Why Most Men FAIL At BEING COOL.

by Steven on October 12, 2009 · No Comments

being cool Here’s how I used to try and be cool:

Step 1: see a guy who *IS* cool.
Step 2: imitate him.

Now, here’s the FATAL FLAW in that system:

I would meet / spot another guy who I thought was cool. I’d start imitating him too.

But this guy was polar opposite to the first guy.

The first guy was cool in that loud extrovert kind of way.

The second guy was cool in that quiet intellectual kind of way.

The problem would compound with the arrival of the third “COOL” guy on the scene.

He was cool in that arty-farty “I’m a dag and don’t bother me, I don’t give a shit” kind of way.

A few days later, a fourth cool guy would cross my path. He was cool in that sharp “I look like James Bond and I speak like I was conceived in a Harvard Library” kind of way.

Then there was a neurotic, obsessive compulsive cool dude I met.

Then there was a laid-back, reggae music lovin, dreadlock wearin’, “classic” cool black dude…

Who do I imitate? Baaahh… Which version of “cool’ is the best “cool”?

Then, something so simple, yet so obvious became apparent. Being cool is not about what you do. It’s not even about HOW you do it.

It’s about WHY you do it.

They were all cool because they did their own thing, for their own reasons. Those reasons may not have been known to everyone, but that didn’t matter.

You will not become cool by imitating others who are cool.

But you may become cool by doing what’s important to you – and coolness will become a by – product of that SOMETHING, which is much greater than you – should you choose to focus on it.

Steven