Why Are You Approaching Women?

by Steven on January 5, 2010 · No Comments

approaching-women Have you approached a woman in the last month or so?

If yes, why?

“To seduce her, of course”, you might respond. Or maybe your answer would be, “to see if she is my kind of woman”.

Either answer is fine.

Or you may have a completely different reason altogether for approaching women.

That is fine, also.

But those reasons are only skin deep. To become much, much better at approaching women, and actually seducing them, I’d encourage you to think a little deeper.

So, let me ask you again:

Why are you approaching women?

To help you with the answer, let me rephrase: what MEANING are you attaching to the word “WOMAN”?

And, what are you hoping to gain by the action of “SEDUCING” her?

Depending on where you’re at in your life, a desire to become “successful with women” may mean many different things to you.

For example, it may mean:

- impressing your friends with your skills
- getting sex
- freedom from loneliness
- caring for someone

There are no good or bad answers there, so don’t punish yourself if one answer there jumps out at you more than others.

The important part is becoming aware of YOUR reasons.

Know thyself.

(As Socrates said once. Or maybe it was Jonno?).

The reason it’s important is because your reasons will inform everything else:

- what you say to a woman,
- how you stand,
- how you talk,
- whether you approach the woman in an “alpha male” way or in an apologetic manner
- whether you become sexual with her or fall into a “friends zone”

And as you’re probably starting to see, changing your purpose is a lot easier than trying to change a manipulate a muriad of these surface-level “symptoms”.

How to change your purpose is a topic for a whole new post. But step one is knowing what your purpose is RIGHT now.

So, until next time, I leave you with this thought:

Why are you approaching women?

Steven