Are You Missing ONE Vital Point?

by Jonathon on August 17, 2009 · No Comments

missing inner game? I have to be honest here: I feel very sorry for all the women of the world.

ESPECIALLY the really attractive ones.

I mean, lets face it – when you see one of those REALLY hot girls, the first thing that goes through your mind is NOT-

“Wow, she’s incredible, I wonder if I’ll find a deep connection with her”.

More likely it’s “Holy fuck, how good would it be if she was sitting on my face tonight.”

The most unfortunate thing of all though, is that that is what you will be carrying in to your interaction with that woman.

From this point on in the interaction, unless you say to this woman-

“Holy fuck, I can’t stop thinking about how incredible it would be to have you sitting on my face tonight,”

-everything you do, and say in this interaction will lack a real authenticity.

Everything from this moment forth is, in some way, an attempt to manipulate this woman into sitting on your face tonight. Or in a few nights.

And while you’re doing this, you’ll have a whole bunch of walls and barriers up in the hope that she will not see through your thin veil of inauthenticity.

Most devastatingly unfortunate though, is that you are closing your heart to this woman. And as such, not allowing her heart to find that connection that she so desperately loves to find in life.

When a woman’s heart is unable to flow freely, you are stifling the one thing that makes her so radiant, so beautiful, and so powerful.

Maybe you’re afraid of that, though.

Maybe that’s why you seek to conquer women superficially, through fuck, through dating, through number closing.

Maybe what scares you the most is not only her potential to be powerful, incredible, beautiful, and radiant, but also what that will mean for your own success as man.

Be honest, right now – on some level, you really are afraid of success.

To be powerful, full of integrity, authentic, real, unencumbered by meaningless concern, free to walk through the world creating it in the most empowering way for you and those around you -

The prospect of THAT scares THE SHIT out of many guys.

Because with that, comes responsibility.

Because with that, comes accountability.

At least when you’re chasing a woman for superficial reasons alone, you can only be rejected on a superficial level.

That’s OK though, because you’re tucked safely away behind that façade you keep calling a man. And as long as only that is attacked, you’ll always be OK.

What I want to offer here is an alternative.

An alternative that has been made possible for me through inner game.

Consider that you are still very superficially attracted to that hottie standing over there, and you can’t stop thinking about her sitting on your face.

You think to yourself, why?

This time, it’s not about covering up your own insecurities by trying to conquer her.

This time, it is about your deepest expression of desire for woman, and in this moment THAT woman.

Instead of allowing it to stay in your head as fantasy, you allow that invigorating new energy to flood throughout your entire body, to re-energise you, and to allow you to be the kind of man that can penetrate this woman with a gaze.

You now powerfully walk up to that woman, aware of everything around you, and yet not seeing anything but her.

You approach, and you are not only powerful, but vulnerable and happy to live that way.

You speak with her, engage her, feel your own heart free of constriction and barrier, and allow that woman permission to grow, to flow, to be free in your presence.

Now, she may, or may not still be sitting on your face by the end of the night. But that’s irrelevant to you now.

You no longer live for the results of this game of life, you live to play it in the field, to express yourself fully, powerfully, and in an empowering way.

But I’ll let you in on a little secret.

If she is sitting on your face at the end of the night, it won’t be about the conquering this time around.

It will be about utter, devotional worship to the power of her feminine, and you will feel the power of worship from an incredible feminine, in full force.

Not some small jolt of pleasure bestowed upon you by a closed woman who is just fucking you for her own validation.

It’s OK to live openly.

It’s OK to live powerfully.

It’s OK to empower. And most of all, it is OK to worship her.

And there is the love.

It’s been within you the entire time, you‘ve just covered that man up, and forgotten that he was there all along.

Jonno