Those beautiful creatures, running around the club, laughing, giggling, and shaking those sexy bodies.

So, how do you attract more women?

It’s a good question.

And before you try and answer it, you need to know about the are two different paths you can go down.

Neither one is better or worse – they’re just different with different sets of benefits and draw backs.

And before you go on your journey, you need to decide which path do you want to go down to attract more women into your life.

Path 1: Pretend to be someone you’re not just so people will hang out with you – The Pick Up Artist (PUA)

This is by far and away the most popular path because it promises so much in the short term.

The PUA path involves simply learning a bunch of lines and/or seduction techniques and then using them to try and attract more women.

You could literally learn something to say to women today and then walk out the door and apply it.

Sound good? Well, hang on a second there.

There’s something that they don’t tell you.

If you just change what you’re like on your surface level, what kind of women are you going to attract?

Shallow women who’re only interested in your surface level characteristics.

If you just change your surface level, what kind of relationships are you going to have? Shallow and meaningless relationships.

If you just change your surface level, how long are these women going to stick around? Just long enough till they find someone who’s got a shinier and prettier surface level.

Does that sound like the kind of life you want?

Lying to attractive women and hiding who you really are, just so you can have meaningless short term relationships?

If so, great. Go mental.

If you want to know where to find guy who can help you with that, download Seduction Community Sucks by clicking on the link under this post.

In the back, there’s a whole bunch of names and websites for guys who can help you down that path.

That’s as much as I can help you with on that path, but there is another way to attract more women.

Path 2: Find who you really are and what you stand for and find those women who are attracted to you for who you really are – unlocking your potential.

This path doesn’t get anywhere near as much attention as the PUA path.

It’s not full of lines and quick tricks you can just throw at women and hope they’ll come running..

..it doesn’t allow you to hide behind more and more layers of lies, it involves you finding your true self, breaking apart the layers that you’re using to hide behind, and letting it out.

It involves being real with people.

And that can be scary.

I was scared when I first started but I knew it was the only way. I wanted a life filled with people who I really liked and who liked me for who I was.

I wanted a life full of attractive, real, genuine, loving and caring women and men who I could be real, and genuine with.

I wanted a life full of people who I could laugh with, play with, go and hang out with – without having to worry about what I should say or who I should be around them.

I wanted to be me, I wanted them to be themselves, and I wanted to have the time of my life.

Sure, I wanted to attract more women.

That’s a no brainer.

But I wanted to attract more women who I could make real connections with rather than just use for meaningless sex.

I wanted to attract more women who I could actually have a real conversation with about the things that were important to me, rather than just having to tell someone else’s stories to keep her amused.

So before you go down this path of trying to attract more women, ask yourself:

“What kind of life do I want to build?”

I think the path you choose will be obvious.

LoGun

I joined a seduction lair.

I even took a bootcamp.

I went out and approached women. I even worked on my inner game.

And yet, I still don’t have choice with women.

WHAT AM I MISSING?”

That is the question which usually brings guys to this blog. They want to have tight game, and for some reason they still don’t.

If that’s you, the good news #1 is that you’re not alone.

And good news #2 is – many guys find the answer to that question here. Which means you might, too.

You’re not a beginner.

So, first things first. If you’re here, you probably already know “the answers”.

By that I mean, you’re familiar with do’s and dont’s of seduction theory.

You’ve been told that supplicating is bad, and being an alpha male is good.

You know that being needy will not get you far around women, and approaching women with an abundance mentality is good.

But let me guess .. for some reasons “knowing” these answers for you doesn’t translate into being able to act in line with that knowledge around women.

Here’s why:

“When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice”,

I can’t remember who said it. But the meaning behind this expression can be profound…

That is, your true colours come to the surface when you’re under pressure.

So, you can sit behind your computer and debate pickup artist theory all day, or flirt casually with a woman you’re not really into.

But does it all fall apart when you approach a truly beautiful woman that you’re into? Do you become an uncalibrated, nervous wreck?

It’s OK if you do.

But I want to ask you a bold question – if that is the case, then how much growth has REALLY occurred in your life as a result of learning all that seduction theory?

Did all the promises of women falling at your feet come true?

Or perhaps you were slightly misled on the way to becoming a so-called pick up artist?

Maybe, but we’re not here to focus dwell on what COULD have been.

And we’re not here to indulge in “dating guru bashings”.

(Although we do take the piss of them sometimes, when their advice is likely to make you worse with women…

Or they “reveal” err… ’shockingly powerful dating tips’ which are well and truly rubbish).

What we’re really here for is to, as you guessed it, discover the real reasons why the dating advice you have learned until now hasn’t worked for you, and then set you on the path of authentic growth as a man.

I’ll give you a hint: the reason the results you were promised didn’t come true is because 99% of advice you’ve learned merely treated the symptoms of deeper inner game issues.

Which leaves us with a choice to make: to continue treating the symptoms, or to take care of the underlying causes, once and for good.

It is your choice, and forever will be.

And you’re the one who will live the life which will be played out as a result of choices you choose to make.

One more thing. Why should you listen to us, you might be asking?

Well, we don’t insist that you do.

We’re not qualified gurus of any kind, we don’t claim to know all the answers.

But we did stumble across some cool inner game stuff like this and this which nobody else online was teaching. And it worked for us!

Then we showed it to a few of our friends, and it’s helped them, too to do what they want around women.

Oh, and helped this fellow man. And these guys (scroll down a bit).

And then the word kinda spread, and we started getting swamped with emails.

To cope with the demand, we started this blog and the inner game forums.

Here you’ll find inner game tips on approaching women, being free around women and having organic interactions with women and a lot more.

You can also take part in a 7-day inner game course, which we designed to help you pinpoint your inner game roadblocks.

At the moment, it is still free.

All this is very cool and humbling, because we never thought it would get so big.

This blog that you’re reading now is not a database of “pickup advice”.

Rather, it is a journal of our own self-discovery, lessons, frustration, embarrassments, weird stories, failures and successes.

It is the medium through which we can communicate with you as we journey to the very bottom of what it means to be a man…

…and seek for answers to questions that each man needs to answer to himself in order to die complete.

And when I say “complete”, I mean surrounded by love and abundance. And by that I mean, abundance which stems from within, from realising your own deepest truths.

Not by collecting stuff / gadgets / women to temporarily quell your feelings of insignificance.

If you’re the kind of man whose resonates with what I just wrote, we’re glad to have you here.

And if you’re not, it’s OK too, but you’ll probably find this place a bit dry and boring. There are no quick fixes, super-secret tricks or magic “openers” here.

The stuff you’ll find here is difficult to pigeonhole, but if you insist, I’d say it’s a weird blend of spirituality and inner game.

At the end of the day, we are here because want to be more successful with women. But to “to pick up a woman” can mean many different things to a man.

It can mean to distract yourself from how much your life sucks. Or it can mean to go on a mutual journey of growth. Or it can mean to give her what she needs in that moment.

There are no right or wrong meanings, and no-one here will judge you for where you’re at in life.

But the important thing to realise is, whatever meaning you ascribe to picking up a woman, will determine the outcome of your interaction with her, long before you approach her.

And no amounts of tricks or methods will make any difference.

Not in any kind of meaningful or sustainable way, anyway. You may learn how to trick a couple of women, which means you’ll forever be playing the “numbers game”.

Screw that. You’re more than that. Well, we think so, anyway.

Your journey starts when you choose for it to start. When will that be?

Steven

..and what to do about it.

What Is The Pickup Artist Myth?

The Pickup Artist Myth says that approaching women is a ‘hit and miss’ affair for most guys because these aspiring Pickup Artists are working on themselves from OUTSIDE IN, rather than from INSIDE OUT.

For example:

- A typical ‘nice guy’ gets fed up with being told by women that he is ‘just a friend’. He gets to work learning seduction methods, learning why being ‘nice guy’ never got him the results he wanted, approaching, escalating, building rapport…

- A guy who has had moderate success with women still gets nervous around women he REALLY likes. He becomes compelled to do better – and goes to work learning how to act confident, studying secret of body language and goes out approaching, escalating, building rapport..

- A guy who has never been with a girl, but knows deep inside he deserves to makes a decision to get this part of his life ‘handled’. He makes a commitment to learn social skills, and builds up the courage to make his first approach…

The Pickup Artist Myth says that all these guys make the same fatal assumption:

Just because they change their OUTWARDLY behaviours (by learning to approach, tease girls, be cocky, kino, build rapport, etc) – they will get permanent, consistent results with women and one day become the ‘REAL DEAL’.

Untrue, says the Pickup Artist Myth.

Untrue, untrue, untrue.

Failing to understand and appreciate, deeply, the difference between an INSIDE OUT perspective and that of an OUTSIDE IN is almost sure to be catastrophic for any man who wants anything more than ‘hit and miss’ results around women.

The result of having an OUTSIDE IN (pickup artist) and INSIDE OUT (real deal) perspective is predictable and verifiable by anyone interested in looking into it.

Let’s look at the difference between the two.

The Pickup Artist wannabe builds Game that depends on his skills.

He devotes his time, his energy, and his life learning, and working on skills which help him shift women’s emotions..

..(attraction is not a logical process, as he knows by now)..

and overcome obstacles and her objections on the path to sexual gratification.

In the end (when he is a recovering AFC, or a green PUA, or whatever other label he chooses for himself), he thinks very much the same as he did at the start (when he was a fully certifiable AFC).

How?

Well, at the start, he used to supplicate to women to attract them – by being extra nice, being polite, paying for everything, coming across as a stable provider type, trying to ‘prove’ to women that he is worthy of them…

Today, he behaves very differently. He playfully teases women. He may even become a fearless ‘approach machine’.

He can make girls laugh. He demonstrates value and/or runs direct/natural/whatever else is the ‘big thing’ that month.

The reason he is behaving in this ‘new and improved’ new way is still the same – he wants women to be attracted to him.

Bottom line – his behaviour has changed, but his THINKING hasn’t.

He is still the same guy underneath the shiny new exterior.

He is hoping, however, that this new exterior will get convincing enough, for himself and others. (With time and enough approaches under his belt, of course).

He is hoping for a ‘trickle-down’ effect or sorts to take place.

For his bold new persona to soak deep into the very core of his being and for that to result in what some refer to as “complete identity transformation’.

And stay that way, independent of his state.

Here is the weird part.

The Pickup Artist Wannabe notices something.

Yes, women may respond to him more than they did in his past life as an AFC.

Yes, some of them give him their numbers. Some giggle at whatever he has to say. Some flirt with him. Some may even agree to go on a date with this up and coming Pickup Artist.

But eventually most of the women he initiates a conversation with lose interest in him.

As LoGun pointed out in the Inner Game Essentials Seminar, they either ‘go dance’ or they suddenly ‘have a boyfriend’ or they simply stop returning his calls.

Here is a quick test to find out if you’re falling into the same trap. Ask yourself -

How many of your ‘approaches’ end up becoming sex, romance or passion?

If most of the women you approach lose interest in you after a while – and you wish they didn’t – you should read on.

And don’t be too hard on yourself – we all fall into this trap of working on ourselves from OUTSIDE IN. I know I have, and spent almost a year in it before I ’saw the light’ and found a quicker and easier way of doing things.

When I was focusing on game from ‘OUTSIDE IN’, talking to women felt like a struggle. Like a series of steps and obstacles to be overcome.

And is it any wonder? I learned ‘game’ as series of steps.

It was a series of milestones – with a series of necessary skills to match. Approach. Open. Attract … all the way to Close. I’m sure you know the drill.

Let me show you what it looks like from the perspective of OUTSIDE IN.

This Man realises that his ‘lack of skills’ is caused by something DEEPER.

The best way for me to show you what I mean is to paint a quick scenario for you.

You know those real-life stories you hear every now and then…

…Where a guy can’t walk properly and he spends 20-30 years on medications which relieve the joint pain caused by his condition..

..control the muscular spasms, and he uses a stick to help him walk?

This guy – let’s call him Rob – can get by everyday without anyone’s help. He is not disabled. And if he tries hard enough and really focuses he can make himself walk in a way that’s pretty much ‘normal’.

But Rob will never run, dance or have much of freedom of choice in where he is able to go.

Then, one day, Rob needs to renew his prescription and he goes to see his usual doctor. It’s the doctor who diagnosed Rob’s condition, and who has been treating him for the past 20 years.

This doctor is considered to be the authority in his field by his peers, and Rob trusts him.

But today, the good doctor is away – and Rob gets a young, fresh visiting physician instead.

Rob is wary of this new guy. He knows his old doctor, and he feels like he is old friends with him – and he likes being able to catch up with him as his prescription is filled. But, the old doc is away until next week and Rob needs more meds now.

He decides to bite the bullet and decided to see the new guy as an exception.

The new doc looks briefly at his charts, looks at Rob with a fresh set of eyes and smiles –

“Good news, Rob. You don’t need more medication. Your condition has nothing to do with your muscles and joints…

…I can see a nerve that is pinched here, and it’s causing all these problems you’re having. I just need to do a quick procedure to un-pinch the nerve and you’ll be running around faster than me.”

And what do you know, turns out this young doctor is right.

A day later Rob struts home without any aids, walking tall and with a sense of relief and a new lease on life.

So Rob just spent 20 years of his life, controlling his symptoms.

Focusing on the OUTSIDE.

And he was learning a myriad of skills to cope with his OUTER symptoms, hoping to approximate physical ability of a man who was born with the ability to do so, and who takes it for granted.

And Rob would have spent another 20 years doing that.

His future changed dramatically overnight because for one physician Rob’s symptoms were NOT the pink elephant in the middle of the room.

The old doctor saw the symptoms are the problem, and spent 20 years controlling them.

For the new young physician, symptoms were a bunch of clues pointing to the real cause of Rob’s problem.

Once he fixed the CAUSE, the symptoms went away as well.

And that’s the end of that story. Rob, of course, if a fictitious character, but the shocking thing thing is – medical field is full of stories like this.

- People diagnosed with depression who don’t actually have depression.

- People who have been told they’re paralyzed get up and start walking after an inflammation that’s been blocking a vital gland is treated with simple antibiotics.

.. and so on.

They are all stories of people getting results they want by focusing on the causes, rather than the symptoms of the problem.

Which brings us back to the two perspectives at hand – the OUTSIDE IN (pickup artist, skill-based game) and INSIDE OUT (real deal, inner game)

The man who truly wants to be the REAL DEAL has the courage to look beyond his symptoms. He focuses on the causes, rather than the outwardly manifestations.

He realises that his success with women is just a a small fragment of his success with HIMSELF. And his success with HIMSELF is a direct product of how he perceives himself and everything around him.

So, he goes to work on how he perceives the world, knowing that once that is in place, everything else will follow. That seeing is believing.

This Man rebuilds his identity from inside out.

This identity liberates him to be unashamedly masculine.

It creates endless amounts of energy and passion which he wants to bring to women’s lives.

It increases his personal, interpersonal, emotional and sexual capital exponentially.

In the end, there is a significant amount he can GIVE to a woman he approaches. His life has intrinsic value, and that value is not subject to tides of acceptance or rejection by others.

Women sense that from him on a subconscious level from a mile away, and are deeply, uncontrollably attracted to him.

His life is that of BEING a man, BEING THE REAL DEAL.

Not ACTING like one in hopes that one day ‘fake it till he makes it’.

His process began from inside, and manifested outwards. He knows that everything on the outside is just a manifestation of what’s inside.

He polishes his core, and it shines through his every move, word and every breath he takes.

The Pickup Artist Wannabe, in the meantime, begins from OUTSIDE IN, hopes that his behavioural changes will ‘internalise’ one day, or – at best – he will be able to mask his inside with a nice and thick layer of game.

Same amount of time invested, significantly different return on investment.

The Pickup Artist wannabe achieves kiss closes, number closes, day 2s, extractions, same night lays.

The Real Man achieves passion, energy, adventure and fire.

The result, in both cases, is predictable.

In the beginning, the Real Man took on what would seem to be, on the surface of it, an enormous task. To transform his life. To become a man of substance (honesty, courage and love, as LoGun would say).

A man who can light a fire inside a woman just by looking at her.

Just by being.

A man who lives to give his gift, unconditionally.

A man who brings life and adventure to a woman’s life. And when he parts with her, he leaves her better than he found her, for in every moment he was with her, he was ADDING to her life.

Instead of taking.

On the very first day the aspiring Pickup Artist was doing pretty much the same thing he would be doing 2 years later -

Learning theory.
Deciding to go out in field.
Getting the nerve up to approach a woman.
Doing a few warm-up sets.
Getting a number close here.
Sending some ‘text game’ later.
Gaming a few women he closed last week.
Posting on the forums about it.
Reading some more theory..

The Real Man set of on his journey the same day the aspiring Pickup Artist set of on his.

What a difference though!

The Real Man is a true masculine energy, one of the most realised ever. The Pickup Artist is a boy suffering from a masculine seizure. One of so many.

Same amount of time invested, significantly different return on their investment.

Knowing what you know right now, who made the most effective choice in his life, the Real Man or the aspiring Pickup Artist?

And would you rather work on yourself from OUTSIDE IN or from INSIDE OUT?

Steven

What drove you to the seduction community?

- Did you want to have a cute ‘girl next door’ girlfriend?

- Did you want to be able to effortlessly chat with girls and not be nervous?

- Did you want to be the guy who women respond to (and perhaps secretly fantasize about)?

Or did you get into seduction community because you wanted to become a Pick Up Artist and go out ’sarging’ all the time?

Probably not that last one.

If you’re going to continue getting better with women, you have to realise an important fact: the path there is through being Alpha. Not a PUA.

Let us quickly show you the difference between an Alpha and a PUA.

First, a PUA:

- Has skills
- Games women
- Relies on things outside himself to add value to self
- Deep inside hopes that women like him
- Whilst outwardly demonstrating ‘non-neediness’
- Continually ’sarges’ to collect positive reference experiences
- So that he ’stays sharp’

Now, an Alpha:

- Deep inside doesn’t give a shit about what women think
- Because he acts solely out of his desire
- Not out of desire for approval
- Is ’sharp’ all the time
- Because he cannot be incongruent with his desires
- Is unapologetic about it

In essence, an Alpha is free to do what he wants. When he wants.

He doesn’t focus on what other people want him to do. He doesn’t sweat about what others think of him.

He validates himself from within.

So how do you become an Alpha?

Well, here is the thing: you already are. Surely, you can think of moments in your life when you were totally ‘in state’ and could do or say anything – and others would accept it without question.

Those are the moments of absolute freedom.

Thing is, you’ve built up layers of beliefs which cut you off from having that freedom 24/7.

And the path to shedding those layers is through inner game.

Remember, being an Alpha (a real man, not a PUA) every day of your life can make the difference between doing alright with women and getting exactly what you want. When you want.

Steven