I joined a seduction lair.

I even took a bootcamp.

I went out and approached women. I even worked on my inner game.

And yet, I still don’t have choice with women.

WHAT AM I MISSING?”

That is the question which usually brings guys to this blog. They want to have tight game, and for some reason they still don’t.

If that’s you, the good news #1 is that you’re not alone.

And good news #2 is – many guys find the answer to that question here. Which means you might, too.

You’re not a beginner.

So, first things first. If you’re here, you probably already know “the answers”.

By that I mean, you’re familiar with do’s and dont’s of seduction theory.

You’ve been told that supplicating is bad, and being an alpha male is good.

You know that being needy will not get you far around women, and approaching women with an abundance mentality is good.

But let me guess .. for some reasons “knowing” these answers for you doesn’t translate into being able to act in line with that knowledge around women.

Here’s why:

“When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice”,

I can’t remember who said it. But the meaning behind this expression can be profound…

That is, your true colours come to the surface when you’re under pressure.

So, you can sit behind your computer and debate pickup artist theory all day, or flirt casually with a woman you’re not really into.

But does it all fall apart when you approach a truly beautiful woman that you’re into? Do you become an uncalibrated, nervous wreck?

It’s OK if you do.

But I want to ask you a bold question – if that is the case, then how much growth has REALLY occurred in your life as a result of learning all that seduction theory?

Did all the promises of women falling at your feet come true?

Or perhaps you were slightly misled on the way to becoming a so-called pick up artist?

Maybe, but we’re not here to focus dwell on what COULD have been.

And we’re not here to indulge in “dating guru bashings”.

(Although we do take the piss of them sometimes, when their advice is likely to make you worse with women…

Or they “reveal” err… ’shockingly powerful dating tips’ which are well and truly rubbish).

What we’re really here for is to, as you guessed it, discover the real reasons why the dating advice you have learned until now hasn’t worked for you, and then set you on the path of authentic growth as a man.

I’ll give you a hint: the reason the results you were promised didn’t come true is because 99% of advice you’ve learned merely treated the symptoms of deeper inner game issues.

Which leaves us with a choice to make: to continue treating the symptoms, or to take care of the underlying causes, once and for good.

It is your choice, and forever will be.

And you’re the one who will live the life which will be played out as a result of choices you choose to make.

One more thing. Why should you listen to us, you might be asking?

Well, we don’t insist that you do.

We’re not qualified gurus of any kind, we don’t claim to know all the answers.

But we did stumble across some cool inner game stuff like this and this which nobody else online was teaching. And it worked for us!

Then we showed it to a few of our friends, and it’s helped them, too to do what they want around women.

Oh, and helped this fellow man. And these guys (scroll down a bit).

And then the word kinda spread, and we started getting swamped with emails.

To cope with the demand, we started this blog and the inner game forums.

Here you’ll find inner game tips on approaching women, being free around women and having organic interactions with women and a lot more.

You can also take part in a 7-day inner game course, which we designed to help you pinpoint your inner game roadblocks.

At the moment, it is still free.

All this is very cool and humbling, because we never thought it would get so big.

This blog that you’re reading now is not a database of “pickup advice”.

Rather, it is a journal of our own self-discovery, lessons, frustration, embarrassments, weird stories, failures and successes.

It is the medium through which we can communicate with you as we journey to the very bottom of what it means to be a man…

…and seek for answers to questions that each man needs to answer to himself in order to die complete.

And when I say “complete”, I mean surrounded by love and abundance. And by that I mean, abundance which stems from within, from realising your own deepest truths.

Not by collecting stuff / gadgets / women to temporarily quell your feelings of insignificance.

If you’re the kind of man whose resonates with what I just wrote, we’re glad to have you here.

And if you’re not, it’s OK too, but you’ll probably find this place a bit dry and boring. There are no quick fixes, super-secret tricks or magic “openers” here.

The stuff you’ll find here is difficult to pigeonhole, but if you insist, I’d say it’s a weird blend of spirituality and inner game.

At the end of the day, we are here because want to be more successful with women. But to “to pick up a woman” can mean many different things to a man.

It can mean to distract yourself from how much your life sucks. Or it can mean to go on a mutual journey of growth. Or it can mean to give her what she needs in that moment.

There are no right or wrong meanings, and no-one here will judge you for where you’re at in life.

But the important thing to realise is, whatever meaning you ascribe to picking up a woman, will determine the outcome of your interaction with her, long before you approach her.

And no amounts of tricks or methods will make any difference.

Not in any kind of meaningful or sustainable way, anyway. You may learn how to trick a couple of women, which means you’ll forever be playing the “numbers game”.

Screw that. You’re more than that. Well, we think so, anyway.

Your journey starts when you choose for it to start. When will that be?

Steven

Since his work has been such an inspiration, and great teaching.

I’ve noticed something in myself that I’ve noticed within many men throughout this community -

The pursuing of this trait we call alpha male, or masculine.

In the words of David Deida, the masculine is deep consciousness, and its ability to penetrate.

And let’s face it: as men, we seek to be Alpha Males so that we can penetrate more.

But in being an Alpha Male, or becoming an Alpha, we must also learn to be more penetrative in the way in which we conduct our daily living:

- putting forth our standards into the world without fear of judgment
- diving into the world fully, rather than just dipping in our toe,
- being unapologetic in the way we desire, as well as what we desire.

But in attempting to be more masculine, we hide the part we perceive as being not masculine, and put up this barrier to hide that from the world.

In doing this, there is also a possibility that we attempt to “get a reaction” in order to cover up this inadequacy of ours.

The problem is, though, in order to be successful in our penetration of the world, the very barriers we put up to protect ourselves, are the very barriers the prevent us from penetrating.

The most masculine men I’ve ever met were never afraid of being vulnerable.

In fact, it was their ability to remain immovable within their vulnerability that actually attracted women to these men.

The removal of all barriers is exactly what allowed them to move through the world unencumbered.

So the next time you put a barrier up between you and the world in order to cover up an inadequacy, ask yourself:

“How easily you’ll be able to move through this world with that heavy suit of armour?”

It will be the lack of barrier that is exactly what will fuel your ability to penetrate the world, women, and your challenges with ease.

Jonathon

One moves effortlessly through the world, and the other is tormented by it.

One dates the women he desires. The other chips away at approach after approach, waiting for the opportunities that are presented to him, rather than created by him.

One is fuelled by his desire, allowing it to propel him to greater heights.

The other is ashamed of his desire, and is looking to offload it as quickly as possible through masturbation, distraction, alcohol, or sex (when he gets the opportunity)

I can take you down the path, the question is: are you ready for it? Do you choose to take the blue, or the red pill? We don’t have far to travel, since the rabbit-hole is inside your own head.

In my article about becoming bulletproof, I outlined a scenario of being the man who lives from the world of “MAYBE”, the world of possibility.

In that scenario, the man who is the master of reality is the man who lives from interpretation only. In the standard scenario, the one of truth, lives the man who is the product of reality.

What does this mean, specifically in the context of “leading” (I’m sure many of you are familiar with the seduction related term: you know, the alpha male is always leading etc).

Well think about this: who do you think will be more capable of leading? The master, or the product of reality?

If you are a product of reality, unfortunately most decisions you make are based on a mould you believe you need to fit.

So, in this instance, you are not really leading. You are being led by what you believe is the most impressive, or most ideal, action to take in this moment.

When the master of reality leads, he doesn’t do it for any reason other than because that is what he is choosing to do in that moment.

And he is committed to that choice because it is his, not because somebody, or some ideal, told him to.

If you had the choice, who would you rather be lead by: the donkey with the carrot always dangling out of it’s reach?

Or the man (or woman, if you’re LoGun) who is on a path which is the fullest expression of who you are as a human being (thus also giving you the permission to be that way)?

Which one would be more of an adventure for you?

Which one would be more exciting?

Which one feels more honourable? (and please don’t choose it because it would seem more honourable to do so :P).

When you are able to come from this place, you begin to live a life of integrity. When you are able to come from this place, you begin to live a life of freedom.

When you begin to come from this place, you begin become an inspiration for those around you. You become powerful. And empowering.

You tell me who you’d rather hang out with.

Jonathon

True alpha males. Men with presence. Men who ooze confidence, rather than just act confidently.

They’re loving and giving through strength and compassion. They have time and energy for anyone who happens to enter their world and their life is full of perfect synchronicities.

They’re powerful human beings who effortlessly move through interaction after interaction without the need to use false time constraintss, negs, or any other community junk

Have you ever wondered how they do it and where their power comes from?

The research I’ve done over the last couple of months has led me to the conclusion that every enlightened philosophy is pointing in the
same direction; everyone is trying to open the same door, they just have different names and ways of explanations it.

David Hawkins concept of Power vs. Force is the most concise explanation of it, so let me start there.

True personal power is that which we all have within us. It is what we feel when we are moving congruently with honesty, courage and love in open harmony with ourselves and the world around us.

Force is the complete opposite. It is the energy we utilise when we are attempting to move against ourselves and our deepest desires. It
is what moves us when we try and pretend that we are something that we are not.

Power flows effortlessly through life. Force creates resistance.

For those familiar with David Deida’s work; the first stage, 1950’s macho jerk is a classic example of the use of force over power.

Men were forced to suppress their inner feminine as this was a sign of weakness.

Men who got their hair styled, danced passionately, or wore bright colours were looked at suspiciously and forced by society to change as
this was unacceptable behaviour in that macho environment.

Forcing a man to repress his desires and urges requires constant effort and work in order to maintain the outer shell projected for
society.

This is effort he could be utilising in other areas of his life: in his study, in his work, in the pursuit of his greatest purpose.

The macho jerk has to constantly and consciously monitor his words and actions in the public domain; he has to constantly check in with
society’s beliefs and ideals to make sure that he is meeting their standards.

This externally validated lifestyle results in constant second guessing and suppression of ones true desires.

The suppression of his true desires creates resistance within. This resistance manifests itself in any number of negative emotions
including frustration and anger as his true essence is not being expressed.

His life is progressing unfulfilled.

This is in contrast to the third stage Man who has accepted and embraced his inner feminine and transcended these desires.

Once he accepts himself complete as a whole, he now has the power to move forward and direct his effort in the pursuit of his greatest truth; living a fulfilled life on purpose.

He is not externally validated as he is living his purpose in line with his ideals and beliefs. He does not have to monitor his words or
actions in public as he is living his ideals and beliefs.

He exerts no force or effort over himself as he is living his ideals and beliefs.

He experiences no resistance from within himself.

He is power manifest. His movement through life is easy and free from personal constraint.

True personal power comes from accepting and transcending your own personal insecurities and desires whilst force is simply suppressing them.

The Power vs. Force dichotomy is also evident in Taoism.

The Taoist philosophy believes, unlike the other major eastern philosophies, that heaven is not an unimaginable paradise but is simply a reflection of earth, and that the earth is perfect and complete within itself.

They see every element on earth complete as it is.

It may not be suitable for every purpose or meet every standard but as it is, right now, it is perfection. If you try and force nature against its will then you will be fighting a tiring life of constant uphill battle of frustration and unhappiness.

But if you accept the way of nature as perfection, then your life will be a powerful and effortless journey of love.

If you try and deny your own true desires and instincts then you will be living a powerless and incongruent life of constant frustration and
unhappiness, but if you accept your true desires and live to your own beliefs then you will move through life with powerful ease.

This does not mean that you should not fight for your deepest desire, but in order to direct your complete power to you greatest cause, you need to stop fighting within yourself first.

The difference between power and force within the community is also very obvious.

The working-from-the-outside-in approach of fake it till you make it is strongly rooted in force.

Forcing yourself to mask your true emotions and repress your true desires to follow the guidelines and ideals set out by another means
that you have to constantly be aware of what you are doing.

You have to consciously monitor your words and actions as you are forcing yourself to act under another’s standards.

If you are living by another’s standards then you must constantly check with them to make sure you are meeting them.

The effort that you are expending in monitoring your words and actions is effort that is not being projected into the interaction with whoever you are interacting with.

This is what is happening when we are not being present.

This lies at the essence of being externally validated.

This creates an environment whereby others cannot trust you.

This is what causes women to lose interest in you.

Understanding, accepting and transcending your true desires will allow you to have much more complete, fulfilling, and rewarding experiences within your interactions.

If you learn to accept and love yourself completely as you are whilst living your deepest purpose, then you will become completely present
in interactions as you do not require anything from the external environment.

You will become completely internally validated as you are living by your own personal beliefs and standards. You will create an environment whereby others will trust you faster and deeper than they trust even
their closest friends.

This is because you are being completely honest with yourself and those you interact with.

Your connections with others will reach undreamed of depths as you open your heart to the world. You will move with powerful ease through interaction after interaction as your energy is solely directed to living you purpose.

This does not mean you should not try and change your beliefs and desires to more greatly empower yourself but in order to do so, first
you need to learn what they are right now and love yourself with them.

Once you do that, only then can you grow.

Think of it like this: You are a power point. Most people have enormous power boards plugged into them and are splitting their power
between many different elements of their life.

There is the power draining to shield their insecurity about the looks, some to cover their personal feelings of not having enough money, some to cover not having an attractive enough partner, or one at all.

More power is spent shielding their belief that they’re not cool enough to interact socially with beautiful women. More to their shield
their dissatisfaction with the current state and direction of their life.

There’s the power draining into their social interactions as they have to constantly maintain a shield of masculinity around their mates.
There’s the power draining into their work life as they try and feint interest in an unfulfilling job.

There’s also the power that drains into looking after their health as their doctor’s told them to get more exercise to reduce the high blood pressure levels brought on by stress.

With all this power draining out of your existence simply so that you can make it through each day, how are you supposed to live your
deepest purpose?

If you plug any more elements into this board, it’s going to short circuit and nothing will work.

But what about this: Instead of suppressing you insecurity about your looks, understand what the cause of this belief is, address it, and
then transcend it.

It then requires no power to maintain a false shield of security and the power that was being expended in that area can be redirected to other, more important areas of your life.

The same goes for all your insecurities. Learn what they really are, love yourself with them, and transcend them. Once they are dealt with
you can remove those plugs and the power can be redirected to living your deepest purpose.

Unplug those from your life that do not love you for who you are as they will simply drain more power from you.

Unplug your unfulfilling job and find one that truly inspires you.

Find one that motivates you to get out of bed every morning. Live your deepest truth.

Once you strip away all the excess elements, there’ll be plenty of room to plug in your deepest purpose. But, by this time you will
realise that you do not need to plug in your deepest purpose.

By this time, you will be living it. It drains no power from you as it is you.

You will flow from you to those around you as you become power itself.

You will become a power giver, rather than a power drainer.

In order to achieve true personal power you must face repressed feelings and emotions and learn to accept who you are, for what you are, right now.

In order to transcend your desires, you must first understand what they actually are and then uncover the true source of these desires.

Once you understand where the belief that they stem from and why they are there, then you can move beyond them. More often than not, your desires are simply symptoms of a much deeper issue.

You must learn to love yourself as you are, for both your strengths and weaknesses. You must learn to love yourself and others with, and
even for, their imperfections.

If you have not fully forgiven yourself and those in your past, then this can be a very intense experience, but the rewards that you will
receive will be well worth the effort.

You must first open your heart to yourself and only then, can you open it to those around you.

This is the first step in the most empowering journey you will ever take.

LoGun

And why non-alpha males always feel like attracting women is an uphill struggle?

And why is it that non-alpha males always accept alphas, and follow their lead?

What if I told you that you could have women desiring you – by becoming one of those alpha male types?

Like, literally, you could just say to yourself…

“Today I’m going become one of those ALPHA MALE dudes who gets approached by women…”

And then walk into some party – and it would happen.

It would probably sound like some of that seduction community “quick fix” stuff which insists that to become an alpha male you have to learn a how to behave around around women….

Maybe learn some “seduction theory”. And maybe even wear a loud costume.

Well, that seduction community stuff is the polar opposite to what we’re talking about right now. And that’s the opposite to what becoming an alpha male is all about.

Instead, I’m talking about some time-tested INNER GAME principles that have nothing to do with hype, silly jokes or routines.

And you can begin using immediately to become as ALPHA male as you want.

TWO EASY STEPS TO BECOMING ALPHA MALE.

It all comes down to just two steps -

Step 1:FREEDOM
Step 2: REMOVING ROADBLOCKS TO FREEDOM.

And the best way for me to show you how these steps relate to becoming an alpha male is to give you a little example.

Imagine yourself standing by yourself in the middle of a crowded bar. Alone, but with a mischievous smile is cast across your face.

You’re looking around at the crowd, at the faces, looking for something to catch your attention.

Suddenly, you see a woman that you like. She is exactly your type. And she is standing not far away. Chatting to her friends.

Your curiosity ignited, you march over to her without breaking eye contact. You stop. Pause. Ask her what her name is. You tell her she caught your attention, and that you’d like to meet her.

You are calm, your nerves don’t get in your sense of humour and her group welcomes you with open arms.

To everyone in her group it’s obvious that you are attracted to this woman. As it is obvious to you and everyone else that this woman is attracted to you.

The other group members – including other men who also like her – see it and accept it.

They do not stand in your way.

Nice work. Now, let’s see what just happened here. Reading between the lines, what was it about that situation that made it so effortless?

Freedom. You knew what you wanted in that moment and you went after it. You were free to follow your desires. You were free to do whatever you want, and to say what you thought.

You were not thinking about what others thought of you. You were not checking with yourself to wonder ‘How am I doing with her?’

Rather, you were following your instincts and desires, and were totally unrestrained in expressing them to this woman.

So, becoming an alpha male is becoming a man who is free to do what he wants.

Whenever you want to.

To help you see how freedom relates to becoming an alpha male, do this:

Picture yourself standing alone in the middle of that crowded bar again And ask yourself these two questions:

“If I had no insecurities, what would I do right now?”

“If there was no chance of failure, how would I act right now?”

You’ll probably find that your answers pretty much list the traits are typically used to describe an alpha male – a man who is confident, congruent, standing up for what he believes in, not nervous, relaxed.

A man who doesn’t buy into other people’s bullshit or worry about what other people are thinking of him.

A man who knows what he wants and just does what he needs to do in every moment.

There are no routines to it or any rules; it’s just his desires and execution of whatever needs to be done to make them happen.

So now that we know that freedom is the underlying ingredient in traits that are typically associated with alpha male behaviour, we can ask the following:

How Can I Remove The Roadblocks To My Freedom?

Picture yourself in that crowded bar again. Again, suddenly you spot the woman that you like.

What happens? Are you free or instead of that liberating sense of freedom, you hear an inner ‘voice’ kick in:

“What am I going to say to her?”

“What if I get rejected?”

“What if others see me getting rejected?”

That voice points to the roadblocks that exist on your way to freedom. On your way to becoming an alpha male who attracts women.

Which brings us to the second, and most juicy part of this fine piece of literature. You can identify and dissolve those roadblocks. And the good thing is, it’s not as difficult as you might think.

First, stop for a second and think about what you read in the following sentence:

Do you actually need to learn to be free?

Is this a skill you have to learn how to do? Or are you able to do it, right now? Think back to a time in your life where you were totally in the zone.

It may have been in a great night out and you were ‘in state’, or when you were reading a book, on the sporting field, or in a great conversation.

Did you have to learn how to be free in those moments?

Sure, there were skills you had to develop in order to be competent in those situations – e.g., basic language skills, but was letting go of your barriers and being free in the moment something you had to learn?

Don’t think so.

It is something you just did naturally. You were following what you wanted, when you wanted it and not worrying about what other people were thinking.

This is a skill you were born with.

Do you think a baby needs to learn how to do what it wants? Do you think sucking its toes and putting every object it can find in its mouth are special techniques learned from the doctors at birth?

No, it’s something we were all born with.

It’s the limitations we impose in ourselves in the later years that prevent us from being free in every single moment – including those moments around women we are attracted to.

So if you’re born with this ability, why aren’t you an alpha male now? And how do you become an alpha male – NOW?

Well, that’s the thing, you are.

You’re as alpha as alpha gets, right now, you’re just not letting him out all of the time.

Let’s bet that when you’re sitting at the dinner table with your close friends, you’re able to let go and be yourself.

Or when you’re about to fall asleep, you’re not thinking about what other people would think if they saw you doing that.

Look around you. Look at the objects in the room.

If you really desired, could you physically get up and do what you want with them? If you really desired, could you say whatever you wanted to, right now?

Could you be funny? Could you be witty? Interesting? Confident?

Sure you could.

So, what happens when an attractive woman enters your room? Or – let’s up the stakes a little for the purposes of making a point – two or three women!

Now, that’s a problem that most men would like to have. But would most men be able to remain free and alpha and make the most of that situation?

This point is necessary to really illustrate that a ‘high-pressure’ situation is only ‘high pressure’ because you perceive it to be.

It has nothing to do with the situation itself – and everything to do with how you choose to interpret it.

And your interpretation – your perceptual filters that you have built up over the years will forever shape how you see the situation and react to it.

Can you see now why learning routines, lines and tricks in order to seduce women is a futile, short-term solution? And why it doesn’t help you to become an alpha male?

As long as you’re learning more and more ‘dating secrets’, and ‘seduction tactics’, you’re adding more stuff to the perceptual filters you already have in place.

The path to freedom and becoming an alpha male is not found in a thick pile of knowledge in your head, but in a process of stripping back the layers of perceptual filters you already have in place.

In other words – in a process of pinpointing and dissolving the roadblocks which stop you from being free.

Nothing more, nothing less.

To begin that journey, sign up to the Inner Game Challenge now.

It is a 16-minute video inner game course which will start melting away your roadblocks to freedom. And for now, it’s still free to watch.

LoGun