most crucial step in removing them from your life forever.
After all, you can’t remove something when you don’t know it’s there.
If you really want to get your issues sorted, set yourself a mission to do so on the Mission Control board of the Inner Game Forums which you can find here:
Good luck!
Leigh
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