Are You A Member Of A “Seduction Lair”?

by Steven on September 11, 2009 · No Comments

seduction lair By popular request, this is a repost of one of my recent emails.

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You many have heard that I was in hot water recently.

LoGun and I did a presentation for a local lair a few months ago, and I posted up a few video clips of the talk on YouTube.

Alas, all sh*t hit the fan when the leader of the lair announced that it was a breach of guys’ privacy – and created enough noise for us to pull down the videos.

Which is fair enough – I should have checked with the guys that it’s OK to use footage where their faces may be caught in the shot.

But that got me thinking.

If LoGun and I did a talk on how to make a million dollars, would anyone object to appearing on tape?

Would anyone be embarrassed about being seen by their friends and colleagues at a seminar like that?

Probably not.

So, the question is, then – why is it that a desire to make a tonne of cash is romanticised in our social circles..

And a desire to become a better man stigmatized?

Sure, I can find some good reasons. For starters, the origins of that “seduction community” movement have had some less than glamorous origins.

Let’s face it, when you’re using hypnosis, anchoring and NLP to shift women’s emotions it is only by the most liberal definition of the word ‘seduction’ that you’re actually ‘seducing’ them.

And I’m glad that all that is mostly in the past now.

But what about lairs? Why do we still have lairs?

What is a friggin “lair”, anyway?

Many guys who are part of a lair will tell you that they’re in it mostly for self-improvement, and not just to learn pickup.

Here’s that I have a problem with.

Don’t know about you, but when I think of the word “lair”, and I’m staring at a dark webpage which tells me I have to apply to some special leader to gain access…

…And if I get accepted, I’ll have to be concerned about having my identity revealed in public..

The imagery that comes to mind is not that of self-development and improvement.

But rather, of the same old dogma dressed up in newer clothes and topped off with a bow of wishful thinking.

Sure, it may be hard to explain to some of our peers that we attended a seminar which helped you become better with women..

..After they saw us on YouTube.

And sure, the temptation may exist to hide this part of our life from some of our friends, colleagues and family.

Thing is, one of the KEY milestones you can achieve on the path to becoming a man who is unshakable in any situation is SELF-ACCEPTANCE.

That means accepting you, as you are, right now, and LOVING IT.

If you don’t accept yourself – right now – why the hell do you expect women to?

Why do you expect your peers, family and friends to?

Do you want to VISIBLY belong only to organisations which have been deemed to be socially acceptable by someone else?

Or do you want to belong to organisations which YOU deem to be acceptable and therefore you deeply embrace as part of you.

And you project that power of acceptance through your every pore, so that when some punk sees you on YouTube and tries to poke at you, you shoot back:

“Yea man, I was at that seminar, and let me tell you about an interesting thing I learned about myself…”

And that punk sees that you’re not in the slightest phased by him, and goes .. “err, cool… I might check it out too”.

And you did it not because you wanted to shoot him down, or AMOG or whatever, but because you remained true to yourself in that moment.

You OWNED YOUR SH*T because that’s how you live your life.

My point is – it is not until you fully accept yourself, and take ownership of who you are, and unashamedly project it to others,
so that you’re 100% true to yourself, in every moment – no-one else will accept you, either.

And by hiding in a “lair”, behind the safety screen of clandestine membership, you’re preserving – and even cultivating – the very part of you that’s caused problems which you you were hoping to ‘fix’ by coming to the lair
in the first place.

I call for a TRUE shift away from obsession with pickup and towards masculine growth, empowerment and growth of the soul.

A shift which goes deeper than the words we say. But rather, one which is borne of how we live.

“Be the change you want to see in the world”, once said a guy much greater than me.

Well, let’s f*kcen make that shift.

I’d argue that our movement is WAY more important than participating in some seminar on how to make a million bucks.

So, let’s do what WE want to do, be aware of WHY we do it and STICK UP for it.

Let’s live from our BALLS, Men.

Isn’t it what being a Man is all about?