The ONLY Reason You Would Learn Pickup.

by Leigh (LoGun) on June 29, 2010 · No Comments

I’m going to shoot straight from the hip here.

You may not like what I have to say, in fact, it may even offend you, but in my experience in nearly 4 years (3 and a half of those as a coach) in the community, this is what I’ve seen through every single guy.

Every single one.

There’s only one reason you NEED to learn pick up, and that’s:

Because you’re trying to trick her into liking you.

Yes, I used the work ‘trick’. My other favourite words are ‘manipulate’ or ‘deceive’.

You’re learning pickup because there’s parts of you that you want to hide and parts of you that you want to accentuate.

You’re giving her an incomplete picture specifically to make her like you more than she normally would if she got to know the real you.

You’re withholding the truth, you’re telling her a story, you’re hiding who you really are so that she’ll want to be with you.

Why are you doing this?

Because you’re trying to make her responsible for you happiness. You perceive that she has something that you need in order to get what you want out of life.

This runs deeper than just ‘getting’ things from women. This runs through your entire life and is at the core of all your issues. This is the reason you need to learn pickup.

The only reason you’re stuck in your head is because you’re trying to hide parts of who you are and accentuate others so that she’ll be attracted to you.

The only reason you run out of things to talk about is because you’re trying to come up with things to talk about that you think she wants to listen to.

The only reason you don’t naturally qualify is because you’re so focussed on trying to meet her standards that whether or not she meets yours doesn’t even make it into your mind.

The only reason you need to learn to lead is because you’re trying to make her get her into your life and you’re afraid that if you do lead, she wont follow.

The only reason you need to learn to escalate is because you’re trying to get her into your life and you’re afraid that if you do escalate, she might reject you.

The only reason you need to DHV is because you’re trying to impress her with specific things in your life.

If you weren’t relying on her to get what you want out of life then you wouldn’t need to learn pickup. Ever.

If you change who you’re making responsible for the fulfilment and satisfaction that you get out of life then things would be very different.

The primary thing that would change is that instead of sitting around on computers trying to memorise the next seduction secret, or out ‘in field’ trying to internalise these complex structures through practise set after practise set, you’d be out living your life for yourself.

You’d be doing activities that were intrinsically fulfilling and rewarding.

You be taking responsibility for you happiness, you sense of fulfilment, your excitement, passion, and energy.

You’d be creating a life that excites you when you wake up and leaves you feeling rewarded and fulfilled when you go to sleep. The fact that your life is full, exciting, rewarding, and incredible without her, changes everything.

Instead of walking up to women and trying to make them responsible for the happiness and fulfilment you’re looking for in your life..

..you’d be walking up to them trying to work out if they were the kind of person you want to bring into your happy and fulfilling life.

Instead of being stuck in your head trying to come up with ways to make her attracted to you, you’d freely express who you are, openly and unashamedly and see if she was the kind of person you click with.

Instead of being racked with anxiety trying to because you’re terrified that she’s going to reject you, you’d be excited for the possibility of finding someone who you really like.

Instead of running out of things to talk about because you’re just focussed on saying things that you think she wants to hear, you’d talk passionately and openly about all the incredible things that you love doing because they’re what you love.

Instead of having to try and ‘internalise’ qualification, you’d be living a powerful, passionate and free life and you’d naturally have standards about who you brought into it.

Instead of having to learn how to lead to try and show her that you know what you want in life and are willing to go after it, you’d naturally do it because that’s the way you life your life.

Instead of having to spend months and months learning how to try and ‘do attraction’, you’d just naturally be attractive.

By changing the underlying motivation that you live your life by, you’d never have to try and internalise these complex structures and techniques.

You’d never HAVE to learn pickup to have success with women. You could be real, open, genuine and authentic with women and have women be very attracted to you.

You could become the kind of guy that all these seduction methods were based off.

Am I saying that there’d be nothing you could do to change your interactions with women?

Of course not.

There’s still plenty of fun little things you can do to give her more excitement, passion, and energy.

What I’m saying is that instead of having to learn all of these different things to take your success from very poor to good, you’d be able to take your success from good to incredible.

And in no way am I claiming that changing the underlying motivation is going to make you amazing with women. It simply removes the necessity to learn the game stuff because you do it naturally.

Doing this wont make you AMAZING with women, just like memorising and ‘internalising’ all these game concepts wont make you AMAZING with women.

There’s a deeper element that has to change before you’re going to see the results that you want to. I’ll talk about that when I get a chance to write another post.

If you want be able to let go of all the learning, practising and internalising and start having real and genuine connections with real and genuine women, then this is what you need to change.

How do you change it? Well, that’s another story all together but just consider this for now.

LoGun