Author Archive for Steven
Steven is a Master Instructor at Attraction Institute. He specialises in inner game and daygame. His nails are nice and yes, they are real.
On Seeking Validation.
A little earlier I was sitting in a busy cafe behind my laptop..
..when I noticed something odd about myself.
When I opened up a tab with the latest edition of Harvard Business Review, I also became very aware if someone in the vicinity saw what I was reading, they’d be impressed.
And I noticed myself relax and become present. It’s like there was more of me to take…
Are You Living TOO Comfortably?
“How are you?”
“I’m Good.”
Such a standard greeting and such a token, throwaway answer. I bet you said it yourself – at least twice today.
But what’s behind “I’m good”? Well, let’s try this on:
When you say “I’m good”, is it fair to say that most of the time what you’re really saying is..
Why Love Songs Are Rubbish.
I was in the gym the other day, looking at myself in the mir.. I mean, pushing my boundaries, when a strange videoclip began to play on the plasma screens.
It was a shirtless man by the name of Steelheart, singing a pop dance love song, in which he reassured…
Is There ANYONE Out There?
You know a bunch of people. Some of them you like, others you don’t really like.
Some are nice. Some are angry. Some are annoying. Some are good. Some are bad. And so on…
If you don’t like some people, you tend to move away from them.
And if you like them, you tend to keep them…
Simple Strategies For An Effective Life.
I haven’t written here – in a long time!
Why not? Well, that’s easy.
Somewhere between launching Endgame with Leigh, making headway at my new dayjob..
..and starting a new project with Leigh which will empower…
How To Lose A Great Job .. And Find A Better One.
A couple of weeks ago I’ve blogged about about getting great jobs.
Point of that story was to show how I went from surviving at work (and often getting fired) to getting a job I really wanted – and loving it.
The access to that was to begin craving challenge in my job. I wanted to get a job which I was…
If You Want To Change The World .. Love A Woman.
This poem will show why depth of connection prevails over number of marks on your bedpost:
Do You Know The Truth?
Consider this: truth is made, rather than found..
What do you hold as “true”? Do you realise that another person could have a different perspective on your truth, and call it a “truth” also?
Which one of you is right? Who is wrong?
Seeking Out Discomfort.
Going out of your way to find uncomfortable situations isn’t natural, but it’s essential…
At work, we spend hours (and millions of dollars seeking a place we can defend, a market position and sinecure we can feel safe in…
How To Get A Great Job .. And Other Stuff.
If you’ve met me in person, or if you read this blog often, then you probably know that I have worked as a bartender for the past 5 years.
Heck, I remember serving a drink or six to many loyal AI subscribers and customers over the years. It’s been great.
But all that has recently come to an abrupt end..
Simple Guide To Talking With Women.
“What do I talk about with women?”
“And what should I never talk about with women?”
These are some of the most commonly asked – and answered – questions in the dating advice circles.
I realised something yesterday: there is a difference between “talking about” and…
On “Faking It Till You Make It”.
To those who are approaching endless women, expecting that they can “fake it till they make it”, I offer this quote:
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein.
A Life Worth Risking.
It’s commonly known that Apple was started by two Steves: Jobs and Wozniak.
But did you know that Apple had a little-known third founder?
Third guy left the partnership two weeks after Apple was incorporated, selling his 10% share for less than a grand – a share which would be worth billions today.
He cited “too much risk” as the reason for leaving.
Some people say he is foolish, and describe his decision as the worst investment decision in history.
They miss one vital point…
Are You “Good Enough” To Be On TV?
I’ve recently blogged about how the movie characters we love represent the outcomes we seek.
In a nutshell, I was saying that the TV and movie characters you get most addicted to possess the qualities that you want to possess.
For example Hank Moody from Californication is addictive because…
The Death Of Dating Advice.
“The world doesn’t need any more dating advice”.
This was the thought which I woke to this morning.
And it’s not all bad news.
Death, like birth, is an inevitable part of expansion, and in the ash-heap of dating advice history will emerge..
Why Feeling Shit Is A Good Thing.
I am searching.
I am purpose-less.
I am empty.
I am unsatisfied..
These are just some of the feelings I experienced yesterday.
My immediate reaction was to suppress them. To ignore…
Stripping Away Your Inner Crap 101.
You are a unique manifestation of God.
And when I say “God”, I’m not talking about the God who typically comes to mind in a traditional Biblical context.
Thus, I’m not talking about a Creator, or a Trinity, or an omnipresent spirit being..
.. who metes out punishment, forgives sin and answers prayers.
Although you’re free to believe in that, if you…
Watching Movies Will Help You Attract Women?
I was in a video shop the other day, renting The Thomas Crown Affair.
And then I had this little epiphany.
Why was I choosing THIS movie?
I’ve seen it a billion times already ..
I can quote from it freely, and it’s not like the plot is going to reveal any new surprises for me when I watch it this time.
And yet here I was, about to..
Read This If You Have Female Friends.
When I was going through my Mr Nice Guy Who Women Just Want To Be Friends With (TM) phase…
..I befriended lots of women.
They weren’t honest friendships – I harboured “secret crushes” on most of them, and secretly hoped that once they realise how great and stable and smart I am..
Do RICH MEN Attract WOMEN?
I keep hearing this a lot: women are apparently attracted to rich men.
A chap even emailed me a few weeks ago, saying that he has tried every dating product under the sun and it hasn’t worked for him.
His conclusion: women are only attracted to rich (and tall, according to him), men. And no amount of dating advice was going to change that universal law…
Attract Women With A Single Pump.
Steven here with a quick update on our April Fool’s gag.
(In case you haven’t heard, we’ve started a rumour on PUA and seduction forums that a new NASAL SPRAY is about to arrive..
..which instantly fixes your inner game and makes women…
“How Do I Attract A GIRL?” The Brutal Answer.
Lots of guys write in to me and ask:
“How do I attract a girl?”
If that question is at the forefront of your mind, then you’re making it unnecessary difficult for yourself to attract the said girl.
Why?
Because you’re looking for answers in the wrong..
The Way Of Transformation.
Here’s a quote I just came across. What does it mean to YOU?
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“The man who, being really on the Way, falls upon hard times in the world will not, as a consequence, turn to that friend who offers him refuge and comfort and encourages his old self to…
Beyond Picking Up Women (seminar video).
- Have you ever thought to yourself “When I get this girl, then I’ll be happy?
- How to make sure women don’t lose interest in you.
- Why 97% of dating advice doesn’t help guys.
- How MasterClass helped guys, and how it can help you.
Your Free MasterClass MKII Test-Drive.
Free inner game training videos – for guys who are finally ready to stop chasing women, and start building the kind of life that women are naturally drawn into.
Inner Game Success Stories.
Case studies of past MasterClass MKII students. Honest feedback, warts and all.
Inner Game 101 (FREE PODCAST).
- Have you ever seen a girl in the street, but don’t approach because you think it will be embarrassing if someone sees you get rejected?
- Have you ever taken a girl on a date, walked her home, got a kiss on the cheek and never saw her again?
- Are you free and unrestrained around girls who you’re not that into, but crumble as soon as you see a hottie?
- Do you want to have relationships with multiple…
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Are You Acting Too Keen Around Women?
“As soon as she knows she’s got you, she will not want you any more.”
I remember reading this piece of dating advice last time I was in a relationship, and choosing to live by it.
I feared that if I acted “too keen” and became “too nice” to my girlfriend at the time, then attraction would somehow dissolve…
…And she would leave me.
Tired Of Reading Crap Dating Advice?
“I’ve gone through e-books and DVD sets by Mystery, Tyler, David D, Zan, Badboy ,the Naturals, PUATraining…
I joined a seduction lair.
I even took a bootcamp.
I went out and approached women. I even worked on my…