Picking Up Women: A Fresh Look At Outcome Dependency.

by Leigh (LoGun) on January 14, 2010 · No Comments

They say that being outcome dependent is bad for picking up women.

Which makes sense.

If you’re in a busy bar, and you’re trying to LOOK LIKE you’re having fun, and yet you’re only there to pick up a woman…

It will show.

So how do you stop being outcome dependent? Let’s look into it a little deeper.

OK, so to stop being outcome dependent you have to first work out why you’re actually dependent on the outcome in the first place.

You see a woman you like and approach her. You want pick up that woman.

You want her in your life.

Why?

Because you’re predicting some kind of positive outcome.

To find out what that positive outcome is, complete this sentence for me: “When I pick up this woman, I’ll…”

And just to make this easier for you, I’ll throw in a few options. I’m not saying that there are the only ones but I think they’re a good place to start:

1. Be able to have sex with her whenever I want
2. Be the envy of my mates
3. Be able to relax and not put any effort in any more
4. Have a life that’s basically OK.

The option you choose really doesn’t matter that much.

But the fact you’re looking TO HER for a solution DOES.

You’re predicting that when you pick up this woman, things will be better.

And that’s why you’re attached to the outcome – because you’re imagining your future with her will be better than your present situation.

Which is OK. We all fall into that trap from time to time.

I’ve done it more times than I can count.

When you think about it, the whole world is built like this. We tend to set ourselves a goal, and tell ourselves that when we reach that goal, things will be OK.

We wake up in the morning, and we tell ourselves a story:

“When I learn how to pick up women, and when I pick up THAT PERFECT WOMAN, I’ll be happy.”

And that’s the story we live by. Problem is, we’ve got this story back to front.

The secret to beating outcome dependency (and picking up women effortlessly, to the point where they are beating down your door, is this:

Construct your life so that it’s full of happiness and beauty now. And then let that kind of life attract opportunities, women, friends, well-being into that life.

Simple, innit?

Or would you rather spend a year learning “seduction theory” which promises that when you learn how to pick up women, you’ll feel better about your life?

LoGun