Seduction Community Pitfalls.

by Jonathon on September 8, 2009 · No Comments

seduction community pitfall Let’s be honest, the reason we all got into this whole “game” thing was to get better with women.

And why do we want to get better with women? Because if we’re “better with women” then we’ll have better results with women.

If we have better results with women, then we’ll be happy with those results.

If we’re happy with those results, then, theoretically, we should be happy with ourselves.

So to cut a long story short, and to bypass most of the bullshit, let’s cut to the chase here: we thought that one of the sources of our happiness was in the lap of the women we weren’t seeing in our lives.

To put it another way, we got into the game to become happy with ourselves.

Unfortunately, before that could happen, we had to get a lot more unhappy with ourselves, and our lack of “skill” before we were promised such happiness-

(e.g. approaching 100 people to get us used to talking to strangers, then incrementally improving and calibrating our routine or act to get better and better results).

Once these habits were internalised, and became more of an extension of our being THEN we would be happy.

I’m going to ask you to be happy right NOW – no matter what your skill level.

I’m going to ask you to focus on the one thing that actually is happiness for you.

I hate to tell you this, but it has nothing to do with results.

It has everything to do with action.

What I’m talking about is something that I’ve come to realise very recently myself.

You see, I’m not particularly happy with some of the results in my life. Hell, I’m downright pissed off about very specific area’s of my life. But I’m really only unhappy when I’m focused on the results, rather than what I’m doing, right now.

Take socialising, for example.

If I go out with the intention of meeting a bunch of cool people (with the little less obvious intention of making sure those cool people like me), then the entire night I’m focused on my results.

If the results don’t meet my expectations, I have a “bad” night.

On the other hand, if I go out with the intention of having as much independent fun as I possibly can, I am focused on my expression, rather than the results of my expression.

It’s in the doing that I have fun. It’s in the doing that I am expressed. It is in the doing that I am no longer focused on external outcome, but rather internal emotion.

Am I being the way I want in any given moment? Or am I catering my actions to gain a specific result (e.g., to impress somebody, or many bodies)?

Am I following my own desires and creating my own internally satisfying journey, or am I deviating course to check if my actions are giving me the results I’m after?

This tiny change in focus allowed me to experience a greater range of happiness, fulfillment and flow, than any experience I gained from focusing on my results.

Now, don’t be fooled into thinking that you’ll improve your results just by focusing on being in action. Sometimes, the results are not exactly what you were hoping for.

But it’s not reflecting on results that expresses you, it’s the action of expression that does that. And it’s only during that act, that you can actually experience that wonderful feeling of flow.

So get out there and do something, men!

Jonathon