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Here are some tips on how to be confident with girls:


Tip 3. Don’t Edit Yourself.

Feeling nervous? Say to her that you’re nervous. Don’t know what to say to her? Say to her that you don’t know what to say to her. Think that she looks spunky in that skirt? Say to her that she looks spunky in that skirt. Simple.

If you hide your true feelings and thoughts…

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Here are some ways you can build confidence and self esteem:

3. Stop Reading.

Really. How many “How to build confidence” guides have you read before this one? Be honest now :) Here’s a secret: having the knowledge in your head does not make any difference for your confidence and self esteem.

So stop being a knowledge junkie – it will not help you build confidence and self..

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If you’re wondering how to get confidence, then you probably have this trait as well:

You look to others for approval.

And that is what undermines your confidence. You can read all the “how to get confidence” guides on the Internet – and become an world expert on confidence..

And yet still not be confident.

See, the problem is not a lack of knowledge..

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There is so much advice on how to improve self esteem.

I’m sure you’ve read at least some of it. It’s a bit overwhelming, isn’t it?

I was also trying to figure out how to improve self esteem, reading through tips like:

“Pinpoint your negative thinking”
“Become aware of beliefs and thoughts”
“Identify troubling conditions and situations”

Just reading it was enough to make my brain..

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There is a lot of advice on the Internet on improving self confidence. But does all of it work? Here are some pitfalls you can avoid:

Pitfall 3: Knowledge Is King.

If you think you’re going to read a blog post and socialise confidently the next day, you’ve been misled.

Knowledge does not give you access to improving self-confidence. You can become a world expert on improving self confidence and still have low self confidence.


Pitfall 2: “Just Be..

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Here’s how you can increase self-esteem:

Step 1: Stop Treating the Symptoms.

Some “experts” will tell you that to increase self-esteem you have to:

- look people in the eye
- stop thinking negative thoughts
- try new hobbies
- exercise…

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In Australia, online dating is becoming the new way for busy men to meet a woman.

And it seems like a perfect solution, right? Create an online dating profile and virtually “hit on” all the women you like.

Then come back a day later and harvest the replies. Take the time to craft your own replies, maybe even use some Google to help you sound more witty and seductive.

Just like Facebook has taken the college experience and put it online, online dating has taken…

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Step 1: Get off the Internet.

Seriously. You ALREADY know where to meet beautiful women. They walk past you every day. Beautiful women are everywhere and to meet them, you have to open your mouth and start talking to them. So why don’t you?

Step 2. Be straight with..

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Want to know how to be happy with yourself? Here’s my Number 1 way of doing it:

Step Outside Your Comfort Zone.

You feel most alive when you are doing something which gets your pulse going, don’t you? But you don’t need to go skydiving to do that. Want to feel alive today? Want to know how to be happy with yourself?

Go tell that attractive woman who you see in the bar exactly what you feel…

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If you’re wondering how to improve your communication skills, I invite you to consider something:

You’re missing the point.

You don’t need to learn how to improve your communication skills. Your communication skills are fine.

You have been learning to communicate since age 3, so you’ve had 20, maybe even 30 or 40 years of on-the-job training…

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Here are some pitfalls to avoid when choosing a confidence course:

3. Be wary of NLP.

I’m not saying NLP doesn’t work. It may help you to produce some results – but its a poor choice for a confidence course if you want to expand, grow and realise your full potential as a Man.

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Look, there are plenty of “guides” on the Internet which will teach you how to flirt with girls.

And in those you’ll hear some familiar themes: be playful, make her feel sexy, don’t care about the outcome, tease her..

But here’s the interesting part: KNOWING THAT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE. You can be a world expert on how to flirt with girls..

You can read 100 articles which describe flirting techniques..

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Is there a “woman drought”? Lots of guys are wondering about where to find women these days.

Well, how many women do you walk past each day? Quite a few, right? There’s probably a cute girl who makes you coffee in the mornings.

And a hot girl you saw on the bus. And in a bookshop. And the woman who strutted past you in the street.

I’ll assert that your real problem is not a case of “where to find women?” as “how do I approach women who I see every day?”

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What Attracts Women To Men?

January 26, 2011 by

If you’re searching for what attracts women to men, you probably are looking for tips on how you can act differently..

..so that women feel attracted to you.

Now, I’m not any kind of guru – I’m just a guy is on a journey of realising my fullest potential as a man. And I’m lucky to have some great women in his life.

And so I asked one of them – what attracts women to men? What does she want in a man?

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Changing Your Life.

December 8, 2010 by

Are you in the process of changing your life?

How long have you been doing this process? A year? Two years?

Shouldn’t you have a Bachelor’s degree in Changing Your Life by now? ;)

Now, what you probably know by now is the old cliche: the more things change, the more things remain the same.

I heard that one before – many times – but I never really got why…

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How To Be Confident.

December 8, 2010 by

I’m sure you’ve read other blog articles about how to be confident.

This one will be a little different.

And here’s why. It has nothing to do with learning how to be confident. Rather, it will show you how to let your natural confidence emerge.

I find that I’m most confident when I have nothing to hide. Like really – it’s only when I’m trying to pretend something in front of a woman that confidence becomes an issue…

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Stingy Much?

November 19, 2010 by

I realised recently just how stingy I am with people.

I went on a date a few days ago. And you know what my real, underlying purpose for going was?

To leave her thinking:

“Jeez, he was a great guy.”

Like, really. Underneath my words, the banter and even the kiss at the end, that date was not about my date. It was all about me…

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I’ve been writing and talking a lot about areas of my life which are not working lately.

I find it interesting. I noticed I really enjoy having conversations with people where we both acknowledge that we don’t have all our shit together.

I call them the “what are you dealing with?” conversations…

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#1 Reason Not To Play It Cool.

September 22, 2010 by

We are amazingly good at playing it cool. I remember seeing a quote once, which said:

“Seriousness is Man’s oldest con game.”

My interpretation of the meaning behind it was this: to act serious, somber, non-expressive, as we all do around people who we hardly know, is a facade – which we all play into because it’s safe.

And we play into this facade because inside it, there’s little risk. There’s little chance people might laugh…

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Do you have a habit of complaining?

About life? About people? Women? Your parents? Your boss? Good. Welcome to being human.

So, let’s have a look at that.

I invite you to begin viewing all the things you complain about as a product of your creation.

By that I mean – resist the temptation to blame someone else for your anger, frustration…

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It’s NOT Your Fault.

September 10, 2010 by

It can be tempting to say this to yourself:

It’s not your fault that your interactions with women are not as amazing, real, authentic, powerful, deep and moving as you want them to be..

It’s the fault of people who brought you up.

I mean, they just didn’t teach you the lessons you needed to learn. So you became inauthentic – you became the “nice guy” as a strategy to getting..

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On Seeking Validation.

September 3, 2010 by

A little earlier I was sitting in a busy cafe behind my laptop..

..when I noticed something odd about myself.

When I opened up a tab with the latest edition of Harvard Business Review, I also became very aware if someone in the vicinity saw what I was reading, they’d be impressed.

And I noticed myself relax and become present. It’s like there was more of me to take…

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“How are you?”
“I’m Good.”

Such a standard greeting and such a token, throwaway answer. I bet you said it yourself – at least twice today.

But what’s behind “I’m good”? Well, let’s try this on:

When you say “I’m good”, is it fair to say that most of the time what you’re really saying is..

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Why Love Songs Are Rubbish.

August 12, 2010 by

I was in the gym the other day, looking at myself in the mir.. I mean, pushing my boundaries, when a strange videoclip began to play on the plasma screens.

It was a shirtless man by the name of Steelheart, singing a pop dance love song, in which he reassured…

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You know a bunch of people. Some of them you like, others you don’t really like.

Some are nice. Some are angry. Some are annoying. Some are good. Some are bad. And so on…

If you don’t like some people, you tend to move away from them.

And if you like them, you tend to keep them…

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I haven’t written here – in a long time!

Why not? Well, that’s easy.

Somewhere between launching Endgame with Leigh, making headway at my new dayjob..

..and starting a new project with Leigh which will empower…

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A couple of weeks ago I’ve blogged about about getting great jobs.

Point of that story was to show how I went from surviving at work (and often getting fired) to getting a job I really wanted – and loving it.

The access to that was to begin craving challenge in my job. I wanted to get a job which I was…

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This poem will show why depth of connection prevails over number of marks on your bedpost:

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Do You Know The Truth?

June 25, 2010 by

Consider this: truth is made, rather than found..

What do you hold as “true”? Do you realise that another person could have a different perspective on your truth, and call it a “truth” also?

Which one of you is right? Who is wrong?

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Seeking Out Discomfort.

June 22, 2010 by

Going out of your way to find uncomfortable situations isn’t natural, but it’s essential…

At work, we spend hours (and millions of dollars seeking a place we can defend, a market position and sinecure we can feel safe in…

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If you’ve met me in person, or if you read this blog often, then you probably know that I have worked as a bartender for the past 5 years.

Heck, I remember serving a drink or six to many loyal AI subscribers and customers over the years. It’s been great.

But all that has recently come to an abrupt end..

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“What do I talk about with women?”
“And what should I never talk about with women?”

These are some of the most commonly asked – and answered – questions in the dating advice circles.

I realised something yesterday: there is a difference between “talking about” and…

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To those who are approaching endless women, expecting that they can “fake it till they make it”, I offer this quote:

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein.

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A Life Worth Risking.

June 3, 2010 by

It’s commonly known that Apple was started by two Steves: Jobs and Wozniak.

But did you know that Apple had a little-known third founder?

Third guy left the partnership two weeks after Apple was incorporated, selling his 10% share for less than a grand – a share which would be worth billions today.

He cited “too much risk” as the reason for leaving.

Some people say he is foolish, and describe his decision as the worst investment decision in history.

They miss one vital point…

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I’ve recently blogged about how the movie characters we love represent the outcomes we seek.

In a nutshell, I was saying that the TV and movie characters you get most addicted to possess the qualities that you want to possess.

For example Hank Moody from Californication is addictive because…

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“The world doesn’t need any more dating advice”.

This was the thought which I woke to this morning.

And it’s not all bad news.

Death, like birth, is an inevitable part of expansion, and in the ash-heap of dating advice history will emerge..

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I am searching.
I am purpose-less.
I am empty.
I am unsatisfied..

These are just some of the feelings I experienced yesterday.

My immediate reaction was to suppress them. To ignore…

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You are a unique manifestation of God.

And when I say “God”, I’m not talking about the God who typically comes to mind in a traditional Biblical context.

Thus, I’m not talking about a Creator, or a Trinity, or an omnipresent spirit being..

.. who metes out punishment, forgives sin and answers prayers.

Although you’re free to believe in that, if you…

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I was in a video shop the other day, renting The Thomas Crown Affair.

And then I had this little epiphany.

Why was I choosing THIS movie?

I’ve seen it a billion times already ..

I can quote from it freely, and it’s not like the plot is going to reveal any new surprises for me when I watch it this time.

And yet here I was, about to..

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When I was going through my Mr Nice Guy Who Women Just Want To Be Friends With (TM) phase…

..I befriended lots of women.

They weren’t honest friendships – I harboured “secret crushes” on most of them, and secretly hoped that once they realise how great and stable and smart I am..

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I keep hearing this a lot: women are apparently attracted to rich men.

A chap even emailed me a few weeks ago, saying that he has tried every dating product under the sun and it hasn’t worked for him.

His conclusion: women are only attracted to rich (and tall, according to him), men. And no amount of dating advice was going to change that universal law…

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Steven here with a quick update on our April Fool’s gag.

(In case you haven’t heard, we’ve started a rumour on PUA and seduction forums that a new NASAL SPRAY is about to arrive..

..which instantly fixes your inner game and makes women…

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Lots of guys write in to me and ask:

“How do I attract a girl?”

If that question is at the forefront of your mind, then you’re making it unnecessary difficult for yourself to attract the said girl.

Why?

Because you’re looking for answers in the wrong..

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Here’s a quote I just came across. What does it mean to YOU?

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“The man who, being really on the Way, falls upon hard times in the world will not, as a consequence, turn to that friend who offers him refuge and comfort and encourages his old self to…

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- Have you ever thought to yourself “When I get this girl, then I’ll be happy?
- How to make sure women don’t lose interest in you.
- Why 97% of dating advice doesn’t help guys.
- How MasterClass helped guys, and how it can help you.

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Inner Game 101 (FREE PODCAST).

February 15, 2010 by

- Have you ever seen a girl in the street, but don’t approach because you think it will be embarrassing if someone sees you get rejected?

- Have you ever taken a girl on a date, walked her home, got a kiss on the cheek and never saw her again?

- Are you free and unrestrained around girls who you’re not that into, but crumble as soon as you see a hottie?

- Do you want to have relationships with multiple…

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“As soon as she knows she’s got you, she will not want you any more.”

I remember reading this piece of dating advice last time I was in a relationship, and choosing to live by it.

I feared that if I acted “too keen” and became “too nice” to my girlfriend at the time, then attraction would somehow dissolve…

…And she would leave me.

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“I’ve gone through e-books and DVD sets by Mystery, Tyler, David D, Zan, Badboy ,the Naturals, PUATraining…

I joined a seduction lair.

I even took a bootcamp.

I went out and approached women. I even worked on my…

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Let’s put the two side-by-side ;)

The Role Models:

Dating advice: “Here’s Mystery / Style / other guru, expert. This is how an attractive man behaves. Now go imitate him.”

Religion: “Here’s Jesus / Mohammad / other deity / saint. This is how…

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All PUAs Are Liars.

January 5, 2010 by

If you’re like me when you decided to ‘get better with women’, you’ve probably first read ‘The Game’.

And then jumped online to learn a tonne of dating advice.

Maybe you even purchased a DVD program which taught you “fundamentals” of attraction. Or two.

So why is it that those who are on the “PUA path” still aren’t seeing…

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Have you approached a woman in the last month or so?

If yes, why?

“To seduce her, of course”, you might respond. Or maybe your answer would be, “to see if she is my kind of woman”.

Either answer is fine.

Or you may have…

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There is a common belief that rich men attract women with ease.

More specifically, that women are attracted to men with MONEY.

The seduction community has gone to some way to upset that myth…

Mostly, by demonstrating that a guy who can banter…

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It will be amusing to come back here in one years’ time and see how many of these seduction community predictions I got wrong.

So, let’s begin ;)

Seduction Community Prediction #1: People Will Stop Using The Term “Seduction…

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Do You Get Self-Conscious?

December 18, 2009 by

As human beings we naturally want to be real, authentic, and truly ourselves.

We might not all be consciously aware of this drive towards authenticity, but inherently we value being ourselves, especially when it is easy and effortless.

Fulfillment comes from knowing what and who we are, and we seek security in this knowledge.

We want the sense of who we are to be stable, and we want this stability…

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Life Back In The Year 2010.

December 2, 2009 by

(An essay written in a not-too-distant-future).

Back then, when a guy walked past a cute girl in the street, he would rarely give her a smile.

And the girl, despite knowing that the guy was walking towards her, would choose to look straight ahead.

She would choose not to acknowledge him.

The guy and the girl would walk past each other, refusing to…

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“Imagine how much your quality of life would improve…

…if you could meet and attract women of your choice almost anywhere?”

That was the headline of a sales page I recently stumbled across.

The “dating guru” who wrote that page went on to describe a “daygame” product…

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You Are The Pilot.

November 16, 2009 by

This is a quick post to let you know that MasterClass MKII has just launched.

To those cosmonauts who are already on board and are being taken to new life, a big salut!

(Yeh, it does sound a bit corny – deal with it ;) …

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This is the stuff only paying MasterClass MKII customers were supposed to watch…

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Last week I caught up with another ex-student who took the MasterClass 3 months ago.

Did his results last?

Did he expose LoGun as a keyboard jockey? Watch to find out:

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Look, after I got into the seduction community I began to enjoy some pretty good success with women.

First, I met a cute Australian actress in a bookshop.

She was the definition of cuteness with, with curly black hair and piercing green eyes.

Then came along a curvy…

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1. We Beat The Church Of Satan.

I will admit it. I like the fact that this humble blog just got ranked in the top 200,000 websites in the world.

Well, 199,340th today, to be exact.

Which may seem like not much, until you consider…

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I was dating a girl some time ago. And, as most couples do, sooner or later her and I had a slight disagreement

(I poured a drink on her sister’s head in the middle of Hugo’s – in retaliation for her throwing ice at me … mature, I know)

My girl got understandably upset and, on the way home, said something to me which I found disturbing…

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Here are some pre-release clips of the Advanced Inner Game MasterClass MkII…

Which LoGun probably didn’t want me to show just yet.

Watch them before he returns from the beach and pulls them down. Haha..

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Here’s how I used to try and be cool:

Step 1: see a guy who *IS* cool.
Step 2: imitate him.

Now, here’s the FATAL FLAW in that system:

I would meet / spot another guy who I thought was cool. I’d start…

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Select the CORRECT answer:

A beautiful woman is someone who:

1) will make you feel better
2) you can dominate, so that you can feel powerful
3) can dominate you, so that you…

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Am I taking the piss? Have I finally lost the plot?

How can a man attract women by watching Californication, Boston Legal and House?

To attract women, a man needs to go out in the field, and ‘sarge’, right? Well, maybe…

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Do you often walk into a bar and begin to wonder what people are thinking of you?

Now, stop for a moment to think how it affects your ability to do what you want. Perhaps it limits you in some ways?

And do you ever catch yourself talking to a woman, and begining to think … “what should I…

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If you’ve just spent a year of your life learning reading dating advice…

..And haven’t seen the results you want, you probably are starting to realise that:

7. Learning routines hasn’t helped you to talk to women.

6. Learning qualification has not *really* helped you…

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Something Jonno said to me recently brought on a peculiar epiphany.

It was at a recent inner game seminar we did. I was talking to one of the guys after the gig; Jonno was in close vicinity, talking to himself…

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I’m going to take a wild punt and guess that you were not a born trust fund baby.

Which means just like me, you probably spend a big chunk of your daily life at work. Earning cash.

When I’m not doing AI stuff, I work in a bar, and I see many of my customers just…

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By popular request, this is a repost of one of my recent emails.

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You many have heard that I was in hot water recently.

LoGun and I did a presentation for a local lair a few months ago, and I posted up a few video clips of the talk on YouTube.

Alas, all sh*t hit the fan when the leader of the lair…

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Evolution Of Dating Advice.

August 25, 2009 by

We have seen 2 generations of ‘dating advice’ so far:

Generation 1 – let’s call them “The Romantics” – who repeated the same kind of dating advice our mothers gave us.

“Be nice to her”, they insisted. “Listen…

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What’s Behind Your Mask?

August 21, 2009 by

“You’re about to LEARN 7 SECRET NINJA OPENERS and have women THROWING THEMSELVES at you…”

Heh. Don’t you just get hopping mad every time you see another one of those hypey sales pages full…

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Wanna Be A Player?

August 19, 2009 by

If you wanna be a player, you’re in good hands.

And, as with any other advice you read here, you should know that the answers you’re about to receive will be different to what you’re expecting…

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OK, nice – I’m finally inside.

Mental note to self – I’m in this bar to have a good time, not pick up women. Especially not to run “game” to pick up women.

That routine-based PUA shit…

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Here is Part 2 of Inner Game Interview, Part 1:

“Why Aren’t Guys Seeing The Results They Want?”

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I’ve noticed that a lot of guys are concerned with being AMOGGED, and spend a considerable amount of time learning AMOG techniques.

There are some funny ones I’ve come across, which I can’t wait to use on LoGun, e.g -

“Hey man, you don’t have to try so…

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“I don’t care about what people think”, i hear someone say at least twice a week.

Are you sure?

Do you really not care about what people think? If so, then why are you saying…

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Why Relationships Fail.

August 8, 2009 by

We meet a woman.

A temptation exists to see her as the solution to our dissatisfaction; as a missing piece of a puzzle that now just became that little bit more complete.

We project that expectation…

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You approach a pretty girl. You are talking to her for a little bit and things are looking promising.

So, you decide to ‘close’ this deal and so you whip out your Nokia in a swift ninja motion and tell her you’d like to see her again.

“But .. I have a boyfriend.”…

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A date can be a date. Or it can be an adventure. And girls love adventures! All it takes is a bit of creativity.

Yesterday I took a girl on a date to see Monet & Impressionists at Art Gallery of NSW. We decided to spice the date up with a bit of a role play. To add that sense of adventure…

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Seriously. Is a bookshop just not the best place to meet women?

I’m not going to tell you some kind of magic opener here. If you’re reading this you’re probably not a…

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So, how do you create humour on the spot?

Well, for starters, you use the environment around as a source of funny material. Sometimes it is best to learn through examples, so let me give you a couple…

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Let’s explore this little idea:

You are NOT your beliefs.

Getting your head around it is something that will take your inner growth to a whole new level. So, here we…

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How many times a day do you see women you want to approach?

Now, imagine being able to approach these women confidently. To sweep them off their feet and leave them wondering:

“Wow. Who was that guy?”

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Why most guys who decide to become pickup artists don’t get the results they want .. and what to do about it.

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If you’re like me, you probably got into the ‘game’ because you wanted more choice with women.

Personally, I was tired of dating women who…

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This blog post is a further exploration of the point LoGun raised in his recent Be A Customer, Not A Salesman post about inner game…

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I’m curious ..

What drove you to the seduction community?

- Did you want to have a cute ‘girl next door’ girlfriend?

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I developed a bit of an addiction lately and it has me worried.

I recently subscribed to a couple of those ‘Dating Tips’ newsletters sent out by those…

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Your Questions Answered.

July 23, 2009 by

Your MOST BURNING inner game questions answered.

We give you new tips on how to get your inner game sorted and become attractive to women, without being all lame about it.

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We come to the seduction community telling ourselves we want to change.

Bullshit.

What we REALLY want is…

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Ok, so your game is improving.

You can approach girls – often – but you still get nervous approaching BEAUTIFUL women.

You start conversations easily, but often you steer them into just polite chit-chat. And..

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Below is a repost of a brilliant article which points out that a ‘no’ from a woman is quite often a barely veiled ‘yes’. She wants you to seduce her, but she feels the need to put up a few barriers along the way. So, see those barriers for what they are and enjoy the [...]

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Ok, let’s get one thing straight first.

I’m a biased creature. I’m the co-founder of this company and it sells inner game training. And I want you to buy this company’s products.

So, how can I possibly give advice on choosing a good bootcamp without…

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