Just Got Blown Out From A Set? Read This.

by Leigh (LoGun) on June 4, 2009 · No Comments

Inner Game Getting blown out sucks.

I remember when I first started out approaching women I used to get blown out A LOT.

When I say A LOT I mean enough to make a grown man want to quit this whole ‘attraction’ thing.

Maybe even go back to a land of settling for whatever woman comes his way, online blind dates and porn in Quicktime.

And then I had a thought.

I’m sure you’ve at least seen ‘that’ type of woman before. You know the one – the stone cold, glamor ice queen. The one in the bar that just about every guy is secretly checking out yet no-one has the balls to approach.

Then, of course, one guy finally musters up the courage. He pours the rest of his beer down the throat, whacks the glass back on the table and marches straight for the ice queen with unbridled enthusiasm.

His mates take their eyes off the footy on plasma screens to watch this pilgrimage with an uneasy feeling.

One-third excitement, two-thirds mortal trepidation.

Not unlike the feeling one gets see footage of a prisoner in red overalls being marched to a cold chamber to receive a lethal injection.

“Hola”, mutters our hero as he reaches Mecca (and instantly begins to wish he was in real Mecca – anywhere, really – just as far as possible from the situation that seemed like such a good idea to get into just moments ago).

We do not hear her response; we only see her blow smoke nonchalantly as our hero departs on the second leg of his pilgrimage, across the floor back to his mates.

But is this really as bad as it seems?

“Of course it is!”

Really?

Consider this. If you’re walking over to a woman to give him $1,000 and she says fuck off, are you going to be upset? I doubt it. Are you going to be embarrassed? Probably not.

Why? Because you’re just offering something valuable and she doesn’t want it.

Ok, so why is this situation any different?

The issue here isn’t how she responds, it’s how you perceive it. What happens to you isn’t the problem, it’s the way you think about it that’s causing you pain.

You’re walking over with the idea that you’re not worth anything and you’re trying to get something from her so when she says ‘fuck off’, you feel like you’ve lost.

But if you were walking over to her to offer your fun filled life, would you care whether or nor she liked you? No.

If you’re just trying to find ways to stop her from saying ‘fuck off’, you’re just treating symptoms. You’re not getting to the core. If you want to deal with this issue, change the way you think about this issue and it wont matter what she says.

Do you think that the fact that you don’t think you’re worth anything could be part of the reason why she said ‘fuck off’ in the first place?

If you’re just trying to find tricks to deal with every situation that could possibly come up then you’re going to be searching for a very long time.

Getting really good at this game isn’t about being able to deal with every situation that comes up…

..it’s about changing the way you think so that the next time you’re pilgrimaging (Is that a word? It is now) towards an ice queen, you don’t blow yourself out before you even get to her by creating the worst case scenario in your head.

LoGun