How meaningful do you want your interactions women to be?

To be able to penetrate through the surface-layers of insecurity and bullshit..

To be completely devastated by the ecstasy of incredible sex with a beautiful woman who you just approached..

You’ll need to give up the one thing that is in the way – and it’s the same thing that wants all of the above:

You.

Let me explain..

It’s tot the real you that you must give up, of course .. but that part of you that your ego has you convinced is you: your identity.

All the things you do -all the ways in which you define yourself by wearing specific clothing, listening to specific music, associating with specific people…

…all that surface level stuff.

All the stuff that makes you great, all the stuff that makes you shit, all the stuff that makes you more than, and all the stuff that makes you less than.

You gotta surrender it.

How?

It’s pretty hard, because it feels so warm and cosy where you are now.

And yet it’s easy – because ff you don’t surrender it, all you’ll have is your surface level identity attempting to approach women with their surface level identity:

Full of the pleasantries, but never quite connecting on that deeper level.

You’ll always be left wanting more. I know you’re very familiar with this feeling. I am, too.

But if you’re not your identity, then who are you?

You can’t be your body, because you have no real control over it:

(If you believe you do, then stop your heart from beating, or stop yourself from aging, or turn of your pain).

You can’t be your mind because of the same reason: try and stop thinking. You can’t. But you CAN become aware that something is also AWARE of your mind.

Beneath all of that, beneath the emotion, beneath the experience, beneath your habits, short-comings, thoughts, is something much deeper.

It’s what animates you. What gives you life.

It’s also the same thing that animates her and gives her life.

It makes you both magnificent.

It gives you the ability to experience your identities, to experience your emotions, to experience each other, and it is always there.

What do you think your interactions would be like if you were interacting with that inside of her, to go beyond the surface, to acknowledge it, but not address it?

To be aware of this depth when you speak to her, when you have sex with her, when you connect with her?

How do you think the walk down your current path would feel if it weren’t distracted by the noise of those surface ripples?

To understand the depth of the body of water unmoved by those ripples requires a deep awareness, and it’s not caffeinated.

Slow down for a moment, breathe deeply and fully, and feel into your body.

Then feel where your body ends, and the outside world begins.

Then feel where the outside world ends, and she begins.

Is there really a clear delineation?

Or are we all really one and the same outside of our identities?

Jonathon

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You owe it to yourself.

You owe it to yourself to sit in front of the computer for hours trying to memorise the next step in the sequence.

You owe it to yourself to repress your core, masculine self under layers and layers of someone else’s personality.

An most importantly, you owe it to yourself to blame someone else in the world for where you are now and why you haven’t got the success you want.

Because it’s not until you realise that-

-There’s no easy way out

That there’s no magic bullet, and you’re ready to take responsibility for where you are and the issues you face in your life…

That you’re going to be ready to see that there is some deeper stuff going on.

Until that point in time, you’re still going to be wondering,

“Do I really have to go through all this stuff? Do I really have to look inside?

“Do I really have to dig into excuses that I’ve been feeding myself for so many years to see that they’re solely my creation?”

And you’re not going to be committed to real change.

You’re going to have one foot out the door, you’re going to hold back in the exercises, and you’re not going to get the life transforming results that you’ve been looking for.

You’re not going to see the barriers that you’ve been using to sabotage your own success, just melt away.

You’re not going to experience the complete social freedom and feel the uncontrollable joy that you’ve been searching for.

And you’re not going to wake up next to the smiling faces of those beautiful women you’ve been watching from the sidelines for so long.

So please, go and “learn” how to seduce women – rather becoming the kind of real man who women flock to.

Learn how to put a bandaid after bandaid on top of your fears to have them rear their ugly head when you least expect it…

…Rather than dissolving them..

So that they’re never part of your life again.

And hide your true self away until you’ve proven to yourself that that’s never going to get you what you want.

Then, we can talk.

LoGun

ESPECIALLY the really attractive ones.

I mean, lets face it – when you see one of those REALLY hot girls, the first thing that goes through your mind is NOT-

“Wow, she’s incredible, I wonder if I’ll find a deep connection with her”.

More likely it’s “Holy fuck, how good would it be if she was sitting on my face tonight.”

The most unfortunate thing of all though, is that that is what you will be carrying in to your interaction with that woman.

From this point on in the interaction, unless you say to this woman-

“Holy fuck, I can’t stop thinking about how incredible it would be to have you sitting on my face tonight,”

-everything you do, and say in this interaction will lack a real authenticity.

Everything from this moment forth is, in some way, an attempt to manipulate this woman into sitting on your face tonight. Or in a few nights.

And while you’re doing this, you’ll have a whole bunch of walls and barriers up in the hope that she will not see through your thin veil of inauthenticity.

Most devastatingly unfortunate though, is that you are closing your heart to this woman. And as such, not allowing her heart to find that connection that she so desperately loves to find in life.

When a woman’s heart is unable to flow freely, you are stifling the one thing that makes her so radiant, so beautiful, and so powerful.

Maybe you’re afraid of that, though.

Maybe that’s why you seek to conquer women superficially, through fuck, through dating, through number closing.

Maybe what scares you the most is not only her potential to be powerful, incredible, beautiful, and radiant, but also what that will mean for your own success as man.

Be honest, right now – on some level, you really are afraid of success.

To be powerful, full of integrity, authentic, real, unencumbered by meaningless concern, free to walk through the world creating it in the most empowering way for you and those around you -

The prospect of THAT scares THE SHIT out of many guys.

Because with that, comes responsibility.

Because with that, comes accountability.

At least when you’re chasing a woman for superficial reasons alone, you can only be rejected on a superficial level.

That’s OK though, because you’re tucked safely away behind that façade you keep calling a man. And as long as only that is attacked, you’ll always be OK.

What I want to offer here is an alternative.

An alternative that has been made possible for me through inner game.

Consider that you are still very superficially attracted to that hottie standing over there, and you can’t stop thinking about her sitting on your face.

You think to yourself, why?

This time, it’s not about covering up your own insecurities by trying to conquer her.

This time, it is about your deepest expression of desire for woman, and in this moment THAT woman.

Instead of allowing it to stay in your head as fantasy, you allow that invigorating new energy to flood throughout your entire body, to re-energise you, and to allow you to be the kind of man that can penetrate this woman with a gaze.

You now powerfully walk up to that woman, aware of everything around you, and yet not seeing anything but her.

You approach, and you are not only powerful, but vulnerable and happy to live that way.

You speak with her, engage her, feel your own heart free of constriction and barrier, and allow that woman permission to grow, to flow, to be free in your presence.

Now, she may, or may not still be sitting on your face by the end of the night. But that’s irrelevant to you now.

You no longer live for the results of this game of life, you live to play it in the field, to express yourself fully, powerfully, and in an empowering way.

But I’ll let you in on a little secret.

If she is sitting on your face at the end of the night, it won’t be about the conquering this time around.

It will be about utter, devotional worship to the power of her feminine, and you will feel the power of worship from an incredible feminine, in full force.

Not some small jolt of pleasure bestowed upon you by a closed woman who is just fucking you for her own validation.

It’s OK to live openly.

It’s OK to live powerfully.

It’s OK to empower. And most of all, it is OK to worship her.

And there is the love.

It’s been within you the entire time, you‘ve just covered that man up, and forgotten that he was there all along.

Jonno