Is Being Real Just Too Hard?

by Leigh (LoGun) on August 1, 2010 · No Comments

One of the most common objections I hear from guys about allowing themselves to be more real with the people in their life (especially the women) is that it’s just too hard.

I realise that it can seem like this on the surface.

After all, when you’ve been running the same patterns of hiding who you are and what you stand for, for years and years, it can seem like a lot of work..

..but when you stand back and really look at it, I think you might see a different side of it.

Is it really harder to be fake than it is to be real? Is it really more work to say what you think rather than what you think you’re supposed to say?

Lets run a little scenario and you can judge for yourself.

I want you to think back to the last time you saw a beautiful woman that you wanted to talk to. See how she looks, think back to how you felt, imagine yourself right there.

In that moment, is it harder to be real or fake?

Is it harder to say what you think or it is harder to hide what you’re really thinking, how you really feel, and what you desire?

You can either try and come up with something clever and fancy to try and impress her or you can just let out how you feel.

Which one of those sounds ‘harder’ to you?

I don’t know about you but I can’t find any way to look at the situation that makes it’s harder to be real than to be fake. Sure, it might be scarier, but that doesn’t mean there’s more work in it.

There’s a huge difference between harder and scarier. How much work is involved in saying exactly what’s going on with you right now?

Lets keep going.

Imagine that you managed to start a conversation with her and you want to find out more about her..

..is it harder to continue a conversation talking about things you love or is it harder to continue talking about things that you think she wants to talk about?

Is it going to require more work to continue a conversation about topics that you really couldn’t care about and don’t really know anything about..

..or is it going to require more work to talk about things you love and have a great deal of experience in?

And if you are real, how much effort do you have to put in to remembering what you’ve said and who you’ve said it to?

None.

How much effort do you have to put into keep up a facade that you’ve been trying to portray? None. How much effort do you have to put into convincing someone that you’re something that you’re not? None.

I don’t know about you but I struggle to talk about things I don’t care about, but I could talk forever about the things I love.

I can’t find any perspective to justify the idea that it’s harder to talk about things you love.

Sure, once again, it might be scarier but it’s definitely not harder.

I could keep going here, but I think you get the picture. Being real isn’t harder than being fake.

In fact it’s far easier. So much easier that it’s actually the easiest thing you can do.

It requires less work than anything you’ve ever done before in your life. It requires less analysis, less thinking, less effort, and less confusion. It’s the easiest way to live your life.

Sure, it might be scary, but that’s why we’re here – to help you overcome that fear.

And if you want to get a head start on that, check out Seduction Community Sucks by clicking on the link below.

Leigh (LoGun)

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