To Become Liked, Don’t Try To Be Liked.

by Jonathon on September 22, 2009 · No Comments

being accepted What if I told you that you were already accepted by everyone?

What if I told you that everybody here thought incredibly highly of you – and you never had to do anything extra to maintain your reputation?

How would that change the way you act around people?

We seem so caught up in catering our conversations, our actions, and the way we carry ourselves by “what will make them think I’m awesome.”

We don’t hear it that way in our heads, of course. We think we’re just coming up with awesome come-backs, stimulating conversation, and hilarious jokes.

Generally, I’ve discovered that rarely do and say these things because that’s who we are on the inside. Rather, we do it for the reaction we get.

But why? What are we trying to gain?

Have a think about your current social outings, and entertain this applies directly to you.

What is it you are seeking from ‘them’?

Why is it more important how ‘they’ perceive you, rather than how you perceive yourself?

Do you believe, on some level, that as long as those around you think highly of you, that you will then be high on the ladder of worth?

Is your opinion of yourself so low that you really do RELY on the reactions you get from people to feel some form of worth?

What if you didn’t?

What if every interaction you were involved in didn’t revolve around you suppressing what you want to express?

What if you you no longer needed to cater who you are to (what you think are) other people’s standards.

What if all that mattered was how YOU felt about who you are – independent of the reactions you receive? And the rest was … irrelevant?

Continually attempting to suppress the symptoms of your unhappiness has only got you this far.

What if you looked inside and dealt with the cause of it all, allowing you to remove every single symptom as soon as you realised they were appearing?

You’re already 100% accepted, you just haven’t realised it yet

Jonathon