I’m serious.

Here, take it. I grant you the right, by the powers vested in me by whatever. Go nuts.

What do you mean, you don’t want it?

Oh, I’m not authorised to hand out such licenses?

Wait, you’re saying that NOBODY has this kind of license to give out?

That it doesn’t exist? That I’ve gone mental?

But then, why do you kiss ass so hard with *her* in the hope of getting a license?

Don’t act coy: I know you do.

You try to make the girls (and the boys) like you, so they finally let you do what you want. I know you do because I know you’re just like me.

A while ago, I met a guy through friends.

He was a ‘pick-up artist’, a student of the techniques of seduction. I had heard of this so-called ’seduction community’ and was interested in meeting a real PUA.

I clearly remember the first time I saw him. He was talking to a group of girls, they were all laughing, and I saw him smack one on the ass.

When I met him, I asked him about it. He responded with:

“I just met her… I couldn’t have done that a few weeks ago, I’m just starting to get good at this stuff.”

And I realised that had always been my deep desire: I wanted to be about to smack a girl on the ass, and do whatever else I wanted, and just get away with it.

So from that day, I became a protege of my new ass-spanking friend.

I wanted this freedom.

I wanted this license. I was asking, what can I do to get people to give me this license?

But I was ignoring another, deeper question: what was stopping my PUA friend from smacking that ass a few weeks ago?

Was his hand broken?

Was he a completely different person? What was the REAL difference?

I suppose I didn’t ask that question because I thought the answer was obvious. After all, when people like you, when you have their love and respect, you can get away with things.

You can pull things off.

It could be something as simple as going out wearing a fedora: if people like you, you’re ‘unique’; if they don’t like you, you’re ‘a dick’.

If you’re with friends, you have the ‘halo effect’ on your side. This is an observed effect in psychology wherein if someone is perceived as ‘good’, everything he does is assumed to be good.

He can smack her ass. He can sing. He can swear. He can dance. He can flirt. And it’s all good.

You can do crazy shit, and it will be seen as funny (not crazy).

You can try bizarre things and you’ll be seen as ballsy (not bizarre).

That is why I wanted to be liked. If people like you, they’re giving you a license that says:

“Do what the fuck you want. You’ve earned this license, and we will support you, without judgement.”

When I had this, I felt completely free.

The problem is, as we’ve seen, this whole license metaphor starts sounding really stupid pretty quickly, once you look into it…

Some licenses are only applicable in certain social circles. My mates gave me this kind of license (but how many more licenses do you need to cover every other scenario in your life?).

Some licenses have small print on them: it’s not a gold class license, so I can do what I want *only* up to a point (my family gave me one of these).

Some people will probably never give me the license – either they don’t have the license to give in the first place (perhaps they never
received their own license)…

…or maybe they’re the kind of person who expects you just to take the license without asking. Perhaps they hope you will.

How long are you going to wait for your license?

And when you finally get the license, will it be conditional?

Will it be revoked if you go too far with it? Will you know how to use it, or will you have waited so long that you don’t know how to do whatever you want anymore?

I think you get the idea. In lay terms: nobody else can really give you permission to do what you want. You have to give yourself
permission first.

Sure, people can react badly to you.

Not everyone is going to like you.

You can get fired, dumped, judged or rejected – but is that anything new?

And here’s the twist: the best way to avoid these things is to go ahead and print your own license anyway.

What do you think of men who do whatever they want? They’re described as badasses, real men, strong people, driven, confident, etc.

And do women like this type of man?

The irony is delicious.

All I wanted was to get away with it, to pull it off. And it seems that no matter which way you look at it, it all starts and ends with me.

Luke (deepPlay)

You see that girl, and your heart immediately jumps an extra 30 beats per second.

Your mind starts racing.

Then it goes blank, and you may even get a little bit sweaty.

You want to go approach, but you “can’t”. Why do you think that is?

Many of the men I have had the pleasure of meeting suffer the same ailments as you.

And many of them are literally paralysed by their nerves.

What is it that actually stops them, though?

We, as men, experience those nerves – and then start trying to find a way to STOP IT.

So, instead of going up to that gorgeous woman whilst still feeling anxious about it, we feel the temptation to make our nerves WRONG…

And then we focus on how to get rid of that feeling, rather than going and talking to that gorgeous woman IN SPITE of nerves.

We think that we shouldn’t be feeling nerves at all.

Especially if they we ever want to be great in the arena of seduction.

You most DEFINITELY should be feeling anxiety – it‘s how you know your alive half the time.

But what you may find is that in trying to get rid of your nerves, you’re simply focusing on the feeling in your body, and “clamping down” on it…

… Rather than letting it course fully throughout your entire body.

If you can “release” those nerves from your chest, or stomach, or throat, or wherever it is that you experience that feeling…

And then let it travel down your arms and legs, and feel it through your entire body…

…Those “nerves” all of a sudden feels more like “excitement”.

But why else has this been such an issue for many men?

For many men, the issue has been that they’re pretending with the woman in front of them that they are not experiencing nerves at all.

They have to “look cool”, and “be in state” in order to have a “solid interaction”.

Forget all of that bullshit for a moment.

Ever told a lie and had to maintain that lie for so long, only to have the lie come out in the open anyway?

It may have been a shit fight, but I bet as soon as it was out in the open, and you accepted it, you experienced one of the greatest waves of relief in your life.

You now experience the complete removal of that tension in the place of the lie. It’s calming, a weight off the shoulders, and you don’t have to try, put in effort, or pretend any more.

You can just BE.

What if you accepted your nerves; that they were there, and they didn’t mean ANYTHING.

Hell, what if you were even HONEST with the woman in front of you about your anxiety:

“Hi, it was nearly impossible for me to work up the courage to walk over here and compliment you on how incredibly gorgeous you are… and you know what? It was totally worth it. I’m Jonno, who are you apart from stunningly-fuck-off-gorgeous?”

Now for the rest of the interaction, you don’t have to worry about hiding your anxiety: it’s been dealt with, it’s out in the open, and you were real about it.

Now there’s space between the two of you for the really fun stuff: flirting, banter, good old-fashioned conversation even.

And it’s REAL.

So the next time you start to see that your nerves are going to pull the rug out from under you in your quest for success with the opposite sex, ask yourself this simple question:

“Am I being honest, or not?”


Jonathon

And despite their different titles, flashy logos and high-budget marketing, they’re all actually teaching you the same thing.

Yes, yes, they say that they all have different methods, seduction “secrets” and dating tips.

But at its heart, everything they teach is this: how to *ACT* as if you didn’t need her to be fulfilled.

That’s it.

They have variations in their pathways, but it’s all designed to get you to that same point.

I’m now going to let you in on a little secret that means you wont have to waste any more time – or money – chasing a pathway that never actually gets you where you want.

To show you, lets have a look at some of the most common seduction techniques.

Indirect openers are designed to demonstrate that you’re not actually interested in her – and that she has to prove herself to you before you demonstrate interest.

Direct openers are designed to show her that you’re the kind of guy who goes after what he wants in life, the kind of guy who is courageous.

Qualification is designed to demonstrate that you want her in your life for something other then her looks.

DHV’s are designed to show her that your life is fun without her.

Negs are designed to show her that you’re not like every other guy who’s just trying to get her into bed.

C&F is designed to show her that you’re playful, fun, and high value.

Routines are designed to give you things to talk about you know she’s going to find interesting.

What if, instead of trying to pretend like you didn’t need to her to be fulfilled, you actually were fulfilled without her?

Do you think you’d need indirect openers to show her that you weren’t interested in her before you get to know her? Or do you think you’d much more selective with the people you bring into your life?

Do you think you’d need to learn direct openers to have the courage to say what you thought? Or do you think you’d be much more open and honest – and therefore direct?

Do you think you’d need to learn to qualify? Or do you think you’d actually be looking for women in your life who are more than just ‘their looks’?

Do you think you’d need to learn DHV’s to show how fun and exciting your life is? Or do you think your life would actually be fun and exciting?

Do you think you’d need to learn negs to show how different you are from all those ‘nice guys’ who suck up to women? Or do you think you’d actually *BE* different?

Do you think you’d need to learn C&F? Or do you think you’re more likely to be fun, playful and high value (before you say anything, you know how I feel about value…)?

Do you think you’d need to learn routines so you’ve got things to talk about that she finds interesting? Or do you think you’re more likely to look for girls who can talk about things you find interesting?

The only reason you need to learn seduction is because you’re trying to pretend to be the kind of guy who doesn’t need her. Rather than working on being the kind of guy who doesn’t need her.

Now, which option sounds easier, more fun, and more rewarding:

1. Spending years, learning to suppress all the symptoms of your unhappiness, placing layer after layer of someone else’s personality over the top of the already numerous layers you’re using, right now, only to condemn yourself to having to maintain those layers in the unfortunate chance that she does fall for your lies.

2. Actually becoming fulfilled, happy and creating a life that naturally draws people in. Rather than having to desperately try and drag them in. Stripping back the walls, doing the things that you find rewarding, regardless of what other people think, filling your life with passion, excitement, and adventure, and collecting an army of fun, interesting and adventurous mates along the way, and being able to totally relax and express that cool, Masculine guy whenever you find a woman that you choose to be part of the amazing life you’ve created.

I know which one I’d choose (and have) but it’s your choice.

I know that some people will say that to completely forgo learning ‘game’ and seduction will not make you successful with women.

Sure, there may be an element of truth in there. When I say “FORGET SEDUCTION”, I mean you start with the CORE, and then dabble in some seduction tips and tricks later.

Think of “game” as an icing on the cake, or as a sheath over your sword.

No amount of cake icing is going to rescue a crappy cake, as no fancy sheath is going to help a warrior who is using it to hide his rusty sword.

Take care of your core first. If you feel the need, add some ’seduction’ material on top. But don’t use a thick layer of ’seduction’ as a substitute for what’s inside.

LoGun