I’ve recently blogged about how the movie characters we love represent the outcomes we seek.
In a nutshell, I was saying that the TV and movie characters you get most addicted to possess the qualities that you want to possess.
For example, Hank Moody from Californication is addictive because he gets ample attention from women – without even trying.
This is consistent with market research done in the seduction community..
There is a huge segment of the market who place “I want women to approach me” or “Women hitting on me” or a variation of that on the top of their wish-list.
I’d like to extend this theory of mine. Consider this: we love TV soaps because they represent what we are starved of in every day life:
Self-expression.
Watch any episode of Days Of Our Lives or Neighbours or CSI or Sex And The City and you’ll see characters confronting each other, letting others know how they feel, what they think of each other…
..being bitchy, being emotional, being angry, being full of lust, desire and envy. They’re expressing themselves, without holding back. They’re being real.
And what happens in real life?
We hold back. We suppress ourselves. We don’t confront others. Instead, we bitch and gossip behind their backs.
We don’t say “I like you. You’re awesome”. Instead, we admire from a distance, wish for more, wonder if they’re single.
In a TV soap, you never see characters catching up over a latte and talking trivial shit, like:
“Hey, how is life? Good. Busy. What’s news?”
Why? Because it would not be interesting to watch.
So why is it that most of our lives resemble a TV soap that we would not want to watch? Why are we creating a life like that?
If you were a character in a soap, would you be interesting to watch? Would you be fully immersed in your character?
Would your character be unmistakably and distinctively “FOR” something, like that chick in Sex In The City is for abundance of sex, like House is for straight talk, like Hank Moody is for being lost, yet being full of integrity?
Even if it means people criticise you for it and disapprove of what you stand for?
Steven
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