You know them:

The ones that make you think “How good would it be to bang her”…

As you fantasize about every little detail of her incredible ass, gorgeous legs, unbelievable rack, and impeccable figure.

Have you ever had that fantasy realised? To actually achieve what you’ve wanted for so long?

I have.

And it wasn’t actually anything like I thought it would be. It was just… normal.

In fact, it was just the same as every other non-fantasy I’d ever experienced.

The difference this time was that I had a mental image of the fantasy in my head to compare my real experience to.

I was still the same, I operated the same, the experience was the same with every other non-fantasy I’d experienced.

And this whole time, for some reason I thought it would be different.

What I found, however, was that being caught up in the fulfillment of this fantasy..

I was less present.

It was like I was constantly flitting between the image in my head, and the image in front of me. In my head there were all these other feelings going on.

In reality, it was exactly the same as any other moment.

I wasn’t present because of this fantasy of mine. As a result, she missed out too. With my lack of presence, she closed down, and lost that radiant femininity I was so attracted to in the first place.

So not only did she miss out, due to my fantasy, but I did too.

It was quite the conundrum.

If nothing else, a valuable lesson was gained: all that time spent in fantasy world is utterly fruitless if it stops you from engaging in and enjoying the current moment.

This current moment – THAT’S where all the action is.

That’s where emotion, and feeling, and living occurs, and yet we’re so willing to give all of that up in a flash for something our mind wants to see.

I feel sorry for my fantasy, because it’s not real.

But I am.

Jonathon

How conscious are you of the life you are living in this very moment?

Is the life you’re living the product of your manufacture?

Or are you just going with the flow, leaving that responsibility up to somebody else?

Who are you leaving it up to, then?

How satisfied are you with that path?

These questions are never easy to ask ourselves.

And sometimes the answers are very unsavoury. But there’s no need to get down on yourself if you really don’t like those answers.

You’ve just asked yourself a very important question that may affect the very foundation of the rest of your life.

Yeah, it can be that huge.

Becoming aware and facing the very problem that has trapped you is a powerful step: for it is very difficult to change something when you don’t know there’s an issue to begin with.

Dealing with this will obviously have a huge impact on your quality of life. But for the sake of simplicity, I’m going to deal with one realm only:

The beautiful women.

(that is why you’re here after all, isn’t it?)

How would it feel for you to be in a relationship with somebody who was completely at the beck and call of the elements that surrounded them?

How would it feel to date a puppet?

Knowing that the only reason they move, or do anything, is because they are reacting to the strings that command them?

Who would be more appealing to you:

The puppet, or the puppeteer?

One is animated through circumstance, the other one animates through creation. One has the gift of performance, the other creates entertainment.

I would suggest to you that any woman you meet right now, is very much interacting with the puppet that is you…

… and deep down (if the relationship is to become more serious, especially) is wondering who is pulling the strings of your life…

…and how much say you have in the path you will both walk together.

To quote one of my personal favourite characters:

“This is your life, and it’s ending, one minute at a time.”

So, how have you been spending that time?

Don’t get too caught up in the details though. Remember that you are a human being, not a human doing.

So, the real question to help you cut the fat is: how are you being?

The circumstances and the doing will change. But who you are what you will stand for is all yours.

I’m here to help you wake up.

How awake are you now?

Jonathon

…and it’s not just within the seduction community.

It’s certainly exaggerated within the seduction community, but most definitely not limited to it.

What I’m referring to is the clinical nature in which men interact with the opposite sex.

You see that beautiful woman over there and you want to approach her.

But there’s this problem that needs to be solved before you can get what you want.

The problem of “HER”.

All the “objections”, and “games”, and “cock-blocks” are part of this complex algorithm…

And it can be so taxing that you actually forget that there’s another human being standing opposite you.

Yes, she’s a human being.

Just like you. And you’re interacting with her like there’s an inanimate object that requires “solving”.

Now here’s the biggest rub: in engaging in this predicament from the viewpoint of trying to solve the puzzle, you’ve taken away all of your human elements as well.

I guess there’s a nice payoff in the end though:

if you do get rejected, and you “fail” the puzzle, well it wasn’t really you that failed; it was simply your inability to solve the puzzle with the tools at hand.

But can you ever win this way, anyway?

If you pass due to the same tools that would have you fail in this scenario, you can’t then rightly “own” the victory; it was down to the tools again.

What if I told you there was never a problem in the first place: nothing to solve, no criteria to fulfill?

Would you approach women differently?

What if you found out that there was never anywhere to get?

That your only mission was to find out who that beautiful woman really is. Wouldn’t you intuitively know what questions to ask?

Would you forget that you were trying to solve something?

Would you be more human? More engaged? More real?

What if I could magically wave a wand, and remove all notion of “problem” in your interactions, so that all you could see was a room full of human beings…

…just like you, trying to get along in the world, looking for the same connection, and harbouring the same insecurities and fears…

…and just wanting somebody to know who they really are so they can stop pretending just like you.

?

We all want it.

Then we go fuck it up by trying to solve our surface level problems by conquering the puzzle that is “dating”.

It’s OK.

Deep down all anybody ever wanted was for you to be deeply happy, and to share that with those around you.

You can do it to, just stop trying to solve that puzzle.

Jonathon

You’ve had a good week. You’re feeling good. You’re looking good.

You’re ‘in state’. Everything just works. You destroy the bar.

Every woman is asking her friends, “Who *IS* that guy?”

Everything is right with the world. You are popular. You are happy. You are fucking awesome!

I can relate ;)

Do you ever have nights where you’re just ‘off’?

You’ve had a bad week. You’re feeling bad. You’re looking bad. You’re out of state. Everything you touch turns to shit. The bar owns you.

Every woman recoils from you in revulsion.

Dude: you SUCK.

I can relate :(

On my way home from a seminar on pickup, I was feeling fantastic.

Finally, I got it. I got women. Women were solved. No joke, I felt absolutely bulletproof. You could’ve put Scarlett Johansson in front
of me on the street outside and I would not have hesitated.

Yet, at the same time… there was fear.

I was scared of losing this newfound confidence.

After all, hadn’t I been here before? After a self-help seminar, after a football victory, during a ‘lucky streak’, after OTHER pickup seminars, I remembered having amazing confidence…

…for a time.

Then: back to swings and merry-go-rounds. Up and down.

Again, here I was, a fresh ‘PUA’, afraid of falling back into my old ‘AFC’ ways.

Before, I was unhappy, out of touch with what I wanted, and shy.

So the feeling on this summer evening was that my confidence was just a transient illusion and that soon, I’d revert back to the
real me –

- the depressed, uncharismatic me (of course, there was everyreason to believe that THAT version of me, the old version, was the
real illusion – but at the time it didn’t feel like that).

I wanted confidence!

It seemed the basis of attraction, connection and happiness… and so temperamental.

I felt like an AA member always on the verge of relapse.

Staying ’sober’ was a daily struggle – if the challenge became too great, it was always a temptation to throw in the towel. Being drunk was my ‘natural’ state…

…being sober was an effort.

Was this AA mindset an appropriate analogy? Was it really true that ‘confidence’ was an effort, something to ‘do’?

I believed it’s easy and natural to be shy and depressed – that takes no effort (right?).

Confidence takes effort (right?)

What *IS* confidence?

“I KNOW I can do this. I know I can fuck her. I know I’m awesome.”

Is that confidence? Or is it hubris? Or is it bullshitting yourself?

I have it on good authority that confidence is absence of fear.

“Maybe I’ll get her, maybe I won’t. I want her, but I don’t need her. My life will go on, with me pursuing what makes me happy.”

When I feel confident, it’s great: I do what I want. But then, what if something shakes me?

Imagine walking along the beach when you see an amazingly beautiful women. She’s with her girlfriends, laughing and rubbing lotion over her perfect body.

How do you feel?

“Do I approach her? What do I say? What if she laughs at me? I’ll lose my confidence. I’ll be shy, think sad thoughts, hold back.”

Which is easier:

- to have confidence (i.e., to focus on what I want, not take up mental energy with the opinions of others, do what I feel like, be myself, be natural), or

- not (to focus on fear and try to anticipate what others are thinking/wanting, play social games, put on a facade)?

That’s when I realised that having confidence is actually much easier than not having it.

Here is where it gets all Zen and profound and shit: I was busy trying to protect my confidence because I was scared of relapsing…

…but with this very act, I was destroying my confidence by focusing on fear.

If I’d let it go, I would’ve found that natural childlike confidence there for taking.

I know what you’re thinking-

“What about the next time I REALLY fuck up? What if I DO fall into old habits and focus on fear?…

…What if I get shot down by a beautiful woman on the beach and it trashes my confidence, in spite of my best intentions? …

….Is this all just pointless keyboard jockeying? Word trickery? Some bullshit mindhack?”

-And I like your style.

You’re really analysing this stuff – usually a terrible idea, in my opinion. But since you’re making the effort I’d better come clean:

Nobody’s perfect. I feel scared sometimes, I feel nervous, I make mistakes. I just don’t feel that these things are related to my confidence.

A successful man said, “Sometimes, all I have is my confidence.” This blew my mind when I heard it. All you have? How does that make any sense?

Doesn’t confidence come AFTER you’re reassured that everything is alright?

He elaborated and said that there is good and bad in everything, and you can choose what you focus on. He, personally, would rather be happy than sad, so he focuses on the good.

So even if you’re scared, confidence is a choice – and the easier, more natural one.

Once you really get this, you won’t be worried about falling back into bad habits. I’m not.

Luke (deepPlay)

A beautiful woman is someone who:

1) will make you feel better
2) you can dominate, so that you can feel powerful
3) can dominate you, so that you can let go
4) could help you release sexual frustration
5) looks great on your arm, so that you feel socially proofed
6) you want to penetrate, because she craves to be penetrated

So, what’s the correct answer, punk? I’ll give you a moment to ponder…

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Ready? OK. Well, the answer is … that it was, of course, a trick question.

One of the options above may jump out at you more than others. Or you may feel like a combination of a few answers is correct. Which is great.

The important thing to take from this is that an answer may seem correct to *YOU* because YOU created a meaning in your head which makes that answer more TRUE to you than others.

In other words, the *CORRECTNESS* of the answer has NOTHING to do with the beautiful woman. And EVERYTHING to do with you.

You have created a story in your head about what a beautiful woman *IS*. She represents something to you.

And she will represent something else entirely to another man.

However, what she REPRESENTS to you will inform the outcome of your interaction with her, should you choose to approach her – long before you do make that approach.

Which is why approaching countless women without paying attention to your inner game is an exercise in futility. You’ll simply keep on being the director of a movie, a script for which has already been written in your head.

But if you change the story, you’ll change the outcome, Skywalker. And the first step in changing the story is becoming aware of what that story is.

So, what story are you telling yourself about women? What’s your TRUTH? What do women represent to you?

- Are women somewhat scary brokers of sex, meting out that precious currency to men they deem worthy?

- Are women the one missing link from your otherwise seemingly complete life – a life which will become more complete once you find that link?

- Are women a total mystery, which you navigate with the same sense of clarity as Mike Tyson navigates the Complete Works of Shakespeare?

There are no right or wrong answers, just your truth.

What is it?

Steven

Many people think that fixing their inner game is a bit like getting a seduction ’superweapon’…

Which will give them the ability to attract women everywhere they go.

But there’s something I need to tell you. Here it goes –

Sorry, but it’s impossible to fix your inner game.

It doesn’t matter how much work you put into it.

It doesn’t matter how much seduction theory you read. It doesn’t matter how many women you approach.

Nothing is going to fix it. I really am sorry.

Don’t panic though – not everything is lost. There is a light at the end of this tunnel for all of us.

You see, the reason you can never fix your inner game is because in order for you to be able to fix something, it first has to be broken.

And your inner game can never actually *BE* broken.

“But it is broken!’, I hear you object. “If it wasn’t broken I’d be able to approach, meet and attract women everywhere I go!”.

Well, it’s not broken. And neither are you. In fact, you’re the exact opposite. You’re actually perfect.

Yeah, I know this sounds like a dirty lie but consider this:

Why do you think you get nervous around beautiful women? Do you think you’ve got some kind of genetic fault that makes you lose your shit when you approach a woman you really like?

Well, do you get nervous around a Ferrari? Hmm…

Do you think you have an evolutionary program that makes your chest tighten and your mouth go dry when you see something you want?

Well, would your chest tighten and your mouth go dry if you saw a large mound of money?

Your nervousness is actually there for a very good reason. It’s not a fault or a defect, it’s actually a perfectly designed defense mechanism.

Somewhere during your life, you’ve associated putting your self out there, doing what you want, and following your desires with experiencing pain.

And to protect yourself from experiencing it again, your brain has developed this defense mechanism.

And now, when you see a beautiful woman, you associate approaching that creature of perfection with the seemingly high risk of experiencing pain.

When you think about approaching her, your body goes into anxiety mode.

The anxiety you experience is just your brain thinking that pain is around the corner – and you shouldn’t do what you were about to.

It’s pretty simple.

This mechanism is the same mechanism that kept your ancestors around for hundreds of thousands of years and is one of the main reasons you’re alive today.

And you want to ‘fix’ it??

It’s the same mechanism that your brain uses to stop yourself from burning yourself in a fire. It’s the same mechanism that your brain uses to stop you from running out in front of cars traveling at high speed.

Do you seriously want to get rid of the mechanism that you use to stop yourself from experiencing pain?

This mechanism is something you’ve used to because you perceived it was going to help you not to experience pain.

If you find that it’s not going to help you get what you want now, you can definitely change it. But there’s no way to “fix” it.

How do you change it? Well, you can start changing the way you see the world.

You can change what you think is going to cause you pain. You can change how you perceive you achieve happiness.

But there’s nothing to fix. Right now, you’re the product of a perfect mechanism. A perfectly designed survival machine.

If you want to fine tune that survival machine, start off by downloading the Seduction Community Sucks book and then do the Inner Game Challenge.

But there’s no way you can fix your inner game because, right now, in this moment, you are absolutely perfect.

LoGun