Approaching Women: Advanced Tips.

by Jonathon on December 26, 2009 · No Comments

approaching women tips When you approach a woman…

How meaningful do you want your interactions women to be?

To be able to penetrate through the surface-layers of insecurity and bullshit..

To be completely devastated by the ecstasy of incredible sex with a beautiful woman who you just approached..

You’ll need to give up the one thing that is in the way – and it’s the same thing that wants all of the above:

You.

Let me explain..

It’s tot the real you that you must give up, of course .. but that part of you that your ego has you convinced is you: your identity.

All the things you do -all the ways in which you define yourself by wearing specific clothing, listening to specific music, associating with specific people…

…all that surface level stuff.

All the stuff that makes you great, all the stuff that makes you shit, all the stuff that makes you more than, and all the stuff that makes you less than.

You gotta surrender it.

How?

It’s pretty hard, because it feels so warm and cosy where you are now.

And yet it’s easy – because ff you don’t surrender it, all you’ll have is your surface level identity attempting to approach women with their surface level identity:

Full of the pleasantries, but never quite connecting on that deeper level.

You’ll always be left wanting more. I know you’re very familiar with this feeling. I am, too.

But if you’re not your identity, then who are you?

You can’t be your body, because you have no real control over it:

(If you believe you do, then stop your heart from beating, or stop yourself from aging, or turn of your pain).

You can’t be your mind because of the same reason: try and stop thinking. You can’t. But you CAN become aware that something is also AWARE of your mind.

Beneath all of that, beneath the emotion, beneath the experience, beneath your habits, short-comings, thoughts, is something much deeper.

It’s what animates you. What gives you life.

It’s also the same thing that animates her and gives her life.

It makes you both magnificent.

It gives you the ability to experience your identities, to experience your emotions, to experience each other, and it is always there.

What do you think your interactions would be like if you were interacting with that inside of her, to go beyond the surface, to acknowledge it, but not address it?

To be aware of this depth when you speak to her, when you have sex with her, when you connect with her?

How do you think the walk down your current path would feel if it weren’t distracted by the noise of those surface ripples?

To understand the depth of the body of water unmoved by those ripples requires a deep awareness, and it’s not caffeinated.

Slow down for a moment, breathe deeply and fully, and feel into your body.

Then feel where your body ends, and the outside world begins.

Then feel where the outside world ends, and she begins.

Is there really a clear delineation?

Or are we all really one and the same outside of our identities?

Jonathon