How To Be Attractive To Women

by Leigh (LoGun) · No Comments

‘The Reason She’s Not Attract To You’ seems to have hit a nerve with a lot of guys.

Since that post went up, I’ve been flooded with emails asking:

What makes her feel the way she feels around me? What’s causing it? What’s stopping her from being attracted to me? Why doesn’t she feel safe, secure, sexy, excited, and challenged?

It was taking far too long to answer them all individually (I apologise if I haven’t gotten to your email yet) so I thought I’d get them all out of the way at once.

So here goes:

What is it that makes her feel the way she feels when she interacts with you?

I’ve already said in How To Attract Women that it’s not your actions and that it’s something deeper.

I’ve always struggled to articulate what that ‘something deeper’ was until I read it in Malcom Gladwell’s Blink:

“Whenever we experience a basic emotion, that emotion is expressed by the muscles of the face. That response may only linger on the face for a fraction of a second… but it’s always there.”

Can you guess what this means for you and your interactions with women?

Every time you feel nervous, it’s written across your face.

Every time you feel fear, it’s written across your face.

Every time you feel pain, it’s written across your face.

It may only be for a fraction of a second but if she’s paying attention, then she’s going to notice it.

“So what does this have to do with whether or not she’s attracted to me?”

If you feel fear and she notices it, how do you think she’s going to feel?

If she already feels safe and secure, she could feel anything from sympathy to disgust (yes, it’s very possible).

If she doesn’t feel safe and secure then it’s probably going to be fear as well.

Regardless, it’s definitely not going to be safety, strength, appreciation, sexiness, excitement and challenge, is it?

If you feel pain and she notices it, what do you think she’s going to feel?

What about anxiety?

What about confusion?

The only woman that’s going to be attracted to that is someone who’s looking for someone they can mother. Is that really the kind of relationship you’re looking for?

But what about this:

What if she throws a challenge at you and you stay strong and comfortable in front of her challenge, how is she going to feel then?

What if she tests you and you stay strong in the face of her tests, how is she going to feel then?

What about if she pushes your buttons and she can see that you experience excitement?

What is she going to feel then?

If you can stand strong and powerfully in front of her and the challenges that the world throws at you, feeling powerful and excited, and she can see it in the expressions in your face, how do you think she’s going to feel?

Do you think she’s going feel fear or safety?

Do you think she’s going to feel confusion or excitement?

This ‘something deeper’ that’s preventing you from attracting the women you want is your emotional responses.

It’s the fear, nervousness, confusion and pain that you experience when you’re interacting with a beautiful woman.

The way they’re preventing you from attracting the woman you want is that they’re creating a space where she doesn’t get to feel the way she wants to feel.

When you feel fear, she’s not going to feel safe, secure, sexy, or excited.

When you feel pain, she’s not going to feel safe, secure, sexy, or excited.

When you feel anxiety, she’s not going to feel safe, secure, sexy, or excited.

The first step in helping a woman feel the way she wants to feel and attracting her into your life…

…is to help yourself feel the way you want to feel.

If you don’t feel strong, confident, and powerful in the face of the challenges that life throws at you, then how can you EVER hope to help her feel the way she wants to feel?

So, I’ll ask you the same question I asked you in the ‘The Reason She’s Not Attracted To You’ post:

How do you feel when you’re interacting with beautiful women?

Can you see why she’s not attracted to you?

Now, the question that’s at the tip of your tongue is ‘how do you change this?’

Well…

There are three basic pathways that you can follow to feel the way you want to feel and the one you choose is going to determine how easy, effortless, and simple your journey is.

The first pathway is what I call Getting.

It’s where you try and get your feelings of safety, security, and certainty from the outside world – from the reactions of other people, from the material wealth you can accumulate, from the amount of information and solutions you can learn, and from the outcomes of your actions.

All the barriers you face in feeling the way you want to in this pathway are determined by your ability to control the external environment.

The second pathway is what I call Doing.

It’s where you try and get your feelings of safety, security, and certainty from within – from the way you challenge and push yourself, from the standards you live your life by, and from the actions you take, regardless of the outcomes.

All the barriers you face in feeling the way you want to feel through Doing are determined by how well you are in touch with the world you want to create and your ability to find new challenges and barriers to overcome.

The third pathway is what I call Creating.

It’s where you already feel safe, secure, and certain from within and you use that inner certainty to help create a better world – from helping remove barriers for others and give back to the world around you.

The barriers you face in experiencing certainty through this pathway and all determined by your ability to find new challenges to overcome and find powerful solutions for them.

This is obviously a VERY shallow overview of the different pathways.

If you want to know more about how to be the kind of Man who feels safe, secure, and certain about his world and can effortlessly share that with women around him…

…check out Endgame.

In it, you’ll find out how these pathways not only create every barrier you face in attracting and seducing the women you want but also how they create every barrier you face in your entire life.

Then, I’ll give you the tools you need to change pathways and overcome every barrier you face so that attracting and seducing women becomes a natural by-product of the way you live your life.

You can find out all the details about Endgame here:

Learn to Attract Women Effortlessly through Endgame

Leigh

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