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Impressing women is a profoundly simple thing to do. It doesn’t require complex scripts, intricate methods, or advanced tactics. All that’s required to impress a woman is some basic logic and self awareness. First of all though, you need to clarify exactly what kind of woman you want to impress, because different kinds of women [...]

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What Women Want

January 28, 2012 by

She wants you to be inspirational. She wants you to be courageous. She wants you to stand up for what you believe in. She wants you to have morals and principles. She wants you to have direction and purpose. She wants you to live your life on your terms. And most of all, she wants [...]

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Running out of things to say when talking to beautiful women is a common problem. The seduction community solution for this is to learn a large amount of stories and topics to talk about so that you can pull something up on demand. If you want to spend half your night reading notes about stories [...]

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Here’s a question I received a few days ago about a situation I’m sure you’ve been in. If you’re still working through the whole PUA mindset, you’ll find my answer very useful.   Question: Hey, I don’t know if this is the right place to send this to, but I really need some advice. Everything [...]

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Ever since I can remember, I’ve had the same new years resolution: To Live. A simple and effective reminder that this is my life and I’m the only one who’s ever going to give me what I want. This year, I’ve decided to change it. Ever since Steven left, my workload at AI has ballooned. [...]

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This year has been such an incredible journey. There’s been so many massive changes in not only my life, but in AI as well that I couldn’t begin to list them all here. When this year started, I had no idea of the journey I’d be going on. There’s no way you could have convinced [...]

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Mike went to the NY Philharmonic orchestra by himself because he loves classical music. Lauren had planned to meet friends there but they cancelled so she ended up alone as well. Mike and Lauren met and went on a date. Mike thought it went well and tried to organise a second date with Lauren by [...]

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You can feel the barrel of the gun, pressed against your temples. The psychotic gunman has demanded to know what you really want to do with your life. After you respond, he tells you that if you’re not taking big steps towards that life when he visits you in 6 weeks, he’s going to kill [...]

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How To Spot Her Tests

December 5, 2011 by

I see it all the time. Guys write field reports and always ask “Was this a test? Was she testing me here?” So, here’s a little known secret to work out whether or not she was testing you. It’s fool-proof and guarantees that you pick every test, every time and you’re never left confused about [...]

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You’re here because you want to be naturally attractive to women. I get it. You want to live your life, on your terms, doing what you want, and have the women you desire be attracted to you for it. That’s great. It’s why I’m here as well. I also get that you don’t want to [...]

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Getting in touch with what you really desire is one of the core elements of… …becoming naturally attractive to women. After all, if you don’t know what you want, then you can’t experience it. And if you can’t experience it without her, then you’re always going to be needy and dependent on her to give [...]

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What Women Really Want

November 15, 2011 by

When I was growing up, I was taught to be nice to women. I was taught to treat them like friends, really good friends, and eventually, they’re going to see just how attractive you are. I was taught it was wrong to think of women as sexual creatures and it was wrong to show sexual [...]

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This is one for all the spiritual guys out there. The evils of the Ego gets a lot of attention from all the spiritual teachers out there. The Ego has been blamed for everything from the breakdown of relationships to creating wars! But no-one’s really given you a game plan to both identify and overcome [...]

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I just saw this and thought it was awesome. Check it out: It really got me thinking about how much I take for granted in my life. Today, I drove to the farmers markets with the woman I love, sat and ate some beautiful food from 3 different continents, surrounded by family and friends, then [...]

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“How do I find my purpose / gifts?” is a question that pops up frequently on the Attraction Institute Forum. If you’re one of those people who’s searching for that deeper and more meaningful part of himself, then here’s a great article on it from www.psychologytoday.com on how to find your deepest gifts. ———— How [...]

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Testosterone is that awesome little chemical that helps you feel like a Man. It controls sex drive and aggression and is key to pushing forward with your life rather than wasting it sitting on a couch. There’s quite a few guys on the forum who are quitting masturbating and all kinds of fun things to [...]

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For some magical reason, this topic came up in both the Get Real and Be Powerful calls I did this week… …so I thought I’d share it with all you guys. I know how much of a bitch running out of things to say is so here’s my – ULTIMATE POWERHOUSE MAGIC QUICK FIX SOLUTION [...]

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“What are you going to do about it?” The world is never going to give you what you want. You’re never going to wake up and one day everything is going to be perfect. The quality of your life isn’t determined by how perfect the world is, it’s determined by how you respond when it [...]

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“How do I be more attractive to women?” was the question that started me on my journey firstly into the seduction community, then out of it.

I get asked it so often that I thought I’d write out the three things I wish I’d been told when I first wanted to know how to be attractive to women.

No. 1 – Stop trying to attract women…

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RIP Steve Jobs

October 7, 2011 by

Yesterday, the world lost a great man. Thank you for the incredible contribution you made to the world. I hope, that one day, I can make even a fraction of the difference that you have made. Below is a speech he made back in 2005. He touches on life, death, passion, love, and how to [...]

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Well, you can if you want, but just be aware that they’re going to do more damage than good. Here’s why: If you’re learning and attempting to implement pickup structures, routines, and techniques, then you’re going to be thinking about them when you’re with a woman. You’re going to be stuck in your head instead [...]

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In the 5 years I’ve been coaching guys on how to become naturally attractive to women, I’ve seen it all. I’ve seen guys literally transform their lives after spending 5 minutes on the forum. They log on, read one thing, apply it to their life and their success with women and in the rest of [...]

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Working out why you’re not getting the women you want… …can be confusing and difficult. Today, I’m going to make it really simple for you. There are three simple steps you can follow to get the answer. 1. Read this post: www.attractioninstitute.org/how-to-attract-women 2. Then answer this question: How do attractive women feel when they’re around [...]

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I’ve spent the last few weeks… …working with a select group of guys to help the blast through their approach anxiety… …because they identified it as the number one thing preventing them from attracting the women they want. After all the work we’ve done, it turns out they were wrong. Throughout all the exercises and [...]

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How valuable something is to you can be judged by what you’re willing to do for it. The more you care about it, the harder you’re going to fight for it. This is a Man who believes so strongly in personal freedom and expression that he’s willing to go to jail over and over again. [...]

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From time to time, I get a particularly good question in my inbox and I thought I’d share this one with you. If you have issues approaching women, this one should clear up a big sticking point.   Question: Hey guys. Loved Endgame. I’ve spent most of my life as a sculptor. Wood carver. I [...]

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Maybe you met at a bar, maybe at a party… You had a good time, a few laughs, and so you decided to swap numbers. You call her a few days later and things don’t go so well. She says she’s a bit busy and to call her soon. So you don’t look too needy, [...]

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Impressing a girl is easy. VERY easy, when you know what you’re doing… And if you’re not impressing women right now, it’s because you’re listening to advice that misses the most important point. There’s plenty of advice on how to impress a girl floating around the internet. Apparently, the way to impress a girl is: [...]

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There’s plenty of advice on the Internet about the different ways you can attract women. There’s even plenty of advice on this site. So, I’m not going to cover that today. This post is about helping you decide which piece of advice is the best piece for you. It’s one, simple question you can use [...]

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As I was walking to football this morning, I watched a car jump the medium strip of a six lane road and smash head on into a car coming the other direction. I have no idea how, but by some act of a higher power, no-one was seriously injured. But they could have been. Both [...]

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There are thousands of tips on the Internet on how to attract women… …and EVERY SINGLE one of them misses the most crucial piece of information possible. I know this because I read almost all of them when I was trying to get better at attracting women. It wasn’t till I worked out this one [...]

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And now for the next installment… ‘Follow your fear.’ How would your life be different today if you decided to move towards the things that scare you, rather than running and hiding from them? What would ‘ve been different when you saw that cute girl that you decided not to approach? What would’ve been different [...]

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If you’ve found your way to this post, I’m sure you’re aware that the Attraction Institute philosophy is very unique. Because it’s so unique, there seems to be a bit of confusion about what we really stand for. To help clear that confusion, I’ve put together a list of the most common misconceptions and why [...]

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Sure, when you woke up this morning… -       You chose what you ate for breakfast, -       You weren’t forced into any strict religious practice -       You decided what you were going to wear today …but is that really freedom? Is that all there is to it? How free are you, really? Yes, you have the [...]

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I know how overwhelming this whole ‘meeting, attracting, flirting with women’ thing can seem. I remember when I first started, it just felt like there was SOOO much to do and SOOO much to learn before I could even start getting the success I wanted. It was quite intimidating. That’s why, today, I’m going to [...]

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It’s time for a bit of a Q&A. —————- Hi LoGun, I regularly read your posts and want to ask you for a favour. Can you write something about STATUS? What I mean is we’re taught by the PUA community that everything is about status and that it determines your value in the society. I [...]

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Without a dream, you’re not going to push yourself when it gets hard. Without a dream, you’re not going to get up when you fall down. Without a dream, you’re not going to take that extra step when it really counts. So, what’s your dream?   I’m having a little NFL love fest this week.

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I know it can seem like the world is against you. I know it can seem like everyone has it easier than you. But did you have to sleep in the same bed as your grandma till you were 15? Did you have to sleep in the same room as your Grandma till you were [...]

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For those who haven’t been keeping up with the blog posts… …I have reminders in my phone that go off EVERY DAY to make sure I’m directing my attention in productive directions. Years and years and years of being stuck in my head wondering what other people are thinking of me can be hard to shake… I [...]

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I know a lot of people who say ‘Yes, you should smile when talking to women. It makes you appear more friendly and attractive to women.” That sounds great I theory, but if you take a quick look under the surface, you’ll see just how bad an idea it is try and appear more friendly [...]

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This is an amazing video that looks at the link between vulnerability and happiness. If you’ve ever wondered whether being vulnerable was going to do anything for you then you should definitely check this out. Oh, and just to give you some context, this is the most watched TED talk ever. L.

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I witnessed one of the most beautiful and simple ‘pickups’ I’ve ever seen yesterday. It was beautiful because the Man felt strong and in control of his world… …and the woman left smiling and feeling like the most beautiful woman on earth. It was simple because there was no techniques, no routines, no structures, just [...]

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When I meet a woman I’m attracted to, I always talk about the same thing. Always. It’s one topic that allows me to flirt with her, push her buttons, play around, and get deep and serious. I can talk about this and have a fun, quick conversation or a deep and meaningful conversation for hours [...]

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This one is simple. I’m not going to go into complex details, I’m just going to give it to you straight. The way to get out of the friend zone is to stop treating her like a friend. That’s it. She doesn’t put you in the friend zone, you put you in the friend zone. [...]

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There’s one question that’s going to determine just how easy you find it to transform your relationships with women. The answer is the reason that your journey is either effortless and rewarding or demanding and frustrating. That question is: Should you learn to attract women? Now, the answer might seem obvious. I mean, that’s why [...]

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I know from my years of trying to transform my life, that it can seem like you’re the only one who gets this wrong. This post is an attempt to show you that you’re not the only one. I’ve put together a list of all the pointless things I’ve done (and still do) in my [...]

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Congratulations to everyone who participated in the June 2011 Get Real challenge. There were many boundaries pushed, many barriers overcome, and many lives transformed over the last 2 weeks. It takes a lot of balls to firstly, publicly air your fears, and secondly, push yourself through them. I know there were many guys who read [...]

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I got nervous just watching it. You can see the terror in his face, you can feel his fear through the screen, and yet he still goes through with it. He still puts his arm out, he still lets the guy put it on his hand, and he still passes the Tarantula from hand to [...]

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Despite the immense benefits that being authentic and real with women can bring to your life, there’s also a down side that you have to be aware of. It’s something that comes up a lot in both Get Real and Be Powerful and I thought I should warn you about it. It’ll make it easier [...]

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Check out My Story It’s one thing to know what you need to do to experience all that life has to offer. It’s something completely different to understand how that theory can be applied to your life. And it’s SOMETHING ELSE ENTIRELY to see practical examples of how you can create the life you truly [...]

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This is one of the best posts I’ve ever read on sex. It’s written by a Woman, to Men, trying to help them understand sex from a woman’s perspective and what she’s looking for. Enjoy. ———– Dear Men of Craigslist, Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, [...]

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I went to a party last night. I know… CRAZY!!! This might not seem like a big deal to you guys, but it actually was for me. I don’t really go out much any more. I used to go out a lot! Steven and I would be out 3 or 4 times a week. We’d [...]

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This is the next installment of the ‘Thought of the day’ series. These are little quotes, sayings, and (mostly) questions that I ask myself to keep me moving towards the life I want to create. Today’s is one of my favourites: Who is the Man of your dreams? This question isn’t about finding some dude [...]

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If you haven’t watched Californication, you need to. What a great show. Except for the current season. I don’t know if they got new writers or if they just ran out of ideas but it’s really gone down hill… Anyway, you’re not reading this to find out what I think of Californicaiton, you’re reading this [...]

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I mentioned this is an email a few weeks ago but I forgot to share it here. The AI Facebook page is now LIVE! Check it out

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It seems that any seduction guru worth his salt has published a theory of attraction at some point. So, if I’m ever to make it to the status of an mPUAG, I should probably get mine out there as well. Note, this is not in any way a ‘finished’ theory and so would appreciate your [...]

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For those who don’t know who Eckhart Tolle is (which rock have you been hiding under?), he’s the author of books such as The Power of Now and A New Earth. The key fundamental tennet of his teaching is that achieving presence is a powerful way to transform the core of any issue. There’s quite [...]

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I get quite a few emails from guys asking me to help them solve a problem. What I’ve found is that most of the trouble they’re having finding a solution to their problem is that they don’t know what the real problem is. There’s three quick questions that I always ask to help them get [...]

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As promised in the last email, here is the article you’ve been waiting for – overcoming a fear of rejection. I’ve broken it down into 3 short steps that are going to help you break through this barrier. I’m going to go into quite specific detail in this. I’m not going to talk about theoretical [...]

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When Steven left a few months ago, one of two things was going to happen. Either I was going to continue with the same (poor) time management systems I’d been running and AI would fall further and further into disarray or I would find a new way of operating and AI would continue to grow. [...]

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I know there are a lot of guys who read this blog who want to start something big. They want to make a difference to the world and are looking for a way to do it. Here’s a short video that explains just how to start a movement. Enjoy.

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If I just let my mind wander off, it can end up in all kinds of useless places. If I let myself, I can spend hours surfing through YouTube videos, watching football highlights, and just screwing around on facebook. This, in no way, helps me move closer to the life I want to live. To [...]

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The quality of your life isn’t determined by what you have or what you go through, it’s determined by what you choose to do with it. This guy is an AMAZING example of that. He was born without arms or legs and he’s one of the happiest and most powerful people I’ve seen in a [...]

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64 simple steps. Enjoy. L.

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This is a great clip from Arnold Schwarzenegger talking about what it takes to be a champion. Really inspirational stuff. It’s easy to see how he became so successful in so many different areas of his life. Enjoy. How do you think your life would change if you started looking at your life like this?

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Motivation came up as one of the big things that guys were struggling with in our recent survey. (BTW, the more information we have on what you’re looking for, the more we can give you so if you haven’t filled out the survey, please do so. It’ll mean you get more of the answers you [...]

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Married Life

June 2, 2011 by

Have you ever wanted to live in 1894? Well, you wont after reading this! This is advice written in 1894 to alert young brides to the terrible turmoils of the sexual debauchery of married life. Can you imagine what it would have been like to just have a bit of sex if this was the [...]

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A friend of mine shared this great blog with me. It’s written by his boss. Every few days he writes a post about something that he loves. It’s really beautiful. You can

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“You only live once.” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. So many times that it’s just started to be empty words. Just like: “I’ll have a beer, thanks…” Or… “Get the f*#k out of my house you filthy slob!” But today, someone said it to me and I actually stopped to [...]

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Do you know what 4:45am on a Monday looks like? Apparently it’s dark. Very dark. And not so warm either. It makes you yawn a lot and you are also overcome with burning desires to crawl back into bed. Funny that… I know this because I got to taste 4:45am on a Monday this morning. [...]

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How incredible do you want your life to be? Do you want it to be REASONABLY incredible? Do you want it to feel an AVERAGE amount of greatness? Do you dream of experiencing a bit more than half of what life has to offer you? Now, do you think you can ever experience the extremes [...]

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5 must read books that will change your life. 1. The Tao of Pooh This book will answer the question: “What’s going on when the world doesn’t feel quite right?” This book had a profound influence on my life. I still remember sitting down to ‘just flick through the first few pages’ and emerging from [...]

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I’m going to throw something out there: You’re here because you’re looking an answer. You’re looking for a THE piece of information that’s going to help you take the next big step. That’s right, I’m very clever. I know this because if you weren’t you wouldn’t be here. You’d be out there, living your life. [...]

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“When you never compromise, you have nothing to hide” Have a guess where this comes from: Some self help guru? Some PUA god? The latest spiritual leader? Tattooed on the back of a dancing midget? Surprisingly, all wrong. This comes directly from the marketing mouth of the American car manufacturer GMC. It’s their company slogan [...]

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I’ve been there before. I’ve fallen in love and had my heart broken in two. I know what it feels like to be left alone, wondering if you’re ever going to recover from the pain. So today, I’m going to share with you how I got over my ex and how you can get over [...]

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Question and answer time!!! Yay… That’s right. If you write to me with the question sitting at the edge of your tongue, you may just find yourself on our happy little blog. The question comes from a discussion I was having with a PUA about false time constraints. I was having a bit of a [...]

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Want to feel more powerful? Want to feel more in control?

Want to feel all those amazing feelings that unshakable confidence brings?

Well, you’ve come to the right place. I’m going to give you the latest confidence training tools to so that nothing can stop you from living the life you want. But I’m also going to give you the one thing you NEED to know if you want to make that confidence long lasting.

The basic principle of any solid confidence training program is to help you prove to yourself that you can create the life you want.

If you can prove to yourself…

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There are two different types of confidence boosters you can use and the one you choose is going to determine how much confidence boost you get stable your confidence boost is.

Seeing as I’m a very gifted linguist, I’m come up with the two very powerful names for these different types of confidence boost: external and internal.

An external confidence boost is the most…

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The secret to how to attract a woman isn’t complex. It’s not long, hard, or complicated.

To show you just how you can attract a woman, I’m just going to ask you one simple question:

When have you had most success attracting a woman: when you’ve been trying to attract a woman or when you haven’t been trying at all and you’ve just been concentrating on enjoying yourself?

So what do you think you need to do to attract a woman?

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I wish it were as simple as waving a magic wand and saying ‘All women find x attractive!’ but in reality, it’s not. Why?

Well, do you and you mate find the same women attractive? Maybe sometimes, but all the time? No?

Then why would all women find the same guy attractive?

Duh…

So, to help you work out what women find attractive, we first need to nail down what kind of women we’re talking about.

Lets start with the easy one: What does she look like?

Is she tall or short?
Is she brunette or blonde?
 Does she have blue eyes or brown?
 Is she curvy or slim?

Next, what kind of things does she like to do?

Does she like to play sports…

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If you’re reading this, then I’m going to guess that you’re aware of your potential.

You’re aware that there’s something powerful, something strong, something amazing inside you and you’re looking for a way to let it out.

That’s a great place to be.

It’s far easier to work with someone who realises…

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I’ve got a foolproof way to improve self-esteem – become very good at achieving your goals.

It makes sense, doesn’t it? If you can set yourself goals that you really want to achieve and you achieve them they’re you’re going to improve your self esteem.

I’ve also got a foolproof way to NOT improve self-esteem. Funnily enough, it’s the same way – become very good at achieving your goals.

Confused? There’s a very subtle element that you need to be aware of to avoid the same trap that a lot of people who’re searching for ‘how to improve self esteem’ fall into..

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I’ve been involved in the self-improvement community for nearly 8 years.

I’ve spent 5 of those as a coach. The number complaint I hear from my clients is that “I’ve read all these books and I’ve even taken workshops, but I’m still not living the life I want.”

If you’ve read through any self-improvement books and want to know why you’re still not living the life you want, then you need to read what’s written below…

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I’ve had quite a few guys write to me asking for advice on places to meet women so I thought I’d write out a comprehensive list of every place that you can meet women in your life.

That list has one item on it: Every place in your life is a place to meet women.

That’s it. That’s the whole list.

Think back through the last week of your life…

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The Secret to Speed Dating success

I’m about to give you the secret to undreamed of success at speed dating. It’s a secret that will at least triple the amount of beautiful women you get to meet.

Yes, at least triple. If not waaaaaaay more.

It’s 4 simple steps.

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Is your self-confidence not quite what you want it to be?

Are you looking for self-confidence tips to find the happiness you desire?

Well, here are 3 self-confidence tips you need to know – if you want to bring long-term satisfaction into your life.

Self-Confidence Tip No. 1 – Stop blaming your lack of self-confidence for anything..

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I realize you came here for tips on how to attract women, but I’m going to give you something better.

Instead of giving you little tick after little trick that may, on some magical day, help you attract the women one or two women..

..I’m going to help you find what you can do to never have to learn tips to attract women again.

Does being the kind of Man who women are naturally attracted to without constantly needing to use tricks sound interesting to you?

Good, then read on.

There are lots of tips on the internet on how to attract women…

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You’re Not An AFC

January 22, 2011 by

In my travels around the dating community, I’m constantly hearing guy referring to themselves as AFC.

If you’re one of those guys then this post is for you…

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It’s a question which we, men, wrestle with from the time we hit our teenage years:

“How to get women into bed?”

Well, there are two basic different paths you can follow.

And the one you choose is going to determine, firstly, how easy your journey is. And secondly, how much you enjoy yourself on the way…

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I’m astounded by the number of supposed Alpha Male Characteristics that you’re supposed to learn in order to be an Alpha Male.

It seems like self-help guru’s sat around for years just observing people who they thought were Alpha Males and wrote down EVERYTHING they did.

They came up with a list of alpha male characteristics which just baffles my brain:

Stand up straight
Take up space
Talk loudly…

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Are you searching for the best PUA openers? Good.

Of all the PUA openers I’ve seen, this is the most powerful one of them all.

It’s guaranteed to work, every time. Every time. Would you like to know what it is?

Would you like to be able to throw away all your other PUA openers and just head out at night armed with one weapon, which is going to open every woman, every time?

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Want to know how good your self esteem is? Would you like a little self esteem test to see exactly how you shape up?

Imagine you’re sitting at work and your boss comes up to you.

She (I’m just going to fly in the face of gender stereotypes – and pretend your boss is a woman) leans over your desk and in her sweetest and most soothing voice says:

“You’re lazy and you’re work is shit.”

How do you respond to this self esteem test?

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There are plenty of articles out there on how to build self esteem and then how to make your self-esteem bullet proof so I’m not going to tackle that little puppy.

Instead, I’m going to ask a deeper question that you must consider before you embark down the journey of trying to develop incredible self-esteem:

Is building self-esteem really the answer to your issues?

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There’s a secret you haven’t been told about the psychology of attracting women.

It’s got nothing to do with magic sprays or hypnosis but it’s something you’re going to need to know if you’re going to have incredible relationships with amazing women…

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The secret to being able to talk to women effortlessly is…. Drum roll… More drums…

Talk to them.

That’s it. Walk up there, express yourself openly and freely, and then see what happens.

Not the kind of answer you were hoping for, right? Well, that’s because it’s only part of the answer.

The part you really wanted to hear – the end. In order for this to really make sense…

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Have you ever felt bored? Trapped? Caged by your life?

Ever caught yourself day dreaming about travelling the world? Finding excitement and adventure in foreign lands?

Well, there is an easier way.

There’s a way you can experience all the excitement, adventure, and the thrill of really living that you’re looking for without leaving the country.

In fact, you don’t even have to…

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I’m going to make this really simple.

I’m not going to go into complex theories and silly pranks to overcome your approach anxiety. Instead, I’m just going to give you the 6 thing that you can use to eliminate approach anxiety forever:

1. You’re not genetically programmed to experience approach anxiety.

Your approach anxiety has nothing to do with your fore fathers being afraid…

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I know there are a lot of guys in our little community who want to do more.

I’ve been messaged more than once by guys saying:

“I want to be able to give back, I want to be able to help more people, I want to do something to make this world a better place, but I don’t know how I can.”

So I thought I’d share with you just how you can…

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I’m going to let you in on a little secret.

It’s the secret that allows me to have effortless conversations with just about anybody in my life and never run out of things to say – especially with the women I’m attracted to.

It’s not due to the sheer volume of routines I’ve memorised or the complex word associations game I’ve learned…

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From everything I’m hearing from the Pick Up community, fake-it-till-you-make-it is not only the fastest way to get better with women..

.. but also the best way.

But before you choose to go along that path, consider this.

Apparently, if you just keep faking it for long enough, eventually women wont be able to tell that you’re faking.

Eventually, they’re just going to believe it’s the real you and you can get all the women…

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If you’re reading this then I’m sure you’re aware that the limited success you’re having with women isn’t driven by your lack of ‘knowledge’ or ‘information’.

I’m sure you’re aware that there’s something internally that’s preventing you from expressing the attractive and powerful guy you have inside you..

..and you’re looking for a way to remove the barriers which prevent him from…

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Here’s one for all you science nerds out there..

..the scientific formula for overcoming loneliness. Yes, that’s right. I’ve discovered a formula for it.

Want to know what it is? Well, here you go:

C = L x R1 x R2 x N

Pretty straight forward, isn’t it? Oh, you want me to…

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Becoming A Man.

August 23, 2010 by

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard a beautiful woman say:

“There’s just not enough real Men these days”..

..then I wouldn’t be writing this blog post.

I’d be sitting in the Bahamas dictating it to one of my loyal sweat shop workers who would transcribe it, before…

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Have you ever heard of confirmation bias?

It’s a psychology term used to describe the way we filter out any information which..

..doesn’t support how we see the world and allow in everything that does.

It’s a pretty nifty little trick that our minds use to make us feel good. And it’s pretty good at it too! But it’s also really good at hiding…

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I realise that being real with people can seem hard.

After all, if you’ve been running the same patterns of hiding who you are and what you stand for, for years and years, it can seem like a lot of work..

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I’m going to shoot straight from the hip here.

You may not like what I have to say, in fact, it may even offend you, but in my experience in nearly 4 years (3 and a half of those as a coach) in the community, this is what I’ve seen through every single guy.

Every single one.

There’s only one reason you NEED to learn pick up, and that’s:

Because you’re trying to trick her into liking you.

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It’s an eternal question.

You’ve met this great girl. You want to take her out on a date. So, what’s a good date location?

Where should you take her?

Well, when picking your date location, there’s something really important that you need to keep in mind.

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I know the pain that can go with getting out there, meeting new people, and not getting the success you want.

It can be rough.

Be I have to share something with you that will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I’m very lucky to have many incredibly beautiful women in my life.

This morning, I got to spend it with one of the most beautiful. She’s an..

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The inner game / outer game debate is constantly raging..

..but there’s one thing that is constantly being left out of it.

So to make sure you can make an informed decision about which direction you want to go, I thought I’d ask the questions that need to be asked.

If you walked into a store that sold machines that cut off your balls..

..would whether or not you bought one would be determined by how good the salesman was?

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I get a lot of guys asking me how to work out whether they have good or bad inner game..

..so I thought I’d put a little test together.

It’s pretty straight forward – 1 question and a 1 word answer.

Are you ready to find out how well you’re doing? Well. Here it is:

Are you currently experiencing everything you..

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There’s no doubt that you can change the way you behave around people through faking it.

And there’s no doubt that you can even get improve your results with women through doing this..

..but the question I’m going to ask today is can you ever actually make it through faking it?

The first stop on this little journey has to be: what is your definition of making it?

It’s only once you…

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Contrary to popular belief, developing self acceptance isn’t some kind of technique that you have to internalise or develop..

..it’s actually a by-product of a much deeper mechanism that’s been at play all your life.

We’re all looking for things in our life.

We want stuff, and when we get it we fell good. It’s a no brainer. Think about the car you’ve always wanted. If you got that .. how would you feel?

Or even, think about the girl of your dreams. If you got her, how would…

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I mean, it’s why you’re here.

Those beautiful creatures, running around the club, laughing, giggling, and shaking those sexy bodies.

So, how do you attract more women?

It’s a good question.

And before you try and answer it, you need to know about the are two different…

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I’m going to let you in on one of the best kept secrets in the dating arena.

The highly controversial technique for being able to approach a woman, anywhere, anytime.

It’s quite complicated, but be patient with me because when you master, you’ll be able to approach every woman you see.

So, here goes:

Step 1 – get close enough to her so she can hear you.
Step 2 – say what…

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I’ve been there more than once in my life…

I find the girl of my dreams.

She’s everything I’ve ever looked for.

We get into a relationship and everything going sweet.

Then it happens. You can feel it in the wind. Things just start to go down. And down. And…

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I’m about to let the cat out of the bag.

This is the one secret that’s going to transform your game forever.

It’s the one that’s going to elevate you from where you are, right now, to the level of God-like ability with women.

The dating gurus have been trying to prevent me from letting this out for years but now, they can’t stop me..

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This is a pretty common question, both inside and outside the seduction community.

We have eyes and so therefore, we’re visual creatures.

But before I answer this question, I want you to consider the most important factors in this equation:

Why you’re..

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The number one thing that I ALWAYS find, without fail, with guys who’re struggling with conversations..

..is that they’re missing the most vital point of a conversation – the other person.

All they’re focusing on is..

..what they could say next or where they could try and squeeze in…

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Alright, so you’ve come to fix this whole ‘women’ thing and you think you need to work on your inner game.

Sweet. But do you know what you’re actually working on?

The seduction community’s really good at telling people that their inner game needs work…

..but they don’t actually tell you what that is, so I’m going to break it down for you into a couple of very manageable pieces..

..and then show you how changing your inner game can ELIMINATE the need for learning ANY outer game..

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I had a really interesting conversation with my girlfriend about working out the other day..

..and it showed me something about attracting women that I was aware of, but never considered when it came to being in shape.

I don’t if you’ve seen any of the videos I’ve made (I don’t know why you’d sit through any of those lies…

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Opening lines, conversation topics, body language secrets..

Confidence techniques, all these tricks to pick up women…

Whilst they all seem like they’re the answer you’re looking for, what I’m about to show you is that they’re not only not going to get you the results you want..

..but they’re actually making you worse with women.

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Of course it does!

Just ask any woman – and almost every single, without fail, will say…

That she wants a lover who’s taller than her.

If you’re short, you’ve got almost no chance. Or so it seems…

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This one’s an easy one. No brainer.

Just learn some “techniques” and “seduction theory” – and you’re going to get a girlfriend quickly and easily. Really?

Well, that’s the story the seduction community has been feeding you for years.

But I consider this: If you have to hide…

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Over 30 minutes of video from the exclusive Attraction MasterClass Tour.

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I like boobs. A lot. They’re just great.

Who would’ve thought that 5 pounds of fat could be so alluring..

Who would’ve thought you would spend months, if not years, devoted to bringing that 5 pound lump with a nipple on it, back to your place?

You know that we deal primarily with long-term benefits of inner game on this blog…

…but I figured I should also give you a few short-term solutions which you can start using IMMEDIATELY…

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There are two very separate elements that go into your body language:

The physical and the mental.

The physical side is the part of your body language that you’ve just trained into yourself over the years.

This can include slumped shoulders, head down, poor eye contact.

The Internet is filled with advice on this kind of stuff, so I’m not going to waste your time with that…

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“Just be more confident!”

Your mum probably told you about just as many times as your friends did.

And, funnily enough, it’s one of the few pieces of information that has transcended the community from the general population.

But unless you’re very careful, developing confidence can be…

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1. Find the CORE ISSUE which is causing you to get nervous around girls.

Most guys completely miss that, and try to fix their nervousness by treating their surface symptoms.

For example, they will see a girl they like, think of approaching her…

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This one’s a bit of a weird post for me to write.

Mainly because rejection is something that I don’t believe in.

But a lot of guys are asking me about it, so I thought I’d share my thoughts on this big ‘rejection’ thing.

Firstly, I dislike the word “rejection” because…

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They say that being outcome dependent is bad for picking up women.

Which makes sense.

If you’re in a busy bar, and you’re trying to LOOK LIKE you’re having fun, and yet you’re only there to pick up a woman…

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I’m going to be honest with you here:

I have no idea how many different seduction methods there are out there.

If I was to take a conservative guess, I’d say maybe 100 or 200 … who knows?

It’s safe to say that there are many seduction methods … and I’m sure that every one works, at least for the guy who made it.

Otherwise he wouldn’t be…

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You Can Have DYNASTIES Of Women Lining Up To Approach You…

Being Drawn By Your UNSTOPPABLE Pulling Power…
And FIGHTING Between Themselves To Have A Chance With You…
And Pleading You To Take Them Home And NAIL Them.

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It’s the age old question… How soon is too soon to call a woman?

The next day? 3 days? 5 days?

A week?

You don’t want to scare the woman away by calling to early. But then again, you still want her to know…

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Well, of course you should.

There are definitely things that you need to learn in order to attract women.

And without them, you’re never going to get the success you’re looking for. EVER.

You’re going to relegated to her “let’s just be friends” zone…

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You probably think that you have a whole bunch of issues…

…Which are preventing you from experiencing success with women. For example:

- approaching women
- flirting with women
- dealing with shit tests
- running out of things to say, and the rest…

Good news is – your situation isn’t…

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And try RSD.

And some natural game at Pickup101.

Please subscribe to their newsletters, read their blogs, even try their products.

You owe it to yourself…

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I’m sure it seemed like the answer to your dreams:

A community full of guys who could teach you how to attract the women you wanted.

And not only that, but also how to get the happiness you wanted.

Those HB9′s and HB10′s who so elusively strut around the club. Finally, you’d…

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It was an arse that defied the very laws of nature from which it was created.

It was perfection, in denim shorts.

It was conclusive proof that God is indeed a Man and that yes, he loves us :-)

So, it’s time to…

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I wanted to slap him.

I wanted to snap at him with something like..

“Quit your whinging, grab your life by the balls and WAKE UP TO YOURSELF, MAN!”

But I don’t think that would’ve achieved anything close to what I wanted to achieve.

I went on a little road trip around Australia a little while ago and it was a very…

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I have a secret to tell you-

I like external validation. It feels really good.

And not just a little bit good, but a lot.

I know there’s a lot of community “gurus” telling you that you shouldn’t be externally validated, but I completely disagree – and let me show you why…

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The seduction community has been telling you to ‘be more Alpha’ for a long time.

They told you that by following their rules, you’ll become Alpha.

But before you more of your time reading ‘must have’, top secret…

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Long tanned legs? Check.

The tiniest black shorts you’ve ever seen? Check.

Beautiful dark hair? Check. We could have a winner here… But I wonder what she looks like from the front..

Check :-) I didn’t head out with a plan of meeting women…

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I was chilling with one of my mates the other day and he said something that really took me by surprise:

“Damn, you do some embarrassing shit!”

Apparently it’s embarrassing to approach a stunning little brunette with green eyes and curves that are out of this world who’s eating lunch with her family.

Who knew???

Well, to be perfectly honest, the old me…

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If you’re reading this blog, you probably want to fix your inner game.

Many people think that fixing their inner game is a bit like getting a seduction ‘superweapon’…

Which will give them the ability to attract women everywhere they go.

But there’s something I need to tell you. Here it…

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I’ve been hearing that all women in Sydney are bitches for a long time.

Last Saturday night got a first hand look at just how ‘bitchy’ these women are.

“She’s just a bitch, mate. I went over to her and she was just rude. Who does she think she is?? …

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I see so many beautiful women throughout my day.

Some blondes, some brunettes. I love them all. I used to want to be able to seduce all of them, too.

Every single one. And I tried.

So, so hard … sometime successfully. Sometimes not. And then I realised just how this impacted my…

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There are so many pickup schools out there these days.

And despite their different titles, flashy logo’s, and high budget marketing, they’re all actually teaching you the same thing.

Yes, yes, they all have different methods, seduction “secrets” and dating tips.

But the heart of everything they teach is the same: how to *ACT* as if you didn’t…

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ear of rejection is a very real issue.

Every guy I’ve ever coached have suffered from this in some way. I suffered from it.

And I tried countless techniques to deal…

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Here is Part 1 of the unexpected interview we did with Sean from Get Hitched a few days ago:

1. Totally Staged Opening Scene + “How To Become The Man Of Her Dreams”.

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Just be yourself..

Because you are perfect, you are amazing, you are incredible, you are everything a woman could ever desire in a Man.

All you have to do is let go of the barriers that are holding you back from showing..

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You could die, right now.

This very moment could be your last. If not this one, it could be the next, or the one right after.

Your heart could give out, or a truck could come careering through your front wall, or a massive…

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On Getting Into State..

Every day of your life, things are going to happen that make you feel good and things are going to happen that make you feel bad.

Shit just…

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Meditation is an extremely powerful tool in helping you ‘get into state’.

It helps clear away all the junk and creates a silence (setting you free from your own mental ‘chatter’ in…

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There’s a lot of advice available to you and I in the dating community: some of it is from spiritual backgrounds, some pick-up related, and other stuff comes from self-help community.

There are theories that align. Others will point you in opposite directions. And there are others that just plain contradict each other! So which way do you go?

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I had a really strange dream last night where my sister was going to die in 6 months and it got me thinking..

How I would change and what I would do if I was going to die in 6 months.

So, my question to…

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I thought you guys might enjoy this quote:

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is…

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David Deida is a sham. There. I said it. A sham.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a deep admiration for his work. It changed my life, he changed my life. But, in saying that, there’s a deeply ingrained flaw in his teaching that contradicts the core essence of his work. I’m going to expose that contradiction to you now.

I purchased David Deida’s The Way of the Superior Man nearly…

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Have you ever met one of those men who just seem to effortlessly radiate energy?

True alpha males. Men with presence. Men who ooze confidence, rather than just act confidently…

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There are 3 reasons why I don’t believe in dating rules, and they are:

1) Every rule that has ever been made has been bent, manipulated, and then broken. Every dating rule.

“Don’t show interest before she has, don’t…

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There are a couple of techniques you can use (which work MUCH better when you have a foundation of inner game under your belt) to flirt with women.

If you’ve ever been talking to a woman and felt the conversation fizzling out, this is for you…

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There seems to be a bit of confusion in the dating community about so-called ‘shit tests’.

..So let me give you some thoughts on how you can ‘pass’ them.

Hopefully by the time you finish reading this, you’ll be able to…

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The essense of natural game is being able to flow without using routines, yet still get you success with women that you’re looking for.

The million dollar question that no-one is answering is…

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I had a lot of guy ask me recently, “Why should I bother with inner game?”

So, I thought I’d share the answer with you guys here.

The success with women you achieve is, as far as you can control it, determined by…

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Everyone wants more pleasure. Some people try and pretend they don’t, but they’re getting secret pleasure from that denial.

Everyone wants more..

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I’m not an attractive guy. I’m not cool, I’m not suave, I’m not fun, I’m not exciting, and I’m definitely not…

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I’m very fortunate in that through my work, I get to meet some incredible people.

Some are more aware of their skills than others and today, I’ve had the pleasure of interacting with the most skillful Man who ever lived..

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Having the mentality that the world is abundantly full of the things you desire is an incredibly empowering way to make yourself more attractive…

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A new girl just started to work in my bar.

She happens to be very cute (JimmyMac can back me up on this one), and I’ve been chatting to her quite…

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This is a short live recording of the Man, David Deida talking to a group of aspiring pickup artists. He discusses PUA philosophy and gives his…

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This concept of ‘being needy’ around women is one thing that’s thrown around the community fairly regularly.

I’m pretty sure that we all know the benefits of not being needy around women – but how do you actually do it?

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What’s one of the ‘secrets’ to improving at a rapid pace, and avoiding growth plateaus?

Go out. Approach women. Flirt with…

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I used to run out of thing to say, all the time. It used to kill me.

I’d do OK with the girls I wasn’t that interested in, but as soon as you put me in front of a woman who I REALLY wanted…

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Fuck Inner Game.

August 3, 2009 by

Yeah, that’s right. Fuck it. It’s all bullshit anyway.

You don’t NEED it, heaps of people are fucking hot chicks, right now, without ever hearing of inner game so why should you bother?

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Many of those ‘gurus’ out there are going to get angry with me for telling you this.

It’s the dirty little secret that they don’t want you to know…

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Have you ever wondered why it is that alpha males seem to attract women very easily?

And those who are not alpha males always feel like attracting women us an uphill struggle?

And why is it that other men (who are not as alpha) seem to like alpha males, accept them, and follow their lead?

So what if I told you that you could become one of those alpha male…

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Why following seduction community dogma will only take you so far. And what can you do before it’s too late.

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Want to know the secret to Frame Control?

I’m not talking some kind of half arse, incomplete piece of marketing hype little secrets here, it’s the real deal.

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Getting blown out sucks.

I remember when I first started out in this ‘getting better with women’ stuff I used to get blown out A LOT.

When I say A LOT I mean enough to make…

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Here is why you experience the good-ol’ approach anxiety:

(And no, it’s not one of those ‘evolutionary psychology’ explanations. Rather, something that helps you get rid of it, right now).

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Direct game has become the new buzz word in the seduction community.

Everyone is saying ‘foret lines, forget routines. Just be direct!’ And you know what? I couldn’t agree more. What they’re not telling you, though, is…

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For starters, I’ve never liked the word ‘sarging’. It conjures up all these images of creepy, seedy, old men trying to hypnotise women into GO DOWN ON ME INNER GAME PENIS EXTENSION (did that work?) sleeping with them. A lot of guys use the word to feel part of the group so they can become [...]

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I see this girl, and not just any girl. THE girl. I really want to talk to her but she’s with friends / talking to another guy / people are watching / she might reject me /any number of excuses. What do I do? If you’ve ever asked been in this situation, you need to [...]

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I used to have approach anxiety. BAD. It used to hold me back in many areas of my life. I’d searched for answer in lines, routines, and techniques, but it never really helped. Then I learnt something that removed it from my life and I was never held back again. In order to get rid [...]

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This footage was recorded during an exclusive inner game seminar we ran recently in Sydney.. And no money in the world would get you admission into that room. The seminar’s purpose was to sharpen up the skills of a small group of senior seduction community members whom we hand-picked to become student field instructors. And [...]

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I have a secret to tell you. I don’t know how you’re going to take this but it needs to be said: You are not attractive. But, on top of this, you’re also not interesting, fun, or exciting. I know this must sound like I’m just being an arsehole but I’m not. I’m actually pointing [...]

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Getting her to like you is a waste of time.

Sure she’s beautiful, and I bet you’ve never met anyone else like her before either, but trying to get her to like you isn’t going to help you get what you…

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Approach anxiety is simply a set of thoughts that run through your head. Here’s the top three things you can use to defeat your approach anxiety. But, as a special bonus, I’m also going to give you the 1 ‘secret weapon’! Woo. Trick 1: Talk To Everyone. The thoughts in you head tell you that [...]

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Why Inner Game?

March 19, 2009 by

Inner game has every answer you’ve been searching for. Big statement, I know. There’s so many gurus out there telling you need their outer game techniques. And their methods, their routines, their ‘secrets of seduction’. Well, I’m about to show you just how wrong they are. I’m not going to waste your time with in [...]

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Don’t blame him, he didn’t mean to.

He just didn’t know any better. I’m sure he had your best intentions in mind but he just wasn’t really attuned to what was going on.

And I know that what I’m saying here is controversial, but let me show…

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If you want to work out just how much your inner game is holding you back, picture this:

You step into the bar. Flashing lights, thumping music, ladies dancing and guys…

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I’ve coached hundreds of guys in my journey and one of the most common statements I hear is:

- ‘I don’t want to have to wait till I go out to a bar to meet women’

I usually say in return…

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