Are You A Man Of Your Word?

by Jonathon on November 30, 2009 · No Comments

man of your word How powerful are you?

How powerful is your WORD?

I know many people who really make an effort to keep their promises to other people:

- to be accountable,
- responsible,
- dependable.

They put it on the line for others, and think that they are noble.

And then they sell out on themselves.

I am one such man.

My promises to others are far more important than those I make to myself.

It’s even reached the point where I just don’t take my promises to myself seriously any more.

And I think it doesn’t matter, because the only person who could possibly be losing out is me, right?

Wrong.

It’s OK though, because I’m workin’ on this baby, and in working on it, I’ve had to dig around a little bit inside, and take on a bit of responsibility.

Here’s what I’ve discovered:

The reason I don’t keep my own promises is because I don’t respect myself enough to.

And if I don’t respect myself enough to keep my promises, how can I expect anybody else to respect me?

You know what else I’ve discovered?

When somebody gives their word to me, and they don’t follow through, I don’t call them on it. Sometimes I even pretend like I didn’t even notice…

Wow.

In doing this, I am also disrespecting everybody around me.

How, you ask?

Well, put it this way: sometimes I’m not aware that I’m doing something wrong.

It’s not my intention to do it wrong – I’m just doing it wrong.

And I don’t know that I’m doing it wrong until somebody tells me. If nobody tells me, I keep doing it wrong, and making an ass of myself.

The worst ass of all, though, is the person who see’s me doing it wrong, knows that I’m doing it wrong, and still doesn’t tell me.

In this way, they don’t respect me enough to help me get back on track; they’d rather see me fail, than see me succeed.

So when I don’t keep a promise to myself, I stop expecting everybody else to keep their promises. I let them “do it wrong” and don’t tell them.

Not only have I lost all of my power, but I’m now contributing to the loss of power within somebody else:

What a jerk I am.

So the next time you dishonour yourself by not keeping a promise to yourself, have a look at the bigger picture. At your world, and how you’re impacting not only yourself…

…but those around you.

Have a look at what it is that you present to a woman when you come from this place. She’ll know it, too.

If you can’t keep a promise to yourself, how can she expect you to keep one for her?

Are you likely to sleep with somebody you don’t trust?

So why do you expect her to, then?

Jonathon