Heck, I remember serving a drink or six to many loyal AI subscribers and customers over the years. It’s been great.

But all that has recently come to an abrupt end.

About a week ago I decided that I was done with bartending.

Finita. Kaput. Endski.

Why? Well, because I felt like I was in an “open relationship” with that job:

- I only did that job to get a wage
- There was no connection with the work
- I didn’t worry too much about my performance
- I didn’t care if I got fired – because I could easily get another job
- I was often drunk before, during and after work
- I would get called in at odd hours
- And I’d always turn up late

Why was it this way?

Well, I ended up having that relationship to my job because at some stage I decided that what I really wanted was an easy, fun, comfortable evening job which paid my bills..

..So that I could have the freedom to work on AI during daytime hours (which I consider my main gig, my passion and partial manifestation of my purpose).

However, I realised that there was a breakdown of integrity in this setup. See, my motives for doing bartending could be summed up as:

“I want to get a biggest possible wage for the minimum amount of work possible.”

In other words, I was being a drain on the world in that area of my life.

Recently I realised that being a drain at work is a bit like watching internet porn – it’s comfortable and pleasant but it offers little satisfaction. It’s empty.

So it was time to transform that part of my life.

And who doesn’t want to get more results from our job? More money. More satisfaction. A promotion. Boss’ acknowledgment.

When it comes to getting more results, what is the first thing that we usually focus on? That’s right, we immediately change our actions, right?

We try to work longer, harder, we endure more of our boss’ shit, we look for a better paying job, we move overseas “to try to find more opportunities” .. and so on.

If we were to put this madness into an equation, it would look something like this:

ACTIONS -> RESULTS

Different actions will yield different results, right? Sure.

We also use the same formula to quit smoking, save up money, lose weight, pick up beautiful women, be better fathers, deal with difficult family members, get a firmer 6-pack.. you name it!

Does this strategy work?

Well, of course not. Reality is very cruel to such vanities.

Why?

Because there is one crucial element missing from that formula. And that element is one of Being:

BEING -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

Your Actions and Results will correlate directly with who you’re Being.

And if who I’m Being is a man who seeks a cosy job where I’m happy to do the bare minimum so that I can pay my bills..

..then my actions will correlate with that – I’ll be an average performer, I’ll do the minimum necessary to avoid getting into shit, I’ll have no passion or zeal for the job..

..I’ll cut corners when no-one is looking..

..I’ll have no pride in my work.

And my results will also correlate with my actions: I’ll feel unsatisfied, I won’t get the good shifts, I’ll be passed for promotion, I won’t be offered responsibility and won’t get paid as much as I could be.

What’s the solution?

Well, I could intervene at the level of Actions – and motivate myself to get to work on time, not slack off, not get drunk, do the best possible job .. but as we have already discovered, it doesn’t work.

Why doesn’t it work?

Because who I’m Being – who is creating all those Actions – is still Being a drain on the universe. I’m still someone who wants to be cosy, comfy, and get paid for it.

Which is what led me to let go of Being a drain in that area of my life. I realised that results are never produced by Being in a comfort zone.

It was time for a shift. Now, what I wanted was another hospitality job which was flexible enough to fit around AI.

However, fuck being cosy, being comfortable and fuck knowing what I’m doing. Fuck being a big fish in a small pond. Which meant leaving bartending.

It was time to dive head first into a job which I wasn’t sure how to do right, and learn to swim in it, so to speak, before I ran out of air.

It was time to live outside my comfort zone. Who I was Being now could be described as:

“GIVE ME A FUCKING CHALLENGE”.

I knew that I would attract a job which fit in with that agenda. However, what I ended up attracting was pretty extraordinary.

I couldn’t think of a job that’s more suited to my needs right now. I’m working as a waiter in a little Italian restaurant, considered to be best in Sydney – right around the corner from my house in Potts Point.

The menu is in Italian, just about everyone who works there is also Italian, there’s real passion oozing out of every pore, the team love their work and at the end of the shift there is a real sense of accomplishment.

The shifts work perfectly around AI, and the pay + tips are more than I need.

Here’s the weird part.

When I walked into this restaurant to see if they’re looking for staff, I already knew I was going to work there.

On a sidenote, have you ever met a girl, and experienced the same thing?

Those moments where seconds after meeting her, you know you’re going to hook up. You like her. She likes you. You know that she knows that you like her. She knows that you know..

You know that at some yet-to-be-defined point in the future you’re going to destroy her in bed. She knows that you want to. And she wants you to. And it’s all good.

That’s integrity at play. You’re NOT operating at the level of Actions – “How can I get her to feel attracted to me?”, but at the level of Being – “This is me. I like you. And I like you even if you don’t like me.”

Getting this job was just like that.

Here’s the lesson I learned:

Results are driven by having integrity in this system:

BEING -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

When you have integrity, results have no choice but to be produced. If you really want to live your edge, you could expand this system to include Thoughts:

BEING -> THOUGHTS -> ACTIONS -> RESULTS

I invite you to notice when your Thoughts and Actions are out of alignment.

When you do, then you may want to notice that who you’re Being in that moment may not be who you’re projecting out there as Actions. Rather, you’re probably using Actions to cover up your true Being.

If you do that, your Results will suffer.

This is the reason why PUA stuff doesn’t work. It’s all Action trying to inform Being. It may look good on the surface – and you may even get laid – but there is no integrity in it.

It’s not going to transform you, expand you or nurture you – and getting women that way is a constant struggle uphill.

Most people never get Results in life because they see this formula the wrong way around. They look at it like this:

RESULTS -> ACTIONS -> THOUGHTS -> BEING

Their logic can be summed up in a sentence like this:

“Once I get more money, and have the dream job, and learn how to pick up girls, I’ll be able to do anything, I’ll be more confident, I’ll be in a position to speak my mind and I’ll be happy, open and free.”

Of course, that is the norm by which 99.9% people live. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with that. You can live a pretty decent life by following this mantra.

But we’re not here to live “decent” lives.

We’re here to realise our fullest potential, and to be extraordinary men.

Here’s what I really got from this: you can’t anything that you don’t have already. So to create Results in your life, you first have to start Being. And everything else will follow automatically.

I invite you to start noticing areas in your life where that system of integrity is out of alignment – and it will help you see why why you’re not producing the results you want in those areas.

And if you want to find out more about how to start Being someone who creates results and lives with integrity, you will find that Seduction Community Sucks book will give you a solid kickstart in that direction.

Steven

Who would’ve thought that 5 pounds of fat could be so alluring..

Who would’ve thought you would spend months, if not years, devoted to bringing that 5 pound lump with a nipple on it, back to your place?

Crazy, huh?

You know that we deal primarily with long-term benefits of inner game on this blog…

…but I figured I should also give you a few short-term solutions which you can start using IMMEDIATELY to get more of those little fun bags into your life.

Sorry, what was that?

You say there’s already too many of these “Picking Up Women 101″ guides out there?

Really, I hadn’t noticed… The 200 spam emails I get each week, promoting the latest “quick fix” and “magic bullet” wasn’t enough of an indication.

That’s why this isn’t going to be some kind of 85-step “method” which requires 3 years of “internalisation” before you actually pick up a woman.

Instead, it’s going to be a no bullshit, get to the core, cut out the crap, just work on the simple parts, easy, simple, straight forward guide to picking up women.

And you can pick up a woman in TWO easy steps.

And you have to do them in the exact order, otherwise this whole system falls apart.

That’s right. If you fuck up the order, you’re not going to pick up a woman.

STEP 1. Work out how you want your world to be.
STEP 2. Settle for nothing less than that from yourself and the people in your life.

Yeah, I get that you’re wondering how this is going to help you pick up women in field…

…when every wannabe PUA out there is telling you that you need to follow their elaborate “seduction methods” and “dating tips”.

So let’s go on a little adventure.

You can be my wingman tonight…

And I’m going to show you how it works and how it can help you make picking up women easy and fun. Sound good?

Sweet. Strap yourself in my friend, it’s going to be a wild ride.

But before we go, I should point out something. This maybe the ‘you’ now, or it maybe a future ‘you’. It may even be a ‘you’ that you’ve seen in the past and want to get back to.

Whichever one it is, it’s definitely a ‘you’ that you can access if you can break through the barriers that you’re using to hold yourself back.

One foot, then the other.

Step by step we make our way to the writhing sea of humanity that awaits our imminent arrival.

And you don’t even have to in there to experience the energy. As we turn the corner, still 20m from the thumping music and sexy women of bar, we’re greeted by a close friend: the back of the queue.

Hey, if it wasn’t popular, why would you bother going? :-)

So it’s a this point, before any of the action starts, I want you just to take a minute to implement STEP 1.

Normally, we’d do this way before we hit the bar but this is as good a point as any in this guide to do this.

So, remember to get the steps in the right order here. I know it’s complicated and can be confusing, but please try. Otherwise the whole thing is fucked up :-)

This is the point in time where most people look at me and ask ‘What the fuck do you mean by how do I want my world to be?’

And it’s a fair enough question. We’ve got an exercise in the MasterClass where we go into depth with this but for now, just consider this:

“How do you want your world to be?”…

Is essentially a question about what kind of reality are you trying to create in your future.

Who’s it going to be filled with, what are you going to do in it? How are you going to spend your time?

What are you going to think about? Where are you going to live? But for now, as we don’t have that much time, lets just leave it at.

What kind of people do you want to fill your world with? There’s all different types of people in the world, which ones are you going to choose?

- Do you want your world filled with compassionate people or arseholes?
- Do you want your world filled with caring people or dickheads?
- Do you want your world filled with respectful people or disrespectful people?
- Do you want your world filled with open and trusting people or closed down and fearful people?
- Do you want your world filled with fun and playful people or boring and serious people?
- You’re going to encounter all sorts in your journey, which ones are you going to bring in and which ones are you going to move away from?

Good. So we’ve nailed STEP 1. Think you’re ready for STEP 2?

Have a look at your answers. What kind of standards are you going to accept from people around you? Now, the important part – what kind of standards are you going to accept from yourself?

Good. Now’s a good time to introduce a quote from my favourite bed sheet wearing vegetarian, Ghandi:

“Be the change you wish to see in the world”.

He may have constantly smelt like off cabbage but he was dammed switched on.

This is when you feel a poke in the shoulder “Ummm… Are you actually part of this queue or are you just lonely and looking for people to be around?”

This is when you realise that you’ve been daydreaming so long that I’ve moved almost 5m ahead or you and you’re just standing there by yourself looking stoned.

Hey, don’t blame me, you looked like you were having fun :-)

As you catch up to me, you see me playing with a cute girl:

“Look, I’d just like to apologise in advance if my friend here drools on you. Autism is a new thing for him and he’s still learning the ropes.”

Giggling, she looks at you.

This is your chance to implement this complicated and intricate 2-STEP seduction method I just told you about. How do you respond to this? Are you going hit me and say ‘fuck off’?

Is that the kind of world you want?

Are you going to sulk and walk off? Is that the kind of world you want?

Or, are you going hang your tongue out of your mouth, shake your head around, make some retarded noises, and pretend to slobber on her shoulder?

Well, it’s your world, but I know how I want my world to be.

As your slobber inches closer and closer to her shoulder, she playfully squeals and pretends to run away. Mission accomplished :-) Or so you think…

“Hey mate, that’s not funny. My brother is autistic.”

The guy behind you obviously didn’t agree with your interpretation.

Right now, you’re faced with another set of options.

You can tell him to fuck off as you’re just mucking around, but does that match the way you want your world to be?

You can shrug it off, mumble “I’m sorry…” and turn back around, but does that match the way you want your world to be?

Or, you can sincerely apologise for any issues you’ve caused, share why you did things, and then talk to him openly and freely.

“Sorry mate, I really am. I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I was just having a laugh. It was just a joke. Here, let me make it up to you, do you want to jump ahead of us?”

He responds with:

“That’s cool mate. I just see it a bit and it pisses me off when people have a go at him. You were just having a laugh. I get it. I just get a bit edgy…”

“I understand mate. Sorry. My bad. I recon you’re just jealous because you wanted me to drool on your shoulder. It’s OK mate, you just have to ask” :-)

Just as he starts to respond, you’re greeted with 8′5″ of Tongan fury…

“Hey bro. ID???”

Now it’s time for another one of those choices – the choices that we make in every moment, of every day, of every month, of every year – how do I want my world to be?

Do I want it filled with anger? “Mate, you just have to ask! What’s your problem??”

Do I want it filled with disrespect? “Oh, you think you’re so powerful, just because you’re a doorman at a shitty bar??”

Do I want it filled with arseholes? “How do you think you are to talk to me like that? Do you know who I am?”

Or do you want it filled with compassion, understanding, openness, and fun?:

“Sorry brother, this new friend of mine was just telling me how much he desires to get naked and roll in my saliva and I got distracted” :-)

A laugh, a drivers license, and a handshake later, you’re through the door.

It’s time to play.

The little cute girly you almost drooled on in the queue is just in front of you. Decision time. Open to her or shut down?

Be playful with her of be serious? Stand back and try and thin of something clever to say, go over and make a situational comment, or walk up and pretend to drool on her shoulder again?

Good choice.

Giggles. Jumps. Hides behind her friend.

Just as a side note – God I love it when women giggle. There’s just something about it that drives me wild. Wow…

….

I need a minute…

…

Ok, done :-)

Now, back to the girl. Your shuffle over to her, playful and beaming. Enter: the AFOG.

4 foot of staunch, powerful, determination blocks your path:

“What are you doing? She has a boyfriend!.”

Decision time once again.

“Oh, that’s a pity. I’ve been saving the ‘drooling on her’ pickup for this one special moment and it’s all been a waste!! What about you, do you have a boyfriend?”

As you turn on your playful ’seducer’ look start to pretend to drool on her, she can’t help but crack a smile. Win.

AFOG steps aside, but then the true colours of your girl come out:

“Yeah, I was at this mall the other day and I saw this spastic, running around and actually drooling and shit. We just laughed at him, he looked sooo retarded…”

Decision time again.

Is this how you want your world to be? Is this the kind of woman you want in your life?

But now another decision time. How do you respond? Do you blow up? Do you just turn away in disgust? What do you do? How do you want your world to be?

“Yeah, it must be really hard for them, not having the kind of control over their bodies that we’re lucky enough to have. Anyway, have a good night.”

As you walk away, the guy from the queue appears in front of you. You can’t help yourself:

“Hey sexy, miss me?” ;-)

“Like you wouldn’t believe… Ohhh… Come to me…”

As he wraps his arms around your chest and pulls you in tight, there’s only one thing going through your head: I hope he’s for real… I mean: This guy’s cool. That’s definitely what you were thinking ;-)

As you remove yourself from his strong, yet strangely comforting embrace…

You notice for the first time, the 5′3″ sex bomb standing opposite.

Decision time. Indirect? Situational? Natural game line you’ve read somewhere? How about exactly what you were thinking?

How about genuineness, openness, and realness?

“Wow…” You turn to your new ‘gay lover’.

“She’s stunning, is that who you’ve been cheating on me with the whole time?”

As you turn to her, it appears as though blushing is in this season.

He totally camps it up:

“I’m so sorry you had to find out this way…” then he throws his arms around her. She fights him off with everything she’s got.

Apparently it’s not his girlfriend.

Decision time. Neg? Banter deck? DHV? How about exactly how you feel? How about genuineness, openness, and realness?

“Well, if you had to pick anyone, I’m glad it’s someone who’s so strikingly beautiful that I find it hard to talk… Hi…”

“Hi…” And you know the look. That coy little, downward, glance, the blush.

You know it’s on.

“Oh, no, sorry, I wasn’t talking to you.” You say shifting your body language to the guy next to her.

Slap. Pout. Apology. “Come here…” Hug.

“You’re kinda cute, where have you been all my life?”

Her smile says it all – waiting. Waiting for a Man who’s able to create a space that I can be free in.

That I can let go to. A space that’s so powerful and compelling that I would pay money, just to be allowed to spend time in it, just for a few minutes.

As you take her hand and lead her only a few steps away to some empty bar stools, another decision time approaches.

How are you going to be, now?

What kind of actions are you going to take? How are you going to be when you’re with her? How do you want this relationship to be?

Are you going to try and impress her with stories of your celebrity encounters?

Are you going to try and big note yourself with all the things you’ve done?

Or are you going to drop your boundaries, let go of the bullshit you’ve been running, and openly express your desires, passions, and plans for your future?

You open. She opens.

You don’t have to think about what to say or how to act because it comes out of your realness and openness.

You don’t run out of things to say because you’re not trying to hold anything back from her.

You don’t have to consciously read her body language to decipher what she’s communicating because your attention is fully on her and it’s obvious.

You’re not stuck in your head so you’re free to be in hers.

You’re real and open and she’s follows your lead.

It’s at this point in time you realise that I’m standing 2 feet away from you, looking at you, trying to get your attention.

As I’m a whingey, impatient, petulant child, and you’re giving me a lift home, I *politely ask* that we leave.

“Why? it’s only early”.

“Yeah, early in the morning. It’s 3:30″ You’ve been with the girl for 4 hours and you didn’t even notice.

It’s amazing how fast time flies when you find someone you actually click with.

You know this is the kind of woman you want in your life.

You know that she’s the kind of girl who embodies everything you’ve been looking for. So you tell her. And she tells you the same thing back.

“Where do you live, why don’t I give you a lift home?”

What happens next? Who knows. But you could find out soon enough, if you choose to.

Now, most seduction community guys throw this kind of thing out the window, saying:

“But there’s just steps you need to learn! There’s things that you have to implement in order to be attractive to women!”

OK, cool. Lets have a look at them.

You have to develop social proof.

You did this with both the autistic hater, the autistic guys brother, and the bouncer, because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

You have to develop attraction.

This is done by being an Alpha Male. You did this the whole night because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

You didn’t wait for other people to tell you how to live your life, you just did it your way.

You have to deal with AMOG’s.

You did this with the man hater because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

You have to qualify.

You did that with the autistic hating girl because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

You have to show attraction, or SOI (statement of interest) to her – so that she knows you like her.

You did this with the stunning girl because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

You have to develop rapport.

What is rapport? Connection. You achieve this by dropping your barriers and opening up and finding someone who’s going to open up back.

You did this with the stunning girl because you knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or others.

It’s all there.

You didn’t have to learn it, you didn’t have to try and create it, you just did it. How? You knew how you wanted your world to be and you accepted nothing less from yourself or those around you.

Am I saying that you’ll get every girl by going this way? Of course not. But you will fill your life with the kind of people who bring you intrinsic satisfaction and joy.

How does that sound to you?

Now, it’s one thing to tell you to do this but in most cases it’s really not that easy. If it were, you’d just be able walk outside and do it now.

There’s a reason we take any action in our lives and that includes the way we act around women. There’s much deeper layers going on.

To help you start uncovering them, and let the amazing guy inside you come out, we’ve created the MasterClass MKII.

At the end of Feb we will be taking on a few students, so if walking into a club and being carefree, not stuck in your head, and open is your cup of tea, then keep an eye out on Steven’s emails and this blog.

LoGun

Your mum probably told you about just as many times as your friends did.

And, funnily enough, it’s one of the few pieces of information that has transcended the community from the general population.

But unless you’re very careful, developing confidence can be one of the very things that holds you back from getting the success with women you want.

It can take a relatively straightforward journey and turn it into a never ending roller-coaster of brilliant highs and miserable lows.

Lets try a little exercise here:

I want you to imagine yourself at your most confident.

I want you to put yourself back in the place in your life where you’ve just felt invincible, like nothing could stop you.

It may have been when you got that girl you were chasing, it may have been that night where it was just on with every girl you saw, it may have been when you won your football grand-final, whatever it is:

Find your place of power.

How does it feel to you? How does it feel to be there? If you haven’t got a place you can recall, just visualise a confident version of yourself.

Then imagine the woman of your dreams standing in front of whatever your image of perfection in this moment happens to be. Is she blonde? Brunette? Curves? Model thin?

Then imagine her standing, looking at you, smiling, with that look of love and devotion, how does it feel?
And then it changes.

All of a sudden it’s not love any more, it’s slowly changing. First to indifference, then to unfamiliarity, then to distrust, and finally, hate.

“I don’t like you. You’re not worthy of me.” She says. “You’re not worthy of anything, you’re just shit. You’re just a piece of shit. You’re not fun, you’re not cool, you’re just shit at life.”

Yeah… It’s pretty rough.

We’ve all been there. And yes, you’re going to like shit if something like that was to happen.

But what are your thoughts about what she’s said? Do you sit there, wallowing in self pity or do you accept that she thinks that and move on with your journey?

If you’re anything like most guys in the community, you’ve just hit the downward side of the roller-coaster.

You’ve just taken the plunge down that slippery, slippery slope that’s going to put you right back where you started again.

But this doesn’t happen to everyone.

Some people are able to bounce back very quickly from something like this and can even take it as a positive step forward in them finding the woman of their dreams.

What’s the difference?

There’s one key element of true self confidence that’s lacking that means you get stuck on this ride.

The community tells you that the way to becoming more confident is performing the same action successfully, again and again.

It says that when you can achieve an outcome repeatedly, then you will be confident. And it can feel like that too! But basing your confidence on your ability to achieve a specific outcome can be very dangerous.

Why?

I want you to imagine yourself in your favourite bar. Then you see the girl of your dreams. Can you guarantee that you can make her like you? Can you guarantee that she’s going to want to be with you?

No. You cannot.

Even if you were the most awesome person in the entire world, even if you were the Dalai Lama, you still could not guarantee anything.

Why? Because she’s a human being.

She’s had experiences, interpreted those experiences, and come up with a totally different map of the world to you.

She may dislike you because of the colour of your skin. She may dislike you because of the way you dress.

She may dislike you because of your height. She may just be in a really shit mood; she may have just seen her ex-boyfriend hooking up with another girl, you don’t know.

You cannot guarantee this external outcome.

Or ANY external outcome for that matter.

If you base how good you feel about yourself on your ability to achieve an external outcome, you’re trapping yourself on an endless roller-coaster.

You cannot now, or ever will you be able to, guarantee an external outcome. Ever.

There is no way it’s possible because there are factors involved in achieving an external outcome that lie outside your control because they’re external to you.

They’re simply not in your sphere of influence.

You may be able to increase the likelihood of success by accounting and preparing for these possible external elements but there will always be a chance of failure.

If you choose to base your self confidence on this then you’re going to be riding the seduction roller-coaster forever.

You’ll be stuck relying on the next big guru to give you the latest piece of technology to overcome these continually occurring problems.

If you study and study and study, you may be able to get to a point where you’re able to get the girls you want fairly consistently, and during this time, you’re going to feel pretty good about yourself.

But as soon as you can’t, it’s all going to go downhill.

Mystery’s breakdown in Style’s famous book ‘The Game’ (pg. 193) is a perfect example of this.

He’s traveling around America, seducing women, feeling great, then all of a sudden, a girl he’s interested in goes back to her boyfriend and-

“Mystery went quiet. He didn’t speak for ten minutes. Whenever we asked him a question, he responded monosyllabically. It wasn’t that he loved Carly, he just hated rejection” (p.181).

From there, he goes to see his ex-girlfriend. She’s lost 15 pounds, has a great arse and wont take him back because she’s seeing other guys.

He gets worse.

He goes from threatening a Reverend with a knife to locking himself in his apartment and spending days masturbating to internet porn.

This ‘black hole sucking up attention’ (p.192) was surviving on anti-depressants just so he could sleep.
The roller-coaster he’s riding moves closer and closer to the bottom of its journey.

He was thinking about death a lot, thinking about hurting himself and doing something destructive, and suicide -
“When I’m awake, life sucks. It’s futile” (p.199).

Mystery’s feelings of self worth are based off his ability to achieve external results.

Being ‘the world’s greatest pickup artist’ is the source of his confidence and when he doesn’t live up to that image, he goes completely down hill.

The only thing that was able to pull him out of that dark, dark place was months of therapy. Does that sound like something you want to choose to bring into your life?

So what do you do? How do you get off this roller-coaster and still be able to get the results you want?

The problem is based around how you value yourself.

If you’re looking at external factors to let you know how good you are, you’re going to keep getting the same result: up and down and up and down. It’s a never ending ride.

The secret to getting off this roller-coaster is shifting how you value yourself.

The self-confidence that the seduction gurus have been ramming down your throat is self-belief, which is only one component of self-confidence.

There are two major parts to confidence.

Other major part that they’re missing is self acceptance.

Self-acceptance isn’t about feeling good because you’re good at this, or can do that, or can get this goal. It’s about feeling good about regardless of what you can or can’t do.

It’s about fully accepting yourself, as you are, right now, and that in this moment, you could not be anything other than what you are, right now.

Lets say you were back standing in front of the woman of your dreams again.

You’re standing looking at her smile…

…Looking at her as that smile turns to a from of hate, and she lets go on you again. If you’d based your self worth on how she reacts to you, you’re going to feel like shit.

But, if you based your self worth on how much fun you create in your life and how much you love yourself for the sake of loving yourself, then you might feel a bit sad, but you also might feel a bit happy.

Sadness would come from the fact that she’s not the girl of your dreams, but happiness would come from knowing automatically that…

This girl isn’t actually the girl of your dreams.

And you didn’t waste years of your life with her. You can move on from her and find the actual girl of your dreams.

Here’s something to play with in your mind:

If how you feel when she tells you to fuck off depends on how you feel about yourself, is it going to be a faster path to mastery to keep learning new and different ways to stop her from telling you to fuck off?

Or is it going to be faster to simply feel better about your self? So, the inevitable question, how do you develop self-acceptance?

Well, just hold on to your horses for a minute.

I’m going to go through and explain how the issue you’re facing here is at the core of just about every issue your facing and then I’ll show you how you can solve them all at once.

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If you think about it, the only thing that has ever held you back from approaching that gorgeous woman has been an assumption.

Two assumptions, actually.

The first is that you assume whatever it is you assume about the scenario – e.g., “She’s with her friends and doesn’t want to be disturbed”…

Or, “That dude is probably her boyfriend”…

Or, “She’s too busy, I’ll approach later”.

The second assumption is that you assume your first assumption is truth.

How do you like that one?

It is a real game changer though, because those original thoughts can’t exist anymore as fact: they are simply noise that is now irrelevant to this scenario.

You see, when you think, “I can’t approach that woman because she’s with a dude who is probably her boyfriend”, that can’t mean anything anymore, because you don’t know.

You always never knew, you’re just realizing that as the only fact that matters now.

When you realize this, those thoughts can’t stop you anymore, because you know nothing.

So now, instead of doing nothing, you simply know nothing, which frees you up to do something: go up and find out.

You never know what opportunity could be awaiting you.

Jonathon

1. The Role Models:

Dating advice: “Here’s Mystery / Style / other guru, expert. This is how an attractive man behaves. Now go imitate him.”

Religion: “Here’s Jesus / Mohammad / other deity / saint. This is how a good man behaves. Now go imitate him.

2. The Promises:

Dating advice: “If you learn and live by the teachings of this dating guru long enough, you’ll reach the place of sexual abundance, be happy, you’ll fuck virgins, have multiple long term relationships.

Religion: “If you learn and live by the teachings of this deity long enough, you’ll go to heaven, be happy / have eternal life / fuck virgins / have multiple long term relationships”.

3. The Reality:

Dating advice: If you learn and live by the teachings of this dating guru long enough, you’ll still be the same guy, albeit with a head full of confusing theory. You’ll be tempted to become an “online guru”, confidently dispensing dating advice to “chumps”, “chodes” and “AFCs”, and secretly hoping that your own success with women is just around the corner.

Religion: If you learn and live by the teachings of this deity long enough, you’ll still be the same guy, albeit with a head full of confusing scripture. You’ll be tempted to preach your new-found knowledge to “worldly” people and “sinners” during coffee breaks and at bus stops, secretly hoping a better life is just around the corner.

4. The Stumbling Blocks:

Dating advice: If you are somewhere between MPUA and AFC, you’ll end up in a seduction lair.

Religion: If you’re neither saint or sinner, you’ll end up in a purgatory.

5. The Contradictions:

Dating advice: There are plenty of seduction methods to choose from. Every dating guru you meet will tell you that his seduction method is the quickest path into women’s panties. He will happily show you “inconsistencies” in other seduction methods. He will remain oblivious to inconsistencies in his own.

Religion: There are plenty of religions to choose from. Every minister / preacher you meet will tell you that his religion is the most accurate interpretation of God’s message and that everybody else got it wrong. He will happily show you evidence of inconsistencies in other religions. He will remain oblivious to inconsistencies in his own.

6. The Women:

Dating advice: Repress your true feelings for women. If you express what you desire, and act unashamedly upon those desires, you’re going to get blown out. It is wrong.

Religion: Repress your true feelings for them. If you expressing what you desire, and act upon your desire, you’re going straight to hell. It’s wrong.

7. You Are:

Dating advice: You’re broken. You need fixing and guidance. Without dating advice you’ll be a frustrated “hey, let’s just be friends” chump forever.

Religion: You’re imperfect. You need salvation and guidance. Without dating advice you’ll be a rudderless sinner and possibly be destroyed at Armageddon / burn in a fiery pit.

So, let’s begin ;)

Seduction Community Prediction #1: People Will Stop Using The Term “Seduction Community”.

At the moment, the climate on a lot of seduction community forums is that of:

“We’re here for self-development, now just learning how to pick up women”.

Thing is, for many guys this mindset is still just a veiled attempt at being “unattached to the outcome” when approaching women.

But as time goes on, I feel that genuine interest in self development will awaken in many more guy…

…and picking up women will increasingly be seen as a by-product of fulfilled life – rather than its end goal.

Prediction #2: PUAs & Mystery Method Will Continue To Exist.

Every day a few hundred men get frustrated at their lack of success with women – to the point where they decide to do something about it.

Inevitably, they sit down in front of their computer, swallow their pride, and type into Google something like, “how to pick up women” or “how to approach women” or “dating tips”…

0.031 seconds later they have the “answers” at their fingertips…

And they begin reading. Soaking up dating theory, tips, routines, openers and techniques like a sponge.

Whilst for most guys having this knowledge feels like progress (“so this is why women see me just as a friend!!”)…

…It takes some time to realise that intellectually knowing the answers – having the answers – leads merely to being a very good imitator of the real deal.

To actually BECOME the real deal requires dealing with one’s true organic experience. And that is a process of removing layers of knowledge, rather than piling more on.

So, Mystery Method will continue to act as a necessary step in the lives of many men…

… To give them first hand experience of what DOESN’T offer them all the success they’re looking for – thereby motivating them to go out and look deeper for stuff that does.

Prediction #3: Many More Dating Gurus Will Emerge…

The Internet has made it possible for anyone with $200 to make a decent-looking website, slap together some content, and declare themselves a “guru”.

Whilst not many of those gurus will ever actually help anyone, and even fewer will make their website into a profitable business, many will continue to spring up …

Prediction #4: And Many Existing Dating Gurus Will Vanish.

This increased competition will separate the wheat from the chaff.

And many dating gurus who are currently in the business of just repackaging the same old stuff in an attempt to make a quick buck will vanish from the sphere of visibility…

… while the power of social media will help spread the word about those who truly are producing foundation-changing stuff, bring them to the spotlight.

And they will do amazing things.

Prediction #5: I will not get accepted into the Sydney Lair.

Doesn’t mean I won’t stop trying :)

Prediction #6: We Will Fail…

Every one of us will – at least once – end up standing next to a beautiful woman and racking our head for something to say.

It may happen in a line waiting for coffee, or on a bus, or waiting for the little man to go green…

But it will happen. And as soon as she is gone we will be kicking ourselves for not saying anything at all.

Prediction #7: And We Will Succeed.

Every one of us will strike up a conversation with a woman without worrying about what “the right thing” to say to her is, or what she is thinking…

And it will be a conversation of purity, freedom of expression and joy.

Prediction #8: LoGun will become louder.

Doesn’t mean we won’t try to silence him ;)

Steven

There are definitely things that you need to learn in order to attract women.

And without them, you’re never going to get the success you’re looking for.

EVER.

You’re going to relegated to her “let’s just be friends” zone for the rest of your life with all the other AFC’s.

The first thing you should learn is how to “open” women.

Because without that, you can’t start a conversation with them.

You must learn opinion openers.

(To show that you don’t find her attractive without knowing anything about her).

This one is very necessary.

Without this, you wont be able to demonstrate to her that you have standards in your life that run beyond the superficial elements of how she looks.

But you should also learn some direct openers. To show women that you’re attracted to them and have the balls to say what you think.

Then, once you’ve done that, you should learn high-octane attraction material.

Especially DHV’s.

(To show that you’re the kind of guy who goes after what he wants in life and therefore lives an exciting life filled with passion and adventure).

Oh, and don’t forget to learn some Alpha Male characteristics – to demonstrate that you’re willing to stand up for what you believe in.

Then, you need to learn qualification.

NEED. This one is crucial.

You need to learn this to convince her that you have standards in your life and that you’re only going to accept people who live up to them.

Once you’ve made your way through qualification, you should probably learn a couple of routine stacks.

This way, even if she’s the kind of woman you have nothing in common with and really have nothing to talk about with, you can continue the conversation.

Then, after you’ve made your way through that, you should learn how to close women properly.

If you don’t, there’s no way you’re going to be able to ask her for her phone number. It’s just faaaaaarrrrr too complicated to do without learning some powerful closing techniques.

So, to quickly recap:

– You should learn indirect openers to prove that you’re not attracted to her without knowing something deeper about her

– You should learn direct openers to show her you have the balls to go after what you want in life

– You should learn DHV’s to convince her that you lead an exciting life that she wants to be part of

– You should learn Alpha Male characteristics to show her that you stand up for what you believe in

– You should learn qualification to prove to her that you have standards for the people you bring into you life

– You should learn closing to make sure she doesn’t “slip away” after you spent all that time “gaming” her.

You should learn all these skills…

…one by one.

…So that you can pretend to be the kind of guy that does all these things naturally.

You should devote months and months, or even years, to sitting behind a computer screen, reading and reading, and then going out in field to implement these concepts…

…one at a time.

Until you do all these things without thinking, just so you can convince her that all these attractive elements are part of who you really are.

It’s obviously the easiest and most fun way. And the most authentic. That’s how a real man behaves, isn’t it?

Because you couldn’t just become the guy who actually has standards.

You couldn’t just get rid of the roadblocks that are preventing you from going after what you want in life.

You couldn’t just get rid of the excuses that you’re using to prevent yourself from actually BEING the kind of guy who does these things naturally…

…who knows what he wants in life and unashamedly goes after it.

That would be far too simple, quick, and easy.

You NEED to just pretend to do these things and hope that she doesn’t see through your thin facade.

You need to spend your life, changing who you are, just so that women who you don’t actually have anything in common with will hang out with you.

If you just hide the fact that you would be the kind of guy that she’s naturally drawn to if you didn’t use all these mental barriers to hold yourself back…

…she’ll definitely want to spend lots of time with you.

And that time will be rewarding and fulfilling because she’ll like you for who you pretend to be, rather than who you actually are.

LoGun

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You owe it to yourself.

You owe it to yourself to sit in front of the computer for hours trying to memorise the next step in the sequence.

You owe it to yourself to repress your core, masculine self under layers and layers of someone else’s personality.

An most importantly, you owe it to yourself to blame someone else in the world for where you are now and why you haven’t got the success you want.

Because it’s not until you realise that-

-There’s no easy way out

That there’s no magic bullet, and you’re ready to take responsibility for where you are and the issues you face in your life…

That you’re going to be ready to see that there is some deeper stuff going on.

Until that point in time, you’re still going to be wondering,

“Do I really have to go through all this stuff? Do I really have to look inside?

“Do I really have to dig into excuses that I’ve been feeding myself for so many years to see that they’re solely my creation?”

And you’re not going to be committed to real change.

You’re going to have one foot out the door, you’re going to hold back in the exercises, and you’re not going to get the life transforming results that you’ve been looking for.

You’re not going to see the barriers that you’ve been using to sabotage your own success, just melt away.

You’re not going to experience the complete social freedom and feel the uncontrollable joy that you’ve been searching for.

And you’re not going to wake up next to the smiling faces of those beautiful women you’ve been watching from the sidelines for so long.

So please, go and “learn” how to seduce women – rather becoming the kind of real man who women flock to.

Learn how to put a bandaid after bandaid on top of your fears to have them rear their ugly head when you least expect it…

…Rather than dissolving them..

So that they’re never part of your life again.

And hide your true self away until you’ve proven to yourself that that’s never going to get you what you want.

Then, we can talk.

LoGun

A community full of guys who could teach you how to attract the women you wanted.

And not only that, but also how to get the happiness you wanted.

Those HB9’s and HB10’s who so elusively strut around the club. Finally, you’d have the answers which would mean they’re no longer out of your league.

But there’s a few things those seduction community gurus didn’t tell you…

I’m not surprised, though.

If they did, there’s no reason you’d stick around on their mailing lists, lapping up their latest must-have DVD series and killer audio books…

(I just went through one ‘guru’s’ product list and there was nearly 15 items on it. That’s a whole bunch of products he has to convince you that you need to support his rockstar lifestyle.)

So what are these things which they don’t want you to know?

Well, how about this one for starters:

Not only is sarging trapping you in the merry-go-round of needing product after product, but it’s also the number reason why you’re not getting those results you so desperately want.

Sound strange? Well, think about it like this:

What is “sarging”? It’s learning how to go out and pick up women, right?

Therefore, whether or not you like to mention it, your success criteria for a night out sarging is:

“How many women do I pick up?”

Great. Now I’m sure that you guys all know the massive negative effects that neediness has on any interaction.

So consider this: how are you supposed to stay non-needy when needing a woman to feel attracted to you to meet your success criteria?

How are you supposed to avoid the clingy-ness and desperation that comes from needing her to feel attracted to you – when the only thing you’ve gone out for is to make a woman feel attracted to you?

Defining the end result of seduction as your success criteria is the very thing that’s preventing you from actually seducing her.

Sarging is making you worse with women.

And do you wonder why you need to learn all those techniques and tactics?

How are you supposed to appear non-needy with that purpose without learning these ‘latest seduction secrets and tactics’? Easy!

Simply fill your head with all the actions, words and tactics you’d use if you were not needy and relying on her to finally succeed at life .

They have been “reverse-engineered” for you by “dating gurus” and sold as part of a DVD program. Nice.

Do you wonder why you need to constantly refer back to community forums so that latest seduction guru can tell you the elusive ‘next step’?

Do you wonder why you MUST HAVE that just released DVD series so you know how to apply kino whilst running shop assistant game on Thursdays, whilst executing the “moonwalk up my arse opener”…

…whilst wearing your DHV jeans?

Do you wonder why you’re trapped in that endless cycle of trying, failing, and then trying to get that one final piece of information that’s going to get you over the hump?

Because the one thing that the seduction community promised it was the answer to, is actually what it maintains.

The underlying issues that was preventing you from getting success with women before you found the seduction community is the one thing that the seduction community keeps on reinforcing.

It’s reinforcing that meeting women is a complicated and tricky process that requires massive amounts of knowledge and huge amounts of experience in order to get the results you want.

And It does!

…When you’re trying to hide your desperate sense of neediness under layers of alpha behaviour, mindsets and routines.

But what if there was a better way.

What if, instead of clinging to women like they were your last chance at happiness and desperately trying to drag a woman into your seductive web, your took a different approach?

What if, you started finding your happiness away from her?

What if you derived your personal sense of satisfaction and fulfillment from something other than how hot your mates thought your girlfriend was?

What if you stood on your feet, got in touch with what you believe in, why you believe in it, and pursued it passionately?

Do you think people, especially powerful, confident women, would want to spend time with you?

Do you think you’d have to spend so much time trying to convince them to be part of your life?

And, most importantly, do you think you’d need to desperately try and convince them to be part of your world whilst all the time, disguising your debilitating sense of loneliness, neediness, and inadequacy?

If you didn’t have this underlying neediness, how many routines and structures would you have to learn to try and hide it?

If you were the kind of guy people wanted to be around, how much time would you have to devote to developing structures to try and convey that to people?

And how long do you think it would take to develop them?

If you lived the kind of life that people wanted to be part of, how much time would you have to devote to getting people to be part of it?

Am I saying that you’ll be able to get every girl?

Of course not.

But the ones you will get will love you for who you are. And you wont be condemning yourself to having to maintain your thin facade every time you hang out together.

Now, I’m not saying that the community can’t help you get women. It can, and has for a lot of guys! But what kind of women do they attract?

Well, if the typical guy who’s getting success through the community is the kind of guy who’s learned to hide his neediness and loneliness for long enough to trick her into sleeping with him, what kind of women would he get?

What kind of woman do you think would overlook his lies for long enough to give herself to him?

Do you think she’d be a powerful, strong woman who had high self esteem and lived an exciting life? Or do you think she’d be lonely, unsure, and self-conscious, not believing that she was worth any better?

Hmm…

What kind of women do you want to attract into your life?

And how easy and quick do you want to make that process?

LoGun

I will admit it. I like the fact that this humble blog just got ranked in the top 200,000 websites in the world.

Well, 199,340th today, to be exact.

Which may seem like not much, until you consider that there are something like 6 BILLION websites out there..

Which means what you’re reading right now ranks in the top 5% of the Web…

And that means we’re still behind most high-grade German porn, but just in front of the Church Of Satan (ranked 204,402nd). Go team!

2. Some Have Called Us “Reluctant Gurus”.

LoGun and I find it invigorating to bring you stuff which puts most seduction community ‘truths’ on their head…

…And to help you with your inner game on your deepest level – so that you can live effortlessly and free, with no hang-ups.

But we don’t want to be in the spotlight all the time, like those celebrity “rock star” dating gurus or whatever. We are bartenders with a lot of stuff going on in our lives …

LoGun coaches a football team. And I’m preparing my car for next year’s Supersprint Championships (my goal is to complete one race without the car catching fire).

3. Coming Out Of The Underground.

When the word about our original Advanced Inner Game MasterClass began circulating in the seduction community, it felt like we hit the nail on the head.

And It was a bit unexpected to have instructors from other seduction companies anonymously contact us and request inner game coaching.

I mean, it felt good to be recognised in our field, and see that our stuff was helping guys become real Men.

But it all kinda all got out of control at some stage .. the word about the MasterClass spread, and we were swamped with emails, PMs and the phone was ringing off the hook….

So maybe staying out of the spotlight would be more difficult than we thought.

4. Old Friends.

I love catching up with old MasterClass students, to see what they’re up to these days.

A few days ago, I caught up with Sean, who took the course about 6 months ago. This is what good (and bad) stuff he had to say about his MasterClass experience:

Heh, and I only paid him a few hundred bucks to say all that ;)

5. What Is MasterClass MKII, In 99 Words Or Less?

Put it this way. If you break a finger, your life will probably not end. I mean, you may live in discomfort, but you will live.

Well, similarly, not having rock-solid inner game is not going to kill you. You may even learn to pick up girls without it. Just learn some outer ‘game’, and you’ll get lucky every now and then.

But it probably won’t be an effortless existence, and every day of your life you’ll get reminded that something isn’t quite as good as it could be….

For example, you may feel the need to ‘eject’ on a high note, before you screw things up with a girl. Or you may have half of all the women you approach flake on you.

How do you solve this?

In the case of a broken finger, you have two options.

—-> Option 1, ignore the break, keep relieving the pain with some pills and let the finger heal over the break … you’ll probably find that you don’t have 100% functionality, but you will continue to get by.

—-> Option 2, put a splint on your finger, let the finger heal STRAIGHT, and in a few weeks have your finger which is as good as new.

The MasterClass MKII, metaphorically speaking, IS THE SPLINT. You apply it for 30 days, by downloading 1 video lesson per day.

Which means you have two options. You can apply the splint, fix the break and move on.

Or you can continue ignoring it and keep popping the pain reliever pills (in the form of mainstream seduction community DVD programs and workshops) and continue just getting by.

The choice if yours.

Steven

P.S. I noticed that quite a few guys have already registered to be on the priority notification list on the MasterClass MK II website:

http://www.becometherealdeal.com

If you are serious about making a change, I suggest you also head over there and put your name down. Those on the list will be ‘first in line’ when the gates open, so to speak.

P.P.S. Please don’t put your name down if you’re not that serious … I really want the 30 or so spots we’re planning to release go to those guys who are ready to make a change.

Here’s the website again:

http://www.becometherealdeal.com