Heck, I remember serving a drink or six to many loyal AI subscribers and customers over the years. It’s been great.

But all that has recently come to an abrupt end.

About a week ago I decided that I was done with bartending.

Finita. Kaput. Endski.

Why? Well, because I felt like I was in an “open relationship” with that job:

- I only did that job to get a wage
- There was no connection with the work
- I didn’t worry too much about my performance
- I didn’t care if I got fired – because I could easily get another job
- I was often drunk before, during and after work
- I would get called in at odd hours
- And I’d always turn up late

Why was it this way?

Well, I ended up having that relationship to my job because at some stage I decided that what I really wanted was an easy, fun, comfortable evening job which paid my bills..

..So that I could have the freedom to work on AI during daytime hours (which I consider my main gig, my passion and partial manifestation of my purpose).

However, I realised that there was a breakdown of integrity in this setup. See, my motives for doing bartending could be summed up as:

“I want to get a biggest possible wage for the minimum amount of work possible.”

In other words, I was being a drain on the world in that area of my life.

Recently I realised that being a drain at work is a bit like watching internet porn – it’s comfortable and pleasant but it offers little satisfaction. It’s empty.

So it was time to transform that part of my life.

And who doesn’t want to get more results from our job? More money. More satisfaction. A promotion. Boss’ acknowledgment.

When it comes to getting more results, what is the first thing that we usually focus on? That’s right, we immediately change our actions, right?

We try to work longer, harder, we endure more of our boss’ shit, we look for a better paying job, we move overseas “to try to find more opportunities” .. and so on.

If we were to put this madness into an equation, it would look something like this:

ACTIONS -> RESULTS

Different actions will yield different results, right? Sure.

We also use the same formula to quit smoking, save up money, lose weight, pick up beautiful women, be better fathers, deal with difficult family members, get a firmer 6-pack.. you name it!

Does this strategy work?

Well, of course not. Reality is very cruel to such vanities.

Why?

Because there is one crucial element missing from that formula. And that element is one of Being:

BEING -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

Your Actions and Results will correlate directly with who you’re Being.

And if who I’m Being is a man who seeks a cosy job where I’m happy to do the bare minimum so that I can pay my bills..

..then my actions will correlate with that – I’ll be an average performer, I’ll do the minimum necessary to avoid getting into shit, I’ll have no passion or zeal for the job..

..I’ll cut corners when no-one is looking..

..I’ll have no pride in my work.

And my results will also correlate with my actions: I’ll feel unsatisfied, I won’t get the good shifts, I’ll be passed for promotion, I won’t be offered responsibility and won’t get paid as much as I could be.

What’s the solution?

Well, I could intervene at the level of Actions – and motivate myself to get to work on time, not slack off, not get drunk, do the best possible job .. but as we have already discovered, it doesn’t work.

Why doesn’t it work?

Because who I’m Being – who is creating all those Actions – is still Being a drain on the universe. I’m still someone who wants to be cosy, comfy, and get paid for it.

Which is what led me to let go of Being a drain in that area of my life. I realised that results are never produced by Being in a comfort zone.

It was time for a shift. Now, what I wanted was another hospitality job which was flexible enough to fit around AI.

However, fuck being cosy, being comfortable and fuck knowing what I’m doing. Fuck being a big fish in a small pond. Which meant leaving bartending.

It was time to dive head first into a job which I wasn’t sure how to do right, and learn to swim in it, so to speak, before I ran out of air.

It was time to live outside my comfort zone. Who I was Being now could be described as:

“GIVE ME A FUCKING CHALLENGE”.

I knew that I would attract a job which fit in with that agenda. However, what I ended up attracting was pretty extraordinary.

I couldn’t think of a job that’s more suited to my needs right now. I’m working as a waiter in a little Italian restaurant, considered to be best in Sydney – right around the corner from my house in Potts Point.

The menu is in Italian, just about everyone who works there is also Italian, there’s real passion oozing out of every pore, the team love their work and at the end of the shift there is a real sense of accomplishment.

The shifts work perfectly around AI, and the pay + tips are more than I need.

Here’s the weird part.

When I walked into this restaurant to see if they’re looking for staff, I already knew I was going to work there.

On a sidenote, have you ever met a girl, and experienced the same thing?

Those moments where seconds after meeting her, you know you’re going to hook up. You like her. She likes you. You know that she knows that you like her. She knows that you know..

You know that at some yet-to-be-defined point in the future you’re going to destroy her in bed. She knows that you want to. And she wants you to. And it’s all good.

That’s integrity at play. You’re NOT operating at the level of Actions – “How can I get her to feel attracted to me?”, but at the level of Being – “This is me. I like you. And I like you even if you don’t like me.”

Getting this job was just like that.

Here’s the lesson I learned:

Results are driven by having integrity in this system:

BEING -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

When you have integrity, results have no choice but to be produced. If you really want to live your edge, you could expand this system to include Thoughts:

BEING -> THOUGHTS -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

I invite you to notice when your Thoughts and Actions are out of alignment.

When you do, then you may want to notice that who you’re Being in that moment may not be who you’re projecting out there as Actions. Rather, you’re probably using Actions to cover up your true Being.

If you do that, your Results will suffer.

This is the reason why PUA stuff doesn’t work. It’s all Action trying to inform Being. It may look good on the surface – and you may even get laid – but there is no integrity in it.

It’s not going to transform you, expand you or nurture you – and getting women that way is a constant struggle uphill.

Most people never get Results in life because they see this formula the wrong way around. They look at it like this:

RESULTS -> ACTIONS -> THOUGHTS -> BEING

Their logic can be summed up in a sentence like this:

“Once I get more money, and have the dream job, and learn how to pick up girls, I’ll be able to do anything, I’ll be more confident, I’ll be in a position to speak my mind and I’ll be happy, open and free.”

Of course, that is the norm by which 99.9% people live. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with that. You can live a pretty decent life by following this mantra.

But we’re not here to live “decent” lives.

We’re here to realise our fullest potential, and to be extraordinary men.

Here’s what I really got from this: you can’t anything that you don’t have already. So to create Results in your life, you first have to start Being. And everything else will follow automatically.

I invite you to start noticing areas in your life where that system of integrity is out of alignment – and it will help you see why why you’re not producing the results you want in those areas.

And if you want to find out more about how to start Being someone who creates results and lives with integrity, you will find that Seduction Community Sucks book will give you a solid kickstart in that direction.

Steven

It can be rough.

Be I have to share something with you that will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I’m very lucky to have many incredibly beautiful women in my life.

This morning, I got to spend it with one of the most beautiful. She’s an incredible woman by all standards. If you saw her in a club, you’d probably wet yourself.

I know because I did. Just a little (It’s actually a funny story about how we met but I might save that for another time).

She’s stunningly beautiful. I’m not into blondes, but she’s got that classic northern European ‘blonde hair, blue eyes, great… Umm… Personalities’ thing going on.

Simply stunning.

She’s strong, bubbly, and has a radiant personality. She could have just about any Man she’s ever wanted. And you know what? She’s single.

And has been for over a year.

Did you hear that? A YEAR.

Sure, a bit of this has to do with the fact that she’s only 20 and loves to go out partying. But the majority of it is because she simply hasn’t met Man who’s worth settling for.

As we were chilling out over our breakfast this morning, she told me that if she met a Man who was so strong, so powerful..

So directed and passionate that she knew he was a one of a kind, then she’d give it all up and settle down, right now.

But she hasn’t. And so she keeps going out, every weekend, in search of this illusive ‘Man’.

The reason I’m telling you this is twofold.

Firstly, it’s to let you know that there’s still some amazing women out there in the world who are looking for the Man of their dreams.

They still want to find that incredible guy to create an incredible relationship with.

And secondly, it’s that she wants the same thing you do.

She wants you to be powerful, she wants you to have ambitions, she wants you to realise your potential, and she wants to come along for the ride.

She wants you to take her on the adventure that you choose your life to be.

She wants you to be the greatest you could ever possibly be, and then she wants to be swept away by courage, determination, and strength.

She wants you to be great. And then she wants to be allowed to be part of that greatness too.

So live your life, be powerful, be amazing, fill it with all the joy and wonder you’ve ever wanted, and give her the gift of being part of your journey.

LoGun

The highly controversial technique for being able to approach a woman, anywhere, anytime.

It’s quite complicated, but be patient with me because when you master, you’ll be able to approach every woman you see.

So, here goes:

Step 1 – get close enough to her so she can hear you.

Step 2 – say what you’re thinking.

Did you get that?

You might want to read it a few times to make sure it sinks it. Yes, it’s highly technical but after months of internalisation, then you should have mastered it ;-)

Now, I know a whole lot of people will disagree with me and say there are things you have to learn to approach women.

They say you have to learn how to open indirectly, you have to learn how not to lean in, you have to learn interesting things to talk about, and all that jazz..

..but think about this:

What kind of women are you trying to bring into your life? And what kind of relationship do you want to have with them?

Are you looking for shallow women who’re attracted to you for the person you pretend to be, to have meaningless and empty relationships with?

If so, great!

I’d highly recommend learning some lines and techniques to mask your true self with.

You can actually get really good at getting women to like you for someone you’re not by going down this path. It may take a long time but you can get there.

Or would you prefer to meet interesting, genuine women who’re attracted to you for who you really are, to have deep and meaningful relationships with them?

If so, then how could they ever be attracted to you for who you are if you don’t show them who you are?

How could you form real and genuine relationships with them when you’re not real and genuine with them?

You can go down the path of learning tricks to approach women, but then you’ll never be more than a guy who uses tricks to approach women.

And then you’ll only ever meet women who’re naive enough to fall for your tricks. And you’ll only ever have relationships based on trickery.

Is that the kind of life you want?

So, how do you want to approach women?

LoGun

I’m being serious here.

You see a gorgeous woman. You KNOW you’re attracted to her because of the way you feel when you see her.

And yet, you do not approach this woman.

Not because you are too scared to.

Not because logistically you couldn’t.

But because you made a conscious decision to appreciate her beauty, but not need to take more from her.

Have you ever noticed that it doesn’t matter how tired you are, how shitty your day may be, or how much physical pain you may be in, if a woman walks by that lights your fire…

EVERYTHING is incredible.

Everything becomes manageable again. Everything is going to be all right.

You’ve been uplifted, and for however long it lasts for you, THAT moment is bliss.

That, gentlemen, is Her gift to you. The way that you feel when She inspires you, is one of the most precious gifts.

Savour it for as long as it lasts, because it may be fleeting (as with anything in this life).

But while it lingers, it is the very thing that reminds you how gifted you are that you are able to experience such a thing.

And all she does is exist…

And THAT is what she’s capable of.

The only question you need to ask yourself now is: “What can I offer in return?”

Jonathon

1. The Role Models:

Dating advice: “Here’s Mystery / Style / other guru, expert. This is how an attractive man behaves. Now go imitate him.”

Religion: “Here’s Jesus / Mohammad / other deity / saint. This is how a good man behaves. Now go imitate him.

2. The Promises:

Dating advice: “If you learn and live by the teachings of this dating guru long enough, you’ll reach the place of sexual abundance, be happy, you’ll fuck virgins, have multiple long term relationships.

Religion: “If you learn and live by the teachings of this deity long enough, you’ll go to heaven, be happy / have eternal life / fuck virgins / have multiple long term relationships”.

3. The Reality:

Dating advice: If you learn and live by the teachings of this dating guru long enough, you’ll still be the same guy, albeit with a head full of confusing theory. You’ll be tempted to become an “online guru”, confidently dispensing dating advice to “chumps”, “chodes” and “AFCs”, and secretly hoping that your own success with women is just around the corner.

Religion: If you learn and live by the teachings of this deity long enough, you’ll still be the same guy, albeit with a head full of confusing scripture. You’ll be tempted to preach your new-found knowledge to “worldly” people and “sinners” during coffee breaks and at bus stops, secretly hoping a better life is just around the corner.

4. The Stumbling Blocks:

Dating advice: If you are somewhere between MPUA and AFC, you’ll end up in a seduction lair.

Religion: If you’re neither saint or sinner, you’ll end up in a purgatory.

5. The Contradictions:

Dating advice: There are plenty of seduction methods to choose from. Every dating guru you meet will tell you that his seduction method is the quickest path into women’s panties. He will happily show you “inconsistencies” in other seduction methods. He will remain oblivious to inconsistencies in his own.

Religion: There are plenty of religions to choose from. Every minister / preacher you meet will tell you that his religion is the most accurate interpretation of God’s message and that everybody else got it wrong. He will happily show you evidence of inconsistencies in other religions. He will remain oblivious to inconsistencies in his own.

6. The Women:

Dating advice: Repress your true feelings for women. If you express what you desire, and act unashamedly upon those desires, you’re going to get blown out. It is wrong.

Religion: Repress your true feelings for them. If you expressing what you desire, and act upon your desire, you’re going straight to hell. It’s wrong.

7. You Are:

Dating advice: You’re broken. You need fixing and guidance. Without dating advice you’ll be a frustrated “hey, let’s just be friends” chump forever.

Religion: You’re imperfect. You need salvation and guidance. Without dating advice you’ll be a rudderless sinner and possibly be destroyed at Armageddon / burn in a fiery pit.

Since I had no idea what was involved in a Men’s Group before I was invited, I’m guessing you don’t have much of an idea either…

…so allow me to share my experience of it.

No, it’s not a circle jerk (sorry to disappoint).

Nor is it a gathering where we get together and cry about how daddy didn’t love us (I only did that ONCE, OK!).

Nor do we sit around chanting “His name was Robert Paulson” ;)

It’s a bit more earthy, and grounding than any of that.

It’s a place where a bunch of cool dudes get together, and have a chat about areas of their life where things are working really well…

And area’s of their life they’d like to sort out.

I, myself, am working through getting myself out of a reasonably sized consumer debt.

Through Men’s Group, I’ve been able to look deeply at why I allowed this situation to occur in the first place.

And I have had the challenge and support of the other Men in taking control of that aspect of my life, and most importantly, taking responsibility for it.

It’s a place where we can get together and discuss what it actually means for us all to be Men.

Something that seems to be fading in terms of it’s importance and consciousness in the world today.

Of my friends, colleagues, students, and other Men I’ve interacted with, I’ve noticed that our concept of what a Man is is usually dictated to us by film…

…and I don’t know any Aragorn or James Bond role models in my life to look up to.

So we have a space that we’ve created where we can really chip away at our own definitions of the Men we’d like to be…

…and it’s a pretty safe area to air some dirty laundry, and blow the cobwebs off some old problems and have them dealt with swiftly, and firmly.

But what I’m enjoying most of all is the brotherhood, the honesty, and rawness of it.

The challenge is what binds us together, and it is our struggle that makes us brothers.

So that’s Men’s Group.

And I reckon it’s pretty fucking awesome, especially for men who are in the seduction community and only view other men as either wing’s, cockblocks, or somebody they need to AMOG.

It takes the one-dimensional nature out of those sorts of relationships and restores a faith in other dudes, in a completely non-gay way :)

If you’d like to know more about getting started, jump onto the Inner Game Forums and we’ll be more than happy to point you in the right direction (there’s even a thread dedicated to it in the main board).

Best of all, it’s free to set-up, except for the food-bitch: that’s the person who has to bring food for the group for that week :).

Jonathon

So, let’s begin ;)

Seduction Community Prediction #1: People Will Stop Using The Term “Seduction Community”.

At the moment, the climate on a lot of seduction community forums is that of:

“We’re here for self-development, now just learning how to pick up women”.

Thing is, for many guys this mindset is still just a veiled attempt at being “unattached to the outcome” when approaching women.

But as time goes on, I feel that genuine interest in self development will awaken in many more guy…

…and picking up women will increasingly be seen as a by-product of fulfilled life – rather than its end goal.

Prediction #2: PUAs & Mystery Method Will Continue To Exist.

Every day a few hundred men get frustrated at their lack of success with women – to the point where they decide to do something about it.

Inevitably, they sit down in front of their computer, swallow their pride, and type into Google something like, “how to pick up women” or “how to approach women” or “dating tips”…

0.031 seconds later they have the “answers” at their fingertips…

And they begin reading. Soaking up dating theory, tips, routines, openers and techniques like a sponge.

Whilst for most guys having this knowledge feels like progress (“so this is why women see me just as a friend!!”)…

…It takes some time to realise that intellectually knowing the answers – having the answers – leads merely to being a very good imitator of the real deal.

To actually BECOME the real deal requires dealing with one’s true organic experience. And that is a process of removing layers of knowledge, rather than piling more on.

So, Mystery Method will continue to act as a necessary step in the lives of many men…

… To give them first hand experience of what DOESN’T offer them all the success they’re looking for – thereby motivating them to go out and look deeper for stuff that does.

Prediction #3: Many More Dating Gurus Will Emerge…

The Internet has made it possible for anyone with $200 to make a decent-looking website, slap together some content, and declare themselves a “guru”.

Whilst not many of those gurus will ever actually help anyone, and even fewer will make their website into a profitable business, many will continue to spring up …

Prediction #4: And Many Existing Dating Gurus Will Vanish.

This increased competition will separate the wheat from the chaff.

And many dating gurus who are currently in the business of just repackaging the same old stuff in an attempt to make a quick buck will vanish from the sphere of visibility…

… while the power of social media will help spread the word about those who truly are producing foundation-changing stuff, bring them to the spotlight.

And they will do amazing things.

Prediction #5: I will not get accepted into the Sydney Lair.

Doesn’t mean I won’t stop trying :)

Prediction #6: We Will Fail…

Every one of us will – at least once – end up standing next to a beautiful woman and racking our head for something to say.

It may happen in a line waiting for coffee, or on a bus, or waiting for the little man to go green…

But it will happen. And as soon as she is gone we will be kicking ourselves for not saying anything at all.

Prediction #7: And We Will Succeed.

Every one of us will strike up a conversation with a woman without worrying about what “the right thing” to say to her is, or what she is thinking…

And it will be a conversation of purity, freedom of expression and joy.

Prediction #8: LoGun will become louder.

Doesn’t mean we won’t try to silence him ;)

Steven

You see that girl, and your heart immediately jumps an extra 30 beats per second.

Your mind starts racing.

Then it goes blank, and you may even get a little bit sweaty.

You want to go approach, but you “can’t”. Why do you think that is?

Many of the men I have had the pleasure of meeting suffer the same ailments as you.

And many of them are literally paralysed by their nerves.

What is it that actually stops them, though?

We, as men, experience those nerves – and then start trying to find a way to STOP IT.

So, instead of going up to that gorgeous woman whilst still feeling anxious about it, we feel the temptation to make our nerves WRONG…

And then we focus on how to get rid of that feeling, rather than going and talking to that gorgeous woman IN SPITE of nerves.

We think that we shouldn’t be feeling nerves at all.

Especially if they we ever want to be great in the arena of seduction.

You most DEFINITELY should be feeling anxiety – it‘s how you know your alive half the time.

But what you may find is that in trying to get rid of your nerves, you’re simply focusing on the feeling in your body, and “clamping down” on it…

… Rather than letting it course fully throughout your entire body.

If you can “release” those nerves from your chest, or stomach, or throat, or wherever it is that you experience that feeling…

And then let it travel down your arms and legs, and feel it through your entire body…

…Those “nerves” all of a sudden feels more like “excitement”.

But why else has this been such an issue for many men?

For many men, the issue has been that they’re pretending with the woman in front of them that they are not experiencing nerves at all.

They have to “look cool”, and “be in state” in order to have a “solid interaction”.

Forget all of that bullshit for a moment.

Ever told a lie and had to maintain that lie for so long, only to have the lie come out in the open anyway?

It may have been a shit fight, but I bet as soon as it was out in the open, and you accepted it, you experienced one of the greatest waves of relief in your life.

You now experience the complete removal of that tension in the place of the lie. It’s calming, a weight off the shoulders, and you don’t have to try, put in effort, or pretend any more.

You can just BE.

What if you accepted your nerves; that they were there, and they didn’t mean ANYTHING.

Hell, what if you were even HONEST with the woman in front of you about your anxiety:

“Hi, it was nearly impossible for me to work up the courage to walk over here and compliment you on how incredibly gorgeous you are… and you know what? It was totally worth it. I’m Jonno, who are you apart from stunningly-fuck-off-gorgeous?”

Now for the rest of the interaction, you don’t have to worry about hiding your anxiety: it’s been dealt with, it’s out in the open, and you were real about it.

Now there’s space between the two of you for the really fun stuff: flirting, banter, good old-fashioned conversation even.

And it’s REAL.

So the next time you start to see that your nerves are going to pull the rug out from under you in your quest for success with the opposite sex, ask yourself this simple question:

“Am I being honest, or not?”


Jonathon

I will admit it. I like the fact that this humble blog just got ranked in the top 200,000 websites in the world.

Well, 199,340th today, to be exact.

Which may seem like not much, until you consider that there are something like 6 BILLION websites out there..

Which means what you’re reading right now ranks in the top 5% of the Web…

And that means we’re still behind most high-grade German porn, but just in front of the Church Of Satan (ranked 204,402nd). Go team!

2. Some Have Called Us “Reluctant Gurus”.

LoGun and I find it invigorating to bring you stuff which puts most seduction community ‘truths’ on their head…

…And to help you with your inner game on your deepest level – so that you can live effortlessly and free, with no hang-ups.

But we don’t want to be in the spotlight all the time, like those celebrity “rock star” dating gurus or whatever. We are bartenders with a lot of stuff going on in our lives …

LoGun coaches a football team. And I’m preparing my car for next year’s Supersprint Championships (my goal is to complete one race without the car catching fire).

3. Coming Out Of The Underground.

When the word about our original Advanced Inner Game MasterClass began circulating in the seduction community, it felt like we hit the nail on the head.

And It was a bit unexpected to have instructors from other seduction companies anonymously contact us and request inner game coaching.

I mean, it felt good to be recognised in our field, and see that our stuff was helping guys become real Men.

But it all kinda all got out of control at some stage .. the word about the MasterClass spread, and we were swamped with emails, PMs and the phone was ringing off the hook….

So maybe staying out of the spotlight would be more difficult than we thought.

4. Old Friends.

I love catching up with old MasterClass students, to see what they’re up to these days.

A few days ago, I caught up with Sean, who took the course about 6 months ago. This is what good (and bad) stuff he had to say about his MasterClass experience:

Heh, and I only paid him a few hundred bucks to say all that ;)

5. What Is MasterClass MKII, In 99 Words Or Less?

Put it this way. If you break a finger, your life will probably not end. I mean, you may live in discomfort, but you will live.

Well, similarly, not having rock-solid inner game is not going to kill you. You may even learn to pick up girls without it. Just learn some outer ‘game’, and you’ll get lucky every now and then.

But it probably won’t be an effortless existence, and every day of your life you’ll get reminded that something isn’t quite as good as it could be….

For example, you may feel the need to ‘eject’ on a high note, before you screw things up with a girl. Or you may have half of all the women you approach flake on you.

How do you solve this?

In the case of a broken finger, you have two options.

—-> Option 1, ignore the break, keep relieving the pain with some pills and let the finger heal over the break … you’ll probably find that you don’t have 100% functionality, but you will continue to get by.

—-> Option 2, put a splint on your finger, let the finger heal STRAIGHT, and in a few weeks have your finger which is as good as new.

The MasterClass MKII, metaphorically speaking, IS THE SPLINT. You apply it for 30 days, by downloading 1 video lesson per day.

Which means you have two options. You can apply the splint, fix the break and move on.

Or you can continue ignoring it and keep popping the pain reliever pills (in the form of mainstream seduction community DVD programs and workshops) and continue just getting by.

The choice if yours.

Steven

P.S. I noticed that quite a few guys have already registered to be on the priority notification list on the MasterClass MK II website:

http://www.becometherealdeal.com

If you are serious about making a change, I suggest you also head over there and put your name down. Those on the list will be ‘first in line’ when the gates open, so to speak.

P.P.S. Please don’t put your name down if you’re not that serious … I really want the 30 or so spots we’re planning to release go to those guys who are ready to make a change.

Here’s the website again:

http://www.becometherealdeal.com

“Damn, you do some embarrassing shit!”

Apparently it’s embarrassing to approach a stunning little brunette with green eyes and curves that are out of this world who’s eating lunch with her family.

Who knew???

Well, to be perfectly honest, the old me did.

I used to get embarrassed so easily.

Standing on the footpath, watching some smoking hot woman pass me by and knowing that I had to go approach her was anxiety-inducing enough, let alone when she told me to she to ‘leave me alone’.

But not the new me.

Have I developed some kind of super routine stack that will never get me blown out?

Do I have enough ‘high-octane material’ in my head which ensures that I’ll never have to face the embarrassment of having to walk away, hanging my head in shame?

No. So what changed?

Well, let me explain..

What does it mean to “be embarrassed?”

It’s when you’re looking at yourself through other peoples eyes and judging yourself.

You’re taking your opinions, attitudes, and thoughts – and assuming that someone else holds the exact same thoughts as you…

Assuming that they actually give enough of a sh*t to be watching you…

Assuming that they then have the amount of mental space to apply those thoughts to your actions..

Assuming that their thoughts about you actually matter, and then feeling a certain way because you’re sure that someone (who you’ll probably never see again) just applied all of that judgment to you.

??????????????

When you read it like that, can you see how pointless it is?

The only way you can be embarrassed is if you lie to yourself and tell yourself that you can read minds. But, if you can actually read minds, how did you not know what to say to that girl you approached?

Hmm???

So here’s the secret to never being embarrassed again.

If you’re trying to come up with a fool-proof plan, so that she never rejects you again, then you’ll probably suffer from embarrassment again.

But if you want to eradicate it forever, then you have to cut to the core – and stop focusing on the symptoms of your suffering.

The way to deal with it for good is to stop lying to yourself, admit that you know absolutely nothing about what someone else who you’ll never see again is thinking, and just focus on one simple thing:

What *YOU* desire.

That’s it.

Stop wasting your time trying to guess what everyone else is thinking. Let it all go, and go after what *YOU* want.

LoGun