When you realize that your life is about to end, and you look back, what is really going to matter to you?

Will you care about being rejected by a gorgeous woman in front of her friends?

Will you be concerned about what people thought of you?

Are these reasons important enough to not do what you want?

How would you feel about not living your life because of fear when you’re on your deathbed?

Deep down, you really know what direction you want to head in. You have an inner compass that will always guide you truthfully, and you can activate it by contemplating your death.

Worried about approaching that woman over there? Great, that’s perfectly normal. But will that fear be relevant when you look back on your life?

Or will you care more about the fact that you did approach that girl even though you were afraid?

Think about any question you may post up on a forum, anything you may ask advice from the other men for, and before you post, ask your compass by asking yourself:

“Would I really be that concerned if I was dying right now?”

You may be very surprised at the clarity of the answer that unfolds for you.

If in doubt, pretend to die, and see how important those doubts are.

Jonathon

I’m being serious here.

You see a gorgeous woman. You KNOW you’re attracted to her because of the way you feel when you see her.

And yet, you do not approach this woman.

Not because you are too scared to.

Not because logistically you couldn’t.

But because you made a conscious decision to appreciate her beauty, but not need to take more from her.

Have you ever noticed that it doesn’t matter how tired you are, how shitty your day may be, or how much physical pain you may be in, if a woman walks by that lights your fire…

EVERYTHING is incredible.

Everything becomes manageable again. Everything is going to be all right.

You’ve been uplifted, and for however long it lasts for you, THAT moment is bliss.

That, gentlemen, is Her gift to you. The way that you feel when She inspires you, is one of the most precious gifts.

Savour it for as long as it lasts, because it may be fleeting (as with anything in this life).

But while it lingers, it is the very thing that reminds you how gifted you are that you are able to experience such a thing.

And all she does is exist…

And THAT is what she’s capable of.

The only question you need to ask yourself now is: “What can I offer in return?”

Jonathon

I joined a seduction lair.

I even took a bootcamp.

I went out and approached women. I even worked on my inner game.

And yet, I still don’t have choice with women.

WHAT AM I MISSING?”

That is the question which usually brings guys to this blog. They want to have tight game, and for some reason they still don’t.

If that’s you, the good news #1 is that you’re not alone.

And good news #2 is – many guys find the answer to that question here. Which means you might, too.

You’re not a beginner.

So, first things first. If you’re here, you probably already know “the answers”.

By that I mean, you’re familiar with do’s and dont’s of seduction theory.

You’ve been told that supplicating is bad, and being an alpha male is good.

You know that being needy will not get you far around women, and approaching women with an abundance mentality is good.

But let me guess .. for some reasons “knowing” these answers for you doesn’t translate into being able to act in line with that knowledge around women.

Here’s why:

“When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice”,

I can’t remember who said it. But the meaning behind this expression can be profound…

That is, your true colours come to the surface when you’re under pressure.

So, you can sit behind your computer and debate pickup artist theory all day, or flirt casually with a woman you’re not really into.

But does it all fall apart when you approach a truly beautiful woman that you’re into? Do you become an uncalibrated, nervous wreck?

It’s OK if you do.

But I want to ask you a bold question – if that is the case, then how much growth has REALLY occurred in your life as a result of learning all that seduction theory?

Did all the promises of women falling at your feet come true?

Or perhaps you were slightly misled on the way to becoming a so-called pick up artist?

Maybe, but we’re not here to focus dwell on what COULD have been.

And we’re not here to indulge in “dating guru bashings”.

(Although we do take the piss of them sometimes, when their advice is likely to make you worse with women…

Or they “reveal” err… ’shockingly powerful dating tips’ which are well and truly rubbish).

What we’re really here for is to, as you guessed it, discover the real reasons why the dating advice you have learned until now hasn’t worked for you, and then set you on the path of authentic growth as a man.

I’ll give you a hint: the reason the results you were promised didn’t come true is because 99% of advice you’ve learned merely treated the symptoms of deeper inner game issues.

Which leaves us with a choice to make: to continue treating the symptoms, or to take care of the underlying causes, once and for good.

It is your choice, and forever will be.

And you’re the one who will live the life which will be played out as a result of choices you choose to make.

One more thing. Why should you listen to us, you might be asking?

Well, we don’t insist that you do.

We’re not qualified gurus of any kind, we don’t claim to know all the answers.

But we did stumble across some cool inner game stuff like this and this which nobody else online was teaching. And it worked for us!

Then we showed it to a few of our friends, and it’s helped them, too to do what they want around women.

Oh, and helped this fellow man. And these guys (scroll down a bit).

And then the word kinda spread, and we started getting swamped with emails.

To cope with the demand, we started this blog and the inner game forums.

Here you’ll find inner game tips on approaching women, being free around women and having organic interactions with women and a lot more.

You can also take part in a 7-day inner game course, which we designed to help you pinpoint your inner game roadblocks.

At the moment, it is still free.

All this is very cool and humbling, because we never thought it would get so big.

This blog that you’re reading now is not a database of “pickup advice”.

Rather, it is a journal of our own self-discovery, lessons, frustration, embarrassments, weird stories, failures and successes.

It is the medium through which we can communicate with you as we journey to the very bottom of what it means to be a man…

…and seek for answers to questions that each man needs to answer to himself in order to die complete.

And when I say “complete”, I mean surrounded by love and abundance. And by that I mean, abundance which stems from within, from realising your own deepest truths.

Not by collecting stuff / gadgets / women to temporarily quell your feelings of insignificance.

If you’re the kind of man whose resonates with what I just wrote, we’re glad to have you here.

And if you’re not, it’s OK too, but you’ll probably find this place a bit dry and boring. There are no quick fixes, super-secret tricks or magic “openers” here.

The stuff you’ll find here is difficult to pigeonhole, but if you insist, I’d say it’s a weird blend of spirituality and inner game.

At the end of the day, we are here because want to be more successful with women. But to “to pick up a woman” can mean many different things to a man.

It can mean to distract yourself from how much your life sucks. Or it can mean to go on a mutual journey of growth. Or it can mean to give her what she needs in that moment.

There are no right or wrong meanings, and no-one here will judge you for where you’re at in life.

But the important thing to realise is, whatever meaning you ascribe to picking up a woman, will determine the outcome of your interaction with her, long before you approach her.

And no amounts of tricks or methods will make any difference.

Not in any kind of meaningful or sustainable way, anyway. You may learn how to trick a couple of women, which means you’ll forever be playing the “numbers game”.

Screw that. You’re more than that. Well, we think so, anyway.

Your journey starts when you choose for it to start. When will that be?

Steven

The way they walk, the way they dress, the way they smell, the way they carry themselves through the world…

…the way they shut down, and the way they open up.

All of it.

Most of all, I love the way they make me feel.

But this is something that hasn’t always been available to me.

For the longest time, instead of being aware of the wonderful feelings that were being awoken in me, I was concentrating on other things…

Things like, how I needed to approach women. How I needed to act around them. What I needed to say, and how I would introduce my wing and so on, and so on.

Now I couldn’t give a shit about any of that.

Mostly because those things are so miniscule in its importance compared to what I’m feeling in my body when SHE walks past.

I could be in zombie-autopilot mode, going about my day unconsciously, fantasizing about how good life will be when such and such happens…

…and then SHE walks past and lights a fire in my belly, and I can’t help but come back to the present.

These feelings are the very reason I love to be alive, and that is her gift.

But can you be with it?

Or is it so powerful that you need to lose yourself in fantasy again, thinking about every inch of her naked body as she drapes herself over yours after hours of ecstasy?

It’s a nice image, but it’s not real, and it’s taking you away from the very feelings that spurred that fantasy in the first place.

Breathe her in, appreciate her, respect her, and bring that new energy (which she has gifted you with) to her, and offer it as your gift.

But most importantly, be with her, not lost in some fantasy world, or caught up in your head thinking of the right thing to say.

Stay in your body, feel your attraction fully, and bring that to the table when you go over and find out all about her.

You may not even exchange words – I LOVE it when that happens :)

Jonathon

How meaningful do you want your interactions women to be?

To be able to penetrate through the surface-layers of insecurity and bullshit..

To be completely devastated by the ecstasy of incredible sex with a beautiful woman who you just approached..

You’ll need to give up the one thing that is in the way – and it’s the same thing that wants all of the above:

You.

Let me explain..

It’s tot the real you that you must give up, of course .. but that part of you that your ego has you convinced is you: your identity.

All the things you do -all the ways in which you define yourself by wearing specific clothing, listening to specific music, associating with specific people…

…all that surface level stuff.

All the stuff that makes you great, all the stuff that makes you shit, all the stuff that makes you more than, and all the stuff that makes you less than.

You gotta surrender it.

How?

It’s pretty hard, because it feels so warm and cosy where you are now.

And yet it’s easy – because ff you don’t surrender it, all you’ll have is your surface level identity attempting to approach women with their surface level identity:

Full of the pleasantries, but never quite connecting on that deeper level.

You’ll always be left wanting more. I know you’re very familiar with this feeling. I am, too.

But if you’re not your identity, then who are you?

You can’t be your body, because you have no real control over it:

(If you believe you do, then stop your heart from beating, or stop yourself from aging, or turn of your pain).

You can’t be your mind because of the same reason: try and stop thinking. You can’t. But you CAN become aware that something is also AWARE of your mind.

Beneath all of that, beneath the emotion, beneath the experience, beneath your habits, short-comings, thoughts, is something much deeper.

It’s what animates you. What gives you life.

It’s also the same thing that animates her and gives her life.

It makes you both magnificent.

It gives you the ability to experience your identities, to experience your emotions, to experience each other, and it is always there.

What do you think your interactions would be like if you were interacting with that inside of her, to go beyond the surface, to acknowledge it, but not address it?

To be aware of this depth when you speak to her, when you have sex with her, when you connect with her?

How do you think the walk down your current path would feel if it weren’t distracted by the noise of those surface ripples?

To understand the depth of the body of water unmoved by those ripples requires a deep awareness, and it’s not caffeinated.

Slow down for a moment, breathe deeply and fully, and feel into your body.

Then feel where your body ends, and the outside world begins.

Then feel where the outside world ends, and she begins.

Is there really a clear delineation?

Or are we all really one and the same outside of our identities?

Jonathon

So, let’s begin ;)

Seduction Community Prediction #1: People Will Stop Using The Term “Seduction Community”.

At the moment, the climate on a lot of seduction community forums is that of:

“We’re here for self-development, now just learning how to pick up women”.

Thing is, for many guys this mindset is still just a veiled attempt at being “unattached to the outcome” when approaching women.

But as time goes on, I feel that genuine interest in self development will awaken in many more guy…

…and picking up women will increasingly be seen as a by-product of fulfilled life – rather than its end goal.

Prediction #2: PUAs & Mystery Method Will Continue To Exist.

Every day a few hundred men get frustrated at their lack of success with women – to the point where they decide to do something about it.

Inevitably, they sit down in front of their computer, swallow their pride, and type into Google something like, “how to pick up women” or “how to approach women” or “dating tips”…

0.031 seconds later they have the “answers” at their fingertips…

And they begin reading. Soaking up dating theory, tips, routines, openers and techniques like a sponge.

Whilst for most guys having this knowledge feels like progress (“so this is why women see me just as a friend!!”)…

…It takes some time to realise that intellectually knowing the answers – having the answers – leads merely to being a very good imitator of the real deal.

To actually BECOME the real deal requires dealing with one’s true organic experience. And that is a process of removing layers of knowledge, rather than piling more on.

So, Mystery Method will continue to act as a necessary step in the lives of many men…

… To give them first hand experience of what DOESN’T offer them all the success they’re looking for – thereby motivating them to go out and look deeper for stuff that does.

Prediction #3: Many More Dating Gurus Will Emerge…

The Internet has made it possible for anyone with $200 to make a decent-looking website, slap together some content, and declare themselves a “guru”.

Whilst not many of those gurus will ever actually help anyone, and even fewer will make their website into a profitable business, many will continue to spring up …

Prediction #4: And Many Existing Dating Gurus Will Vanish.

This increased competition will separate the wheat from the chaff.

And many dating gurus who are currently in the business of just repackaging the same old stuff in an attempt to make a quick buck will vanish from the sphere of visibility…

… while the power of social media will help spread the word about those who truly are producing foundation-changing stuff, bring them to the spotlight.

And they will do amazing things.

Prediction #5: I will not get accepted into the Sydney Lair.

Doesn’t mean I won’t stop trying :)

Prediction #6: We Will Fail…

Every one of us will – at least once – end up standing next to a beautiful woman and racking our head for something to say.

It may happen in a line waiting for coffee, or on a bus, or waiting for the little man to go green…

But it will happen. And as soon as she is gone we will be kicking ourselves for not saying anything at all.

Prediction #7: And We Will Succeed.

Every one of us will strike up a conversation with a woman without worrying about what “the right thing” to say to her is, or what she is thinking…

And it will be a conversation of purity, freedom of expression and joy.

Prediction #8: LoGun will become louder.

Doesn’t mean we won’t try to silence him ;)

Steven

…and it’s not just within the seduction community.

It’s certainly exaggerated within the seduction community, but most definitely not limited to it.

What I’m referring to is the clinical nature in which men interact with the opposite sex.

You see that beautiful woman over there and you want to approach her.

But there’s this problem that needs to be solved before you can get what you want.

The problem of “HER”.

All the “objections”, and “games”, and “cock-blocks” are part of this complex algorithm…

And it can be so taxing that you actually forget that there’s another human being standing opposite you.

Yes, she’s a human being.

Just like you. And you’re interacting with her like there’s an inanimate object that requires “solving”.

Now here’s the biggest rub: in engaging in this predicament from the viewpoint of trying to solve the puzzle, you’ve taken away all of your human elements as well.

I guess there’s a nice payoff in the end though:

if you do get rejected, and you “fail” the puzzle, well it wasn’t really you that failed; it was simply your inability to solve the puzzle with the tools at hand.

But can you ever win this way, anyway?

If you pass due to the same tools that would have you fail in this scenario, you can’t then rightly “own” the victory; it was down to the tools again.

What if I told you there was never a problem in the first place: nothing to solve, no criteria to fulfill?

Would you approach women differently?

What if you found out that there was never anywhere to get?

That your only mission was to find out who that beautiful woman really is. Wouldn’t you intuitively know what questions to ask?

Would you forget that you were trying to solve something?

Would you be more human? More engaged? More real?

What if I could magically wave a wand, and remove all notion of “problem” in your interactions, so that all you could see was a room full of human beings…

…just like you, trying to get along in the world, looking for the same connection, and harbouring the same insecurities and fears…

…and just wanting somebody to know who they really are so they can stop pretending just like you.

?

We all want it.

Then we go fuck it up by trying to solve our surface level problems by conquering the puzzle that is “dating”.

It’s OK.

Deep down all anybody ever wanted was for you to be deeply happy, and to share that with those around you.

You can do it to, just stop trying to solve that puzzle.

Jonathon

…Which are preventing you from experiencing success with women. For example:

- approaching women
- flirting with women
- dealing with shit tests
- running out of things to say, and the rest…

Good news is – your situation isn’t as bad as you think.

In fact, it’s not anywhere near as bad as you think.

Success with women can be around the corner – if you want.

Because there isn’t a whole raft of issues preventing you from having amazing success with women.

There isn’t a series of intricate steps that you have to unlock before you can start attracting women into your life.

There’s only one.

Yes, one.

Now, I know this might seem a little strange.

Because I’m sure that you see a whole bunch of issues you want to change. And whilst they all exist, they’re all just a product of one little thing.

The reason you get really nervous when you approach a woman is … the same reason you don’t know what to say to her.

The reason you don’t have things to talk about is … the same reason you fail her tests.

The reason you struggle with leading is … the same reason you don’t know how to close.

They’re all the same.

Want to know what that is?

Well, lets see if you can guess it.

Imagine yourself walking down a busy street and all of a sudden you see ‘her’.

And not just any ‘her’. I’m talking about ‘HER’.

There’s just something magical about this girl. Its something about the way she walks … the lines of her legs, just everything. You know you MUST talk to her.

What are you going to say?

Do you have something in mind? Well, how about exactly what you’re feeling?

Yeah, I know, you can’t just say that … apparently.

Apparently it’s wrong to go with exactly how you feel. Yeah, she might reject you.

She might walk away and leave you standing there alone, with everyone looking at you. And you know what they’re going to think, don’t you…

You know they’re thinking how much of a loser you are because she rejected you.

You can read minds, after all…

And even if she doesn’t reject you after your opener, what is going to happen when you say something that she doesn’t like?

She’s surely going to walk away after that.

And then the exact same thing’s going to happen – people are going to look, they’re going to laugh, they’re going to think you’re a loser.

But what if she likes then things you say?

What if she likes the things you’re talking about and is impressed with what you do, but then you stuff up the close?

What if you stumble through your closing technique (because you haven’t practiced it enough)?

What if she sees that you’re really not as much of an alpha male as you first projected? Surely she’s going to walk away then.

Surely her “No thanks…” is going to be follow by those stares and scorn of everyone who saw you fail.

Where will you be then?

What will you be worth then?

How are you going to be happy then?

You just failed at this. You just missed your chance to be really successful in life.

You just failed at a chance to be really happy. You needed her because without the ability to get her, you’re not going to be truly happy.

There’s no way you’re going to be the envy of your mates now, and there’s no way people are going to look up to you. Because you failed.

There goes an opportunity to finally be really happy.

But chin up. Have an abundance mentality.

There’s plenty more women out there who you could use to finally be really happy.

I know it might seem irrelevant – because regardless of how many women are out there, if they’re all rejecting you it really doesn’t matter…

But one day, you’ll find one that will allow you to finally experience happiness, right?

Right?

But what if we flipped the script a bit here.

What if, instead of wondering if she’s going to like the opener you’re using … you were focused on finding out if she’s the kind of woman you want to bring into your life?

What if, instead of desperately hoping that she likes the kinds of things you were talking about … you were wondering if you like the kinds of things that she’s talking about?

What if, instead of wondering if she’s going to like the closing techniques you use…

…You were focusing on whether or not she’s the kind of person that you want to bring into your world?

And no, I’m not talking about some kind of ‘be the prize’ mentality.

Because at the end of the day, that’s just a cover to hide something much deeper.

I’m talking about creating a life that YOU love. I’m talking about filling your life with joy.

I’m talking about carving the kind of life that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning, and then working out if you want her in it or not.

Imagine this:

You wake up in the morning and the firs thing you do is jump out of bed with enthusiasm because you know there’s something just around the corner that fills you with passion.

And even though you’ve only had 5 hours sleep, you’re like a 5 year old at Christmas.

As you finish that little project off, you pack up your stuff really quickly because you’ve got somewhere else that you’re dying to get to.

As you jog down to your car, you see the woman of your dreams – so you decide to go say hi.

As you look at her, she can feel the excitement in your voice, as you talk, she can feel the passion in your life.

You don’t know what you say because you just talk about the things you’ve been doing and where you’re going. The thought of telling her something you think she wants to hear doesn’t even cross your mind.

She can sense how much of adventure you live and she wants to be part of it.

You’re not yet sure about whether or not she’s the kind of person you’re willing to devote your precious hours to.

But as you go to leave, she asks you for your number…

…Because she wants in.

You give it to her on the chance she might show you something that you missed.

Do you think that would be easier?

Do you think that would be more fun?

Do you think you’d be more successful, not only with women but in life in general?

Do you think you’d have to convince people to hang out with you or do you think they’d be magnetically drawn in?

Do you think you’d spend your nights at home, wondering if someone was going to call you so you had something to do?

Or do you think you’d be more likely to have to sift through the offers that people were making to you?

You only have one issue in meeting women.

There’s not 10,000 different things you have to change to finally get the success with women you’ve been so desperately chasing.

There’s only one.

You have to stop trying to make her responsible for your happiness. You have to take control of your life.

You have to take responsibility for where you are, right now, and where you’re going in the future.

If you do that, then meeting and attracting beautiful women isn’t going to be just another layer you use to try and cover over your burning sense of inadequacy.

It’s simply going to be a way of life.

It’s going to be something that happens when you’re buying your groceries.

It’s going to be something that happens when you’re at work.

It’s going to be something that happens when you washing your car.

It’s not going to be a skill set. Rather, it’s going to be you simply living your life in the way you want to. And getting everything you’ve ever desired.

LoGun

You see that girl, and your heart immediately jumps an extra 30 beats per second.

Your mind starts racing.

Then it goes blank, and you may even get a little bit sweaty.

You want to go approach, but you “can’t”. Why do you think that is?

Many of the men I have had the pleasure of meeting suffer the same ailments as you.

And many of them are literally paralysed by their nerves.

What is it that actually stops them, though?

We, as men, experience those nerves – and then start trying to find a way to STOP IT.

So, instead of going up to that gorgeous woman whilst still feeling anxious about it, we feel the temptation to make our nerves WRONG…

And then we focus on how to get rid of that feeling, rather than going and talking to that gorgeous woman IN SPITE of nerves.

We think that we shouldn’t be feeling nerves at all.

Especially if they we ever want to be great in the arena of seduction.

You most DEFINITELY should be feeling anxiety – it‘s how you know your alive half the time.

But what you may find is that in trying to get rid of your nerves, you’re simply focusing on the feeling in your body, and “clamping down” on it…

… Rather than letting it course fully throughout your entire body.

If you can “release” those nerves from your chest, or stomach, or throat, or wherever it is that you experience that feeling…

And then let it travel down your arms and legs, and feel it through your entire body…

…Those “nerves” all of a sudden feels more like “excitement”.

But why else has this been such an issue for many men?

For many men, the issue has been that they’re pretending with the woman in front of them that they are not experiencing nerves at all.

They have to “look cool”, and “be in state” in order to have a “solid interaction”.

Forget all of that bullshit for a moment.

Ever told a lie and had to maintain that lie for so long, only to have the lie come out in the open anyway?

It may have been a shit fight, but I bet as soon as it was out in the open, and you accepted it, you experienced one of the greatest waves of relief in your life.

You now experience the complete removal of that tension in the place of the lie. It’s calming, a weight off the shoulders, and you don’t have to try, put in effort, or pretend any more.

You can just BE.

What if you accepted your nerves; that they were there, and they didn’t mean ANYTHING.

Hell, what if you were even HONEST with the woman in front of you about your anxiety:

“Hi, it was nearly impossible for me to work up the courage to walk over here and compliment you on how incredibly gorgeous you are… and you know what? It was totally worth it. I’m Jonno, who are you apart from stunningly-fuck-off-gorgeous?”

Now for the rest of the interaction, you don’t have to worry about hiding your anxiety: it’s been dealt with, it’s out in the open, and you were real about it.

Now there’s space between the two of you for the really fun stuff: flirting, banter, good old-fashioned conversation even.

And it’s REAL.

So the next time you start to see that your nerves are going to pull the rug out from under you in your quest for success with the opposite sex, ask yourself this simple question:

“Am I being honest, or not?”


Jonathon

“Damn, you do some embarrassing shit!”

Apparently it’s embarrassing to approach a stunning little brunette with green eyes and curves that are out of this world who’s eating lunch with her family.

Who knew???

Well, to be perfectly honest, the old me did.

I used to get embarrassed so easily.

Standing on the footpath, watching some smoking hot woman pass me by and knowing that I had to go approach her was anxiety-inducing enough, let alone when she told me to she to ‘leave me alone’.

But not the new me.

Have I developed some kind of super routine stack that will never get me blown out?

Do I have enough ‘high-octane material’ in my head which ensures that I’ll never have to face the embarrassment of having to walk away, hanging my head in shame?

No. So what changed?

Well, let me explain..

What does it mean to “be embarrassed?”

It’s when you’re looking at yourself through other peoples eyes and judging yourself.

You’re taking your opinions, attitudes, and thoughts – and assuming that someone else holds the exact same thoughts as you…

Assuming that they actually give enough of a sh*t to be watching you…

Assuming that they then have the amount of mental space to apply those thoughts to your actions..

Assuming that their thoughts about you actually matter, and then feeling a certain way because you’re sure that someone (who you’ll probably never see again) just applied all of that judgment to you.

??????????????

When you read it like that, can you see how pointless it is?

The only way you can be embarrassed is if you lie to yourself and tell yourself that you can read minds. But, if you can actually read minds, how did you not know what to say to that girl you approached?

Hmm???

So here’s the secret to never being embarrassed again.

If you’re trying to come up with a fool-proof plan, so that she never rejects you again, then you’ll probably suffer from embarrassment again.

But if you want to eradicate it forever, then you have to cut to the core – and stop focusing on the symptoms of your suffering.

The way to deal with it for good is to stop lying to yourself, admit that you know absolutely nothing about what someone else who you’ll never see again is thinking, and just focus on one simple thing:

What *YOU* desire.

That’s it.

Stop wasting your time trying to guess what everyone else is thinking. Let it all go, and go after what *YOU* want.

LoGun