You may not like what I have to say, in fact, it may even offend you, but in my experience in nearly 4 years (3 and a half of those as a coach) in the community, this is what I’ve seen through every single guy.

Every single one.

There’s only one reason you NEED to learn pick up, and that’s:

Because you’re trying to trick her into liking you.

Yes, I used the work ‘trick’. My other favourite words are ‘manipulate’ or ‘deceive’.

You’re learning pickup because there’s parts of you that you want to hide and parts of you that you want to accentuate.

You’re giving her an incomplete picture specifically to make her like you more than she normally would if she got to know the real you.

You’re withholding the truth, you’re telling her a story, you’re hiding who you really are so that she’ll want to be with you.

Why are you doing this?

Because you’re trying to make her responsible for you happiness. You perceive that she has something that you need in order to get what you want out of life.

This runs deeper than just ‘getting’ things from women. This runs through your entire life and is at the core of all your issues. This is the reason you need to learn pickup.

The only reason you’re stuck in your head is because you’re trying to hide parts of who you are and accentuate others so that she’ll be attracted to you.

The only reason you run out of things to talk about is because you’re trying to come up with things to talk about that you think she wants to listen to.

The only reason you don’t naturally qualify is because you’re so focussed on trying to meet her standards that whether or not she meets yours doesn’t even make it into your mind.

The only reason you need to learn to lead is because you’re trying to make her get her into your life and you’re afraid that if you do lead, she wont follow.

The only reason you need to learn to escalate is because you’re trying to get her into your life and you’re afraid that if you do escalate, she might reject you.

The only reason you need to DHV is because you’re trying to impress her with specific things in your life.

If you weren’t relying on her to get what you want out of life then you wouldn’t need to learn pickup. Ever.

If you change who you’re making responsible for the fulfilment and satisfaction that you get out of life then things would be very different.

The primary thing that would change is that instead of sitting around on computers trying to memorise the next seduction secret, or out ‘in field’ trying to internalise these complex structures through practise set after practise set, you’d be out living your life for yourself.

You’d be doing activities that were intrinsically fulfilling and rewarding.

You be taking responsibility for you happiness, you sense of fulfilment, your excitement, passion, and energy.

You’d be creating a life that excites you when you wake up and leaves you feeling rewarded and fulfilled when you go to sleep. The fact that your life is full, exciting, rewarding, and incredible without her, changes everything.

Instead of walking up to women and trying to make them responsible for the happiness and fulfilment you’re looking for in your life..

..you’d be walking up to them trying to work out if they were the kind of person you want to bring into your happy and fulfilling life.

Instead of being stuck in your head trying to come up with ways to make her attracted to you, you’d freely express who you are, openly and unashamedly and see if she was the kind of person you click with.

Instead of being racked with anxiety trying to because you’re terrified that she’s going to reject you, you’d be excited for the possibility of finding someone who you really like.

Instead of running out of things to talk about because you’re just focussed on saying things that you think she wants to hear, you’d talk passionately and openly about all the incredible things that you love doing because they’re what you love.

Instead of having to try and ‘internalise’ qualification, you’d be living a powerful, passionate and free life and you’d naturally have standards about who you brought into it.

Instead of having to learn how to lead to try and show her that you know what you want in life and are willing to go after it, you’d naturally do it because that’s the way you life your life.

Instead of having to spend months and months learning how to try and ‘do attraction’, you’d just naturally be attractive.

By changing the underlying motivation that you live your life by, you’d never have to try and internalise these complex structures and techniques.

You’d never HAVE to learn pickup to have success with women. You could be real, open, genuine and authentic with women and have women be very attracted to you.

You could become the kind of guy that all these seduction methods were based off.

Am I saying that there’d be nothing you could do to change your interactions with women?

Of course not.

There’s still plenty of fun little things you can do to give her more excitement, passion, and energy.

What I’m saying is that instead of having to learn all of these different things to take your success from very poor to good, you’d be able to take your success from good to incredible.

And in no way am I claiming that changing the underlying motivation is going to make you amazing with women. It simply removes the necessity to learn the game stuff because you do it naturally.

Doing this wont make you AMAZING with women, just like memorising and ‘internalising’ all these game concepts wont make you AMAZING with women.

There’s a deeper element that has to change before you’re going to see the results that you want to. I’ll talk about that when I get a chance to write another post.

If you want be able to let go of all the learning, practising and internalising and start having real and genuine connections with real and genuine women, then this is what you need to change.

How do you change it? Well, that’s another story all together but just consider this for now.

LoGun

You’ve met this great girl. You want to take her out on a date. So, what’s a good date location?

Where should you take her?

Well, when picking your date location, there’s something really important that you need to keep in mind.

Firstly, I’m assuming that you’ve already worked out that this girl is someone you want to go on a date with.

You’ve chatted with her, you like her, you click with her, and now you’re going to take it up a notch and spend some quality time together.

So, where do you go?

How about min-putt-putt? How does that sound to you for a date location? You could prove how skillful you are by beating her by a huge margin.

How about the art gallery? How does that sound to you? You could prove how well read you are by talking for hours about art.

How about dinner?

How does that sound to you? You could prove how much money you have by buying expensive food.

They all sound like great places, but there all missing the one key point..

She’s not going out with you because of the things you’re doing together or how much money you have..

(well, she might be but that’s more to do with your choice of woman than anything)

..or how good you are at golf.

She’s going out with you because she wants to spend time WITH YOU. She’s going out because she wants to know who you are on a deep level.

Sure, the date location is a bonus – but it’s not why she’s there.

The date location is just a context she’s using just so that she can get to know you.

Some of the most incredible dates I’ve ever had with women have been in the supermarket. Others have been in the video store.

Not watching the videos, but actually running around the store. It’s got nothing to do with where you are and everything do with how you feel there.

So which is the best date location?

Pick a date location where you feel safe and comfortable expressing who you really are.

Pick somewhere that’s going to allow you to relax and let out the real you. She’s there to see who you really are – so chose a space that’s going to allow you to show her.

It might be the golf, it might be the gallery, it might be birthing calves at an animal hospital, but whatever you choose, make sure it’s somewhere that’s going to help you really express who you are and what you love.

If you don’t, then even if the date goes well, she’s only going to like you for the person you’re pretending to be..

…rather than the person you really are.

And every minute you spend with her, you’re just going to have to keep pretending.

How much fun does that sound to you?

Now, the other key point is to remember that you’re going out with her to find out what she’s like as well.

If the thing you do allows you to express who you are but gives her no space to express who she is then you’re going to know nothing about her at the end.

So whilst it’s important that it’s a space where you feel comfortable, make sure it’s a space where she feels open as well.

Good luck!

LoGun

It can be rough.

Be I have to share something with you that will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I’m very lucky to have many incredibly beautiful women in my life.

This morning, I got to spend it with one of the most beautiful. She’s an incredible woman by all standards. If you saw her in a club, you’d probably wet yourself.

I know because I did. Just a little (It’s actually a funny story about how we met but I might save that for another time).

She’s stunningly beautiful. I’m not into blondes, but she’s got that classic northern European ‘blonde hair, blue eyes, great… Umm… Personalities’ thing going on.

Simply stunning.

She’s strong, bubbly, and has a radiant personality. She could have just about any Man she’s ever wanted. And you know what? She’s single.

And has been for over a year.

Did you hear that? A YEAR.

Sure, a bit of this has to do with the fact that she’s only 20 and loves to go out partying. But the majority of it is because she simply hasn’t met Man who’s worth settling for.

As we were chilling out over our breakfast this morning, she told me that if she met a Man who was so strong, so powerful..

So directed and passionate that she knew he was a one of a kind, then she’d give it all up and settle down, right now.

But she hasn’t. And so she keeps going out, every weekend, in search of this illusive ‘Man’.

The reason I’m telling you this is twofold.

Firstly, it’s to let you know that there’s still some amazing women out there in the world who are looking for the Man of their dreams.

They still want to find that incredible guy to create an incredible relationship with.

And secondly, it’s that she wants the same thing you do.

She wants you to be powerful, she wants you to have ambitions, she wants you to realise your potential, and she wants to come along for the ride.

She wants you to take her on the adventure that you choose your life to be.

She wants you to be the greatest you could ever possibly be, and then she wants to be swept away by courage, determination, and strength.

She wants you to be great. And then she wants to be allowed to be part of that greatness too.

So live your life, be powerful, be amazing, fill it with all the joy and wonder you’ve ever wanted, and give her the gift of being part of your journey.

LoGun

..but there’s one thing that is constantly being left out of it.

So to make sure you can make an informed decision about which direction you want to go, I thought I’d ask the questions that need to be asked.

If you walked into a store that sold machines that cut off your balls..

..would whether or not you bought one would be determined by how good the salesman was?

Do you think there’s any amount of skills or sales techniques he could learn to convince you that you needed one of those machines in your life?

If you’re anything like any Man I’ve ever met, you’re going to answer no.

So, why not?

Why aren’t you going to buy a ball removing machine, regardless of the skill level of the salesman?

It’s really not a hard question to answer: because it’s simply a product that you don’t want.

If you’re anything like me, you like your balls and you like them where they are, thank you very much.

Now, I’m not asking this because I’m thinking about opening a shop to sell ball removing machines and wanted to do some market research..

..I’m asking because this issue is one at the heart one of the biggest draw backs of the ‘outer game’ path.

Learning outer-game is all about learning how to sell yourself better. It’s about taking what you have right now, wrapping it up in a nicer and prettier package, and trying to move it out the door.

The reason that a lot of guys don’t get the success that they want from just using outer game is that regardless of the sales skills..

..the product they’re selling is still a product that the women they want still don’t want to buy.

It doesn’t matter how nice the box is for this ball removing machine, you’re still not going to buy it.

It’s not until the product is something that you actually desire that the salesman’s skill comes into it.

And, if the product is really that unique and you desire it that much, the salesman can even be bad at what he does and you’re still going to buy it.

What if they added a few features to the machine? What if they made it so the machine could also record TV programs you really wanted to see?

What if it could also tune your car?

Would you be more likely to buy it?

What if it learned to cook and could produce great meals on demand? Are you more interested yet?

Now, what about if it gave amazing blow jobs as well? Would it matter how good the salesman was then?

Now, what if, on top of all that, the machine made you feel loved, excited, passionate, and desirable? How much sales skill is going to be required to get you to buy one then?

This is where inner game comes into it.

Inner game is about changing the product to something that someone desires. It’s about making the product something that people actually want in their life so that sales skills can actually come into play.

But more than that, if you really work on your inner game, you can get to a place where learning sales skills becomes unnecessary.

Now, you have a simple choice to make.

Would you prefer to spend you time learning how to sell a product a that people don’t want or would you prefer to spend your time creating a product that people actually want so you didn’t have to bother selling it?

Your choice.

LoGun

..so I thought I’d put a little test together.

It’s pretty straight forward – 1 question and a 1 word answer.

Are you ready to find out how well you’re doing? Well. Here it is:

Are you currently experiencing everything you want out of life?

Yes / No.

It’s that simple.

If your answer is “Yes”, then your inner game is working for you and you don’t need to do anything about it.

If your answer is “No”, then your inner game isn’t working for you and you could benefit from changing it.

If you answered “Kind of…” or maybe or “it’s a shade of gray”..

..then it’s still not a firm “Yes” and you could benefit from changing it.

But if you didn’t answer “Yes”, does that mean it’s your inner game is bad? No, because it can’t be.

At no point in time is your inner game “bad” or “good”.

It’s simply your inner game. It’s simply a map in your head that you’re running. At some point in time, it may have helped you get what you want out of life..

..but if it’s not helping you get what you want out of life, then it’s currently not productive and could benefit from changing.

So, are you experiencing everything you’ve ever wanted out of life? And are you going to benefit from changing your inner game?

LoGun

And there’s no doubt that you can even get improve your results with women through doing this..

..but the question I’m going to ask today is can you ever actually make it through faking it?

The first stop on this little journey has to be: what is your definition of making it?

It’s only once you lay that down that things really become clear. So, what is your definition of making it? What’s you goal?

If your definition of ‘making it’ is just being able to have empty, hollow and meaningless sex with women you don’t really know, then yes, you can make it.

Faking it can get you all the way there.

You can have insincere, and fake relationships with many beautiful women if you get REALLY good.

If that’s you thing, then that’s sweet. You can definitely make it by faking it. And I’m not going to judge you here.

It’s your path and you need to walk it in the way that you want. If this is you, then please don’t read on. You’re not going to get anything out of this.

It’s just going to be a waste of time.

But, if you’re looking for something more, something real, genuine, open, and honest, then no, you can never ‘make it’ through faking it. I’ll show you why…

The whole idea of faking it is to take a set of action and mindsets that you aren’t currently using and use them to replace your current actions.

When you achieve this, you’re said to have ‘internalised’ these actions.

How does that stop you from ever making it?

You can ‘internalise’ all these actions, you can pretend all you want, but at no point in time are those actions going to be your actions. They’re never going to be the real you.

They’re always just going to be a set of tricks that you use to make women like you.

Sure you might sleep with more women but if you’re looking to be able to form real and meaningful relationships with incredible women, then you’re not going to get anywhere.

How are you going to make real, genuine connections with women when you’re not being real and genuine with them?

How can they ever truly love the real you when you’re hiding the real you behind tricks?

Also, think about the kind of women you’re going to attract if you just changed your actions.

If a woman’s not attracted to you and all you do is change your surface level to make her attracted to you, what does it say about her? It says that she’s the kind of person who’s only interested in superficial things.

She’s only interested in the surface level parts of you.

She’s clearly not interested in the deeper, real, genuine side of who you are, she just likes you for the tricks you do.

If you only change the surface level to attract women then you’re only going to attract women who’re only interested in the surface level.

If you haven’t worked with the deeper core layers and learned how to express them, then you’re not going to attract women who like you for who you really are.

Do you want to be with women who only like you for the car you own?

Do you want to be with women who only like you for the money you have?

Do you want to be with women who only hang out with you because of the parties you can get them into?

Then why do you want to be with women who like you for the people you copy?

Why do you want to be with women who like you for the person you pretend to be?

Now, I know a lot of guys take this path because they don’t think they’re attractive. They don’t think they can’t be real with a woman and have her be into them.

And I know, from personal experience, that there’s definitely a part of most guys that isn’t’ very attractive to most women.

But I also know that there’s a very big part of guys that women are attracted to. It’s inside guys, right now, they just don’t know how to get in touch with it.

And this is where inner game work comes in.

This is where understanding yourself and taking control of your life comes into play. It’s about finding the part that women are attracted to because YOU’RE attracted to it.

It’s about building the kind of life that people are naturally drawn to because you’re drawn to it.

It’s about creating a life that’s so fulfilling, rewarding and captivating that you can’t help be excited and passionate about you’re world and sharing it with others.

It’s not about using tricks to pretend to be the kind of guy that women are attracted to, it’s about finding the parts of you that women are attracted to and expressing them openly.

Whoever said that you can’t be a natural simply didn’t understand what was going on underneath. You can. It’s inside you now.

And through inner game work, you can let it out.

There are some people who say that you just use routines and techniques as training wheels, and then once you’re comfortable, then you let them go.

If that’s your perspective, then that’s fine, but consider this:

What skill are you actually training with these ‘training wheels’? You’re training the skill of lying to people. You’re training the skill of trying to manipulate people.

You’re training the skill hiding who you really are and reinforcing the idea that you’re not an interesting enough person to be worthy of talking to these people.

Lets say you spend the next 6 months using these training wheels, what have you actually learned through this time?

That people are going to talk to you only if you have though up some interesting things to talk about before hand?

That attractive women are scary and dangerous creatures who you can’t be real around? Is that this kind of skill set you want?

Is that the kind of skills you really want to internalise?

Before you start on your journey, stop and work out what kind of future you want. Then you’ll know which path is right for you.

LoGun

..it’s actually a by-product of a much deeper mechanism that’s been at play all your life.

We’re all looking for things in our life.

We want stuff, and when we get it we fell good. It’s a no brainer. Think about the car you’ve always wanted. If you got that .. how would you feel?

Or even, think about the girl of your dreams. If you got her, how would you feel?

Now, if you’re reading this, I’m going to guess that there’s things in your life that you want that you don’t have.

Correct? If you had everything then you wouldn’t be reading this, you’d be playing with everything you’ve ever wanted.

And because there’s things you think you want but don’t have, it’s pretty hard to accept yourself, as you are, right?

But what if that changed?

What if you found a way to get everything that you’d ever wanted. Do you think you’d be able to accept yourself then?

You can probably guess where I’m going with this.

Achieving self acceptance is all about proving to yourself that you can get what you want.

When you can do that, then you will accept yourself as you are. If you can’t get yourself what you want, then you’re not going to accept yourself.

Think of it like this: if you walked into a car yard and told the salesman that you were going off road through forest and sand dunes and you needed a car, and he tried to sell you a sports car, are you going to accept it?

Of course not. Because it’s not going to do the job you want it to do. It can’t get you what you want.

You’re going to want a big 4WD. It’s pretty simple.

But lets say your situation was different. You walk into the car yard but this time you’re not going to be going off road through forests and sand dunes.

This time you’ve moved into a cramped apartment block in the city with no off street parking and petrol prices went through the roof.

If he tried to sell you a 4WD are you going to want it? Are you going to accept it? No, because it’s not going to be able to get you what you want.

It’s not going to be easy to park and it’s going to chew through the petrol.

If something is able to achieve it’s purpose then you will accept it. If it can’t, then you wont. It’s not rocket surgery.

This is the secret here. If you can show yourself that you can get everything you’ve ever wanted, then it’s natural that you’ll accept yourself.

This is the point where most guys say “Well, so you’re saying that in order to achieve self acceptance, I have to be able to walk into a bar and be able to get any chick?”

Well, that all depends…

But before I touch on that, let’s take a step back and touch on the most important part of this whole discussion: what are you looking for?

Self acceptance happens when you’re able to get yourself what you’re looking for. So what are you looking for?

I know this might sound like a big question, so before you answer, consider this..

The core of any desire is a feeling.

For everything that you’re looking for in life, you’re not actually after that object, you’re after the feeling that you’ve associated with that object.

Here’s a little exercise for you to try.

Write down a list of everything that you can think of that you desire: hot women, money, cars, power, control, whatever you want.

Then, after you’ve written down that list, imagine yourself with each one and pay attention to how you’d feel if you got it.

Write the answer down next to each one, then see if you can find a common theme.

Seriously, do it. It’ll open your eyes.

……….

Come on…

……….

DUUUU EEEEET.

………

I’m about to spoil it for you…

……..

It was Aristotle that first said that happiness was the pursuit of life.

Everything else in life was a means to an end, happiness was the only end in itself.

The word you came up with might be different to ‘happiness’ but for everyone, it’s some feeling of desirable emotional state.

Now that’s out of the way, lets get back to that question:

“Are you saying I have to be able to walk into a bar and get any chick?”

No, I’m not. I’m saying that you need to be able to get yourself what you want, when you want it to develop self acceptance.

It’s only that you’ve associated happiness with getting a hot chick that you think you need to do that to develop self acceptance.

Getting a hot chick to feel happy is part of one of three primary pathways to happiness.

I’m going to go through the three VERY briefly here. They might make sense to you, they might not.

If you haven’t experienced them, it’s kind of hard to imagine how they would feel but don’t worry. It’s not an issue. Just being aware that they exist can be of huge benefit.

Also, there’s nothing wrong with any of these pathways. They’re just a way of looking at the world. I’m not having a go at anyone for using any of them, I’m simply pointing them out.

GETTING

‘Getting’ is the label I use to describe the pathway where you think that you need to get things from the external environment to be happy (yes, I’m very creative with the labels).

This is usually in the form of all the fun things that the great marketing machines of our western society throw at us..

..money, jewellery, holidays, cars, women, big houses, all those things that we’re supposed to collect so that we can finally be happy.

The underlying basis of this pathway is that the person perceives that their emotional state is controlled by the external environment and so to be happy, you then have to take control of the external environment.

When you have power over the external environment, then you will have power over your emotional state.

DOING

‘Doing’ is the label I use to describe the pathway where you think that you simply do the things you enjoy to get the happiness you want out of life.

This in the form of happiness that comes from undertaking activities that are intrinsically rewarding to you, regardless of what other people think of them.

It might be dancing, singing, football, cards, whatever it is that brings you happiness simply from taking action, regardless of the outcome you achieve.

(If it’s based on the outcome, it falls into the ‘getting’ category because you’re relying on your ability to control the external environment).

The underlying basis of this pathway is that the person perceives that relying on the external environment will never get them what they desire and they realise that in order to have the happiness they want, they have to do what they want to do.

They don’t place responsibility for their emotional state on anyone else’s shoulders or on any outcome, they simply take control of their happiness.

CREATING

‘Creating’ is the label I use to describe the pathways where the happiness you experience comes from making the world a ‘better’ place.

Now, when I say ‘better’, I mean increasing the amount of love and happiness for every person in the world, regardless of who they are, what they do, what they look like, etc…

A person at this place has all the happiness that they need and desires to share it with those around them.

They know that happiness comes from within and so therefore they don’t need anything outside themselves to be happy.

They can simply give happiness and love freely to those around them without requiring anything in return.

Now, here’s the clincher: what do you think the different obstacles and benefits to experiencing happiness that each pathway produces?

If you’re sense of happiness is based on getting things from outside you, how much control do you have over that? How easily are you able to control your happiness? How easy would it be to develop self acceptance?

And how do you think this effects your interactions with women? If you think you need to get her to be happy, how needy, clingy, and outcome dependent are you going to be?

But what if you followed the doing pathway? How much control do you think you’d have over your levels of happiness? How easy would it be to develop self acceptance?

And how do you think this would effect your interactions with women? How needy, clingy, and outcome dependent would you be?

But what if you followed the creating pathway? How much control do you think you’d have over your levels of happiness? How easy would it be to develop self acceptance?

And how do you think this would effect your interactions with women? How needy, clingy, and outcome dependent do you think you’d be?

So, this is how you develop self acceptance. You prove to yourself that you can get what you want out of life.

When you can give yourself everything that you’ve looked for, then self acceptance is a by product. All the issues you face in developing self acceptance are due to the different pathways you’re using.

Change the pathway, change your levels of self acceptance. Simple as that.

LoGun

Those beautiful creatures, running around the club, laughing, giggling, and shaking those sexy bodies.

So, how do you attract more women?

It’s a good question.

And before you try and answer it, you need to know about the are two different paths you can go down.

Neither one is better or worse – they’re just different with different sets of benefits and draw backs.

And before you go on your journey, you need to decide which path do you want to go down to attract more women into your life.

Path 1: Pretend to be someone you’re not just so people will hang out with you – The Pick Up Artist (PUA)

This is by far and away the most popular path because it promises so much in the short term.

The PUA path involves simply learning a bunch of lines and/or seduction techniques and then using them to try and attract more women.

You could literally learn something to say to women today and then walk out the door and apply it.

Sound good? Well, hang on a second there.

There’s something that they don’t tell you.

If you just change what you’re like on your surface level, what kind of women are you going to attract?

Shallow women who’re only interested in your surface level characteristics.

If you just change your surface level, what kind of relationships are you going to have? Shallow and meaningless relationships.

If you just change your surface level, how long are these women going to stick around? Just long enough till they find someone who’s got a shinier and prettier surface level.

Does that sound like the kind of life you want?

Lying to attractive women and hiding who you really are, just so you can have meaningless short term relationships?

If so, great. Go mental.

If you want to know where to find guy who can help you with that, download Seduction Community Sucks by clicking on the link under this post.

In the back, there’s a whole bunch of names and websites for guys who can help you down that path.

That’s as much as I can help you with on that path, but there is another way to attract more women.

Path 2: Find who you really are and what you stand for and find those women who are attracted to you for who you really are – unlocking your potential.

This path doesn’t get anywhere near as much attention as the PUA path.

It’s not full of lines and quick tricks you can just throw at women and hope they’ll come running..

..it doesn’t allow you to hide behind more and more layers of lies, it involves you finding your true self, breaking apart the layers that you’re using to hide behind, and letting it out.

It involves being real with people.

And that can be scary.

I was scared when I first started but I knew it was the only way. I wanted a life filled with people who I really liked and who liked me for who I was.

I wanted a life full of attractive, real, genuine, loving and caring women and men who I could be real, and genuine with.

I wanted a life full of people who I could laugh with, play with, go and hang out with – without having to worry about what I should say or who I should be around them.

I wanted to be me, I wanted them to be themselves, and I wanted to have the time of my life.

Sure, I wanted to attract more women.

That’s a no brainer.

But I wanted to attract more women who I could make real connections with rather than just use for meaningless sex.

I wanted to attract more women who I could actually have a real conversation with about the things that were important to me, rather than just having to tell someone else’s stories to keep her amused.

So before you go down this path of trying to attract more women, ask yourself:

“What kind of life do I want to build?”

I think the path you choose will be obvious.

LoGun

The highly controversial technique for being able to approach a woman, anywhere, anytime.

It’s quite complicated, but be patient with me because when you master, you’ll be able to approach every woman you see.

So, here goes:

Step 1 – get close enough to her so she can hear you.

Step 2 – say what you’re thinking.

Did you get that?

You might want to read it a few times to make sure it sinks it. Yes, it’s highly technical but after months of internalisation, then you should have mastered it ;-)

Now, I know a whole lot of people will disagree with me and say there are things you have to learn to approach women.

They say you have to learn how to open indirectly, you have to learn how not to lean in, you have to learn interesting things to talk about, and all that jazz..

..but think about this:

What kind of women are you trying to bring into your life? And what kind of relationship do you want to have with them?

Are you looking for shallow women who’re attracted to you for the person you pretend to be, to have meaningless and empty relationships with?

If so, great!

I’d highly recommend learning some lines and techniques to mask your true self with.

You can actually get really good at getting women to like you for someone you’re not by going down this path. It may take a long time but you can get there.

Or would you prefer to meet interesting, genuine women who’re attracted to you for who you really are, to have deep and meaningful relationships with them?

If so, then how could they ever be attracted to you for who you are if you don’t show them who you are?

How could you form real and genuine relationships with them when you’re not real and genuine with them?

You can go down the path of learning tricks to approach women, but then you’ll never be more than a guy who uses tricks to approach women.

And then you’ll only ever meet women who’re naive enough to fall for your tricks. And you’ll only ever have relationships based on trickery.

Is that the kind of life you want?

So, how do you want to approach women?

LoGun

I find the girl of my dreams.

She’s everything I’ve ever looked for.

We get into a relationship and everything going sweet.

Then it happens. You can feel it in the wind. Things just start to go down. And down. And down…

Eventually there’s nothing left to salvage except a box of your possessions left lying on her door step.

If you’ve ever been in this position and wondered how to keep her (or get her back for that matter), then this is the article for you.

Time in the seduction community usually follows a common trend: you spend months and months developing your openers, your routines..

..all your techniques painstakingly and then finally, you meet an amazing girl! You’ve got her number, and you know it’s time to call.

Nervously, you pick up the phone: “Hi…”

It goes much better than you thought – she remembers you, in fact, she actually sounds like she wants to go out with you!

Dinner, drinks, whatever takes your fancy, laughing and flirting. It’s so on it’s ridiculous…

“It’s time to go, come with me.”

“OK…”

Back at your place: fumbling with the keys, a look, a glance, passion, intensity, clothing strewn over the entire house and broken furniture everywhere…

…You finally collapse together, sweaty and exhausted just as the sun begins to rise.

Waking up the next morning, it still feels like a dream.

Her naked body, pressed against yours.Those lips, those eyes, wow… This girl is one of a kind. You’ve never been so happy… Then, from nowhere, the little voice in your head starts to fire up:

“You’ve got her, now how are you going to keep her?”

If you’ve ever had this nagging voice cause you doubt, this is a secret you need to learn.

Now, there are lots of different techniques out there for keeping her interested. Playing herd to get, being high status, all of those little games but really, they’re just the symptoms.

If you want to never have to deal with this issue again, you need to get to the core.

Lets have a look at that.

So why would she want to stay with you? What could possibly convince her that you’re the kind of guy to spend more and more time with?

The answer is so simple: the same way you got her!

She fell for you because of the amazing, fun, open guy that you are, why would you change that when you get into a relationship?

I see so many guys completely change who they are and what they do when the find the girl of their dreams.

They start trying so desperately hard to make sure she doesn’t leave and you know what? It’s the one big thing that drives her away!

It sucks all the excitement, all the adventure, all the passion out of the relationship.

Now I’m not saying ‘just ignore her…”

But always keep your focus on the most important person in the relationship – you. You need to do what you need to do to make yourself happy.

You have to come to the table with a full cup.

Otherwise, you’re going to be relying on her to make you happy and that’s completely unfair.

How would you feel if someone made you solely responsible for their happiness? Does that sound like a fun place to be? No, I don’t think so either.

Keep being free, keep opening, keep growing, keep living your life and take her on your adventure with you!

LoGun