How To Change Your Purpose

I’m a massive fan of Nike’s famous slogan ‘Just do it’.

Activities are ALWAYS difficult until you start them.

Like approaching: the scariest part is always the first few steps, or the second before you open your mouth. Once you start, it’s much easier.

Decisions are ALWAYS tough until you make them.

Like deciding to go against the main stream and do something differently. It can be tough at first, but once you jump into the stream, everything is easy.

But does ‘Just Do It’ relate to changing your purpose?

Can you just change your purpose by flipping a switch?

Initially, I thought you could. I thought it was as easy as flicking a switch.

Until I tried it again and failed.

I then tried it out by coaching a few guys. Some guys got it once then failed. Some guys failed once then got it, then failed.

If it was working sometimes, but failing others, there had to be something else underneath it.

There had to be a deeper mechanism at play.

It took me nearly 8 years of personal investigation and coaching to fully understand what was going on and how to change your purpose…

…but I found it.

And here it is:

The core element that drives your purpose is called your Script.

It’s a really simple mechanism and it’s responsible for every problem you face.

It’s responsible for you:

- Being crippled by approach anxiety

- Running out of things to say

- Allowing fear to rule your life

- Not following your dreams

- Supplicating in front of beautiful women

- Getting lazy at work

- Being needy with your friends

- And just about any other problem that pops up in your life

Your Script has three key parts:

1. How you currently feel

2. How you want to feel

3. What you think you need to do to bridge the gap

Think of it like a computer script – I’m currently at point X, I need to perform this action, this action, and this action, and then I’ll make it to point Y.

It’s the same thing that’s running through the underlying layers of your subconscious.

You’re currently at point X (feeling one way) and you need to perform this action / get this outcome and this one and this one to get to point Y (feel a different way).

Whatever you think you need to do to bridge the gap will determine your purpose.

For example:

If you currently feel lonely, you want to feel connected, and you think you need to get approval from everyone around you to feel connected, then your purpose is going to be to trick people into liking you.

If you currently feel powerless, you want to feel powerful, and you think you need get people to do what you want them to do to feel powerful, then your purpose is going to be to get people to do what you want them to do.

But they’re not the only way to bridge the gap to feel powerful and connected…

If you feel lonely, you want to feel connected, and you think you need to be honest, open and real with people to feel connected, then your purpose is going to be to open up to people and find the ones you naturally connect with.

If you feel powerless, you want to feel powerful, and you think you need to push through fears and barriers to feel powerful, then your purpose is going to be to find barriers and push through them.

Your Script controls your purpose in any interaction with women, which then controls where you focus and how you act.

If you think you need to get a hot girlfriend to get the approval of your mates, then your purpose is going to be to manipulate women into liking you.

You’re going to be constantly stuck in your head trying to come up with ways to try and ‘get’ her and be incredibly needy because your entire sense of self worth depends on her response.

You’re going to make your interactions really safe to avoid rejection, you’re going to have massive anxiety because you’re afraid of not getting her, and you’re not going to share yourself openly because your feeling of approval rides on you getting her.

If you think you need to get people to do what you want to feel powerful then your purpose is going to be to try and control the women around you.

You’re going to be stuck in your head trying to work out ways of making people act the way you want them to and very frustrated and angry when they don’t.

Your interactions are going to be very confronting and aggressive as you try and push people around.

Your Script controls your purpose when talking to women.

And because it controls your purpose, it controls how you look at them, what you talk about, how strong you are when they challenge you, how willing you are to push your boundaries, and everything else that’s going on.

It’s the underlying core that’s creating every issue you face with women.

And it’s causing every issue you face in life.

To change your purpose, you just need to change your Script.

Specifically, you need to change the way you bridge the gap between how you feel and how you want to feel.

This is the key.

If you can change this, then everything will change.

- You can change from being paralysed with anxiety when you see a beautiful woman to curious with wonder.

- You can change from being stuck in your head trying to come up with the right thing to say to flowing effortlessly.

- You can change from being embarrassed as soon as something doesn’t go smoothly to being excited that things are different and new.

- You can change from being terrified of intimidating women to excited by the possibility of challenge.

Everything can change when you change your Script.

Think about this:

- If you could find a way to feel powerful and strong through the act of approaching rather than how she responded to you, how would it change your interactions with women?

- If you could feel deeply connected and validated through the way you share yourself with people, regardless of the way they respond to you, how would it change your interactions with women?

- If you could feel free and open through the actions you take, rather than the permission you got from people around you, how would it change your interactions with women?

The next obvious question is: “How do you change your Script?”

This is a good question.

If it’s the key to changing your purpose and eliminating every barrier that’s in your way with women, then I’m sure you want to know how.

Well, there’s something you need to do before you change your Script. You need to identify your current one. You can’t change something when you don’t know what it is.

So what’s your current Script?

1. How do you currently feel around beautiful women?

If you’re having issues working it out, go out to a club, find a beautiful woman, look at her, and ask yourself – how do I currently feel? What am I currently experiencing?

Do I feel shut down? Closed off? Isolated? Alone?

Or do I feel Powerful? Connected? Free? Open? Strong? In control? Worthy?

2. How do you want to feel?

As you’re standing in front of this woman, ask yourself – how do I want to feel? What experience do I want to have now?

Do I want to be shut down? Closed off? Isolated? Alone?

Or do I want to feel Powerful? Connected? Free? Open? Strong? In control? Worthy?

3. And how are you trying to bridge that gap?

This one can be a little trickier to work out so here’s a little a little progression you can use.

Have a look at the way you’re acting. Are you being free, open, honest, and real, or closed off, shut down, and fake?

What does that say about where you’re focusing? Are you focusing on what you want to do and how you want to live your life? Or are you focusing on what other people might think or you and how you’re perceived?

What does this say about what your purpose? Are you trying to create and build an incredible and beautiful life? Or are you trying to get your sense of self worth from the outside world?

What does this let you know about your script? What does this tell you about how you bridge your gap?

Now: how to change your Script.

This part requires a little creativity.

What’s a different way you can experience what you want in a way that means you don’t have to manipulate, use, and trick other people into giving you what you want?

How can you experience what you desire in a way that allows you to have that experience, regardless of how people respond to you?

Finding this is the key.

If you can find a different way to experience what you want, everything becomes easy.

- It won’t make you better at getting people to like you. It’ll make it so you just don’t care. You’ll be able to experience what you want, regardless of what they think.

- It won’t make her panties hit the floor as soon as you open your mouth. It’ll mean that you won’t want them to. You’ll be more concerned about whether or not she’s your kind of woman to care.

- It won’t make your mates green with envy with your amazing skills. It’ll mean you don’t care whether or not they envy you. You’ll get to feel worthy and valuable regardless of their opinion.

So, take some time to go through those questions and find your script.

Once you have it, find a new one.

Find a new way of experiencing everything you want that eliminates the current problems you face with women.

If you’re wondering what is a different way to experience what you want, here’s an article that might help you out:

http://www.attractioninstitute.org/overcoming-loneliness-101

Good luck!

Leigh.

P.S. I know how I talk about the power of changing your purpose when it comes to removing your roadblocks with women and how you won’t care whether or not they respond positively.

But I think it’s also important to mention how it changes the way women respond to you.

What you’ll achieve by changing your Script is remove neediness, clinginess, and outcome dependency.

You’ll stop being reliant on her to feel the way you want to feel.

You’ll be strong, powerful, and open, regardless of what she, or anyone else, throws at you.

So how do you think that would change your interactions with women?

If you were able to stand strong in front of any challenge…

If you were able to take any test she throws at you…

If you were able to remain a powerful and confident Man regardless of what was going on around you, what would be different?

Just something to think about.