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SUBSCRIBER QUESTION:
1: What is your PURPOSE and how did you figure it out?
LOGUN ANSWERS:
Hey mate,
Purpose is such an interesting topic and something that goes up quite regularly on the forum.
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My purpose is posted there, but I’ll add it here as well:
One belief I hold close to my heart is that of the purity of the Human heart.
Within the heart of any human is the infinite capacity for honesty, courage, and love.
The heart is often clouded by the layers of social programming, and to simply ignore them presents no benefits.
To attempt to shun what we have been taught by society is to repress our feelings. There can be no growth through repression. There can only ever be growth through true power.
To live with rules is repression, to live with understanding is power. In order to grow to our full Love, we need to first understand our true desires and then we can transcend them. We need to investigate the root of our desires and beliefs and only then can we move beyond them.
To grow to Love, you first need to understand why you are not Love.
Only through understanding can you achieve true power: enlightenment.
That is my mission, my purpose, my Love, my desire: to enlighten. To Love.
I not only seek personal enlightenment that I seek but the enlightenment of all those around me; the world. To bring Love in its purest manifestation to all. To rid the world of the false hatred and anger that we accept as necessary within our experience of life.
The transition of one to pure enlightenment does not serve the world.
The transition of all, even but one mere step towards pure enlightenment is Love.
To Love.
To help the world to find love, they must first open their heart. Once they can live with an open heart, only then will they find Love.
And how did I figure it out? ell, I’ve been asked this question a couple of times before so I’ve put a post up on the forum that outlines this process. You can read it here:
http://www.attractioninstitute.org/inner-game-forums/viewtopic.php?f=44&t=2299
LoGun
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READER QUESTION:
Hello,
My fear of approaching women is bordering on the pathological.
Your course is slowly eroding my fear and I am grateful for the excellent information you have supplied. The concept of internally dependent outcomes is sinking in.
As a result I still fear the approach, but at least I can smile at women (and some even smile back).
I have looked at several dating advice websites and they all ask for money. I was wondering what’s in it for you? Is it the satisfaction of knowing you helped people?
LOGUNS ANSWER:
Hey mate,
I’m so glad to hear that we’re already making a difference to your life. We put a lot of work into trying to make these concepts applicable to everybody and it gives me so much satisfaction to know that you’ve been able to take a step further on your journey because of us.
I kind of touched on this in the video but yes, I gain a huge amount of satisfaction out of knowing that I’ve been able to take this world, one step closer to being filled with more love, passion, and excitement.
Check out my introduction on the forum. I think you’ll be able to see why I get so much satisfaction out of seeing guys break down their walls.
LoGun
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MEMBER QUESTION:
Who are the typical guys who come to you for advice on how to become more free? Are they like totally hopeless with women and in life?
STEVEN ANSWERS:
On the contrary. They are usually guys who have a lot of their shit together.
They know that they have massive potential, and they also see that a few bits and pieces of internal B.S. are preventing them from realising it.
It’s a bit like approaching an amazing woman and not being able to get a word out. Even if minutes ago, you were totally being yourself, being likeable, cool and confident around your mates.
That is what we call a freedom problem. It’s your internal clutter stopping you from being who you truly are.
Steven
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SUBSCRIBER QUESTION:
I would ask:
1. Why do so many people (not just guys) find it hard to just let go of what they use to know and adapt with the knowledge they now have?
2. When would you be up for a beer and a bit of playtime over at the Piano Bar or Argyle?
Keep writing the good stuff mate. I hope it’s helping guys out there like it helped me.
Essentially when I stumbled upon AI through LoGun’s posts on Sydney Lair I realised that I didn’t have to learn anything anymore about how to interact with women. It was all already there and I just had to let it out.
Would be keen for a beer sometime and a bit of play
Cheers,
XXX
LOGUN’S ANSWER:
Hey mate,
Question 1.
This could be a HUGE answer so I’m going to narrow it down.
I’m not going to talk about perceptions of freedom, the ego, construct of reality and choice here, as it’d take me a month and probably bore the crap out of you guys.
Instead, I’m simply going to talk about a little bit of brain function.
Most people find it so hard to let go of what they used to know and start the adapt with the knowledge they now have because they’ve spent so much time applying their previous knowledge that it has a very strong connection in the brain.
A great example of this is approach anxiety.
Most guys logically know that women love sex, that nothing seriously bad will happen, and that no-one around them really cares if they get blown out, yet anxiety is still a huge issue for guys.
Why?
Because of the way they’ve chosen (Yes, it’s a choice. I’ll get to that later) their brain. I know this because I used to be the same.
The standard reaction when most guys see a beautiful woman is to jump straight up into their heads and start thinking ‘how can I get her to like me?’
If you’ve watched the inner game essentials video, you’ll know that this externally dependant purpose pushes the challenge THROUGH THE ROOF and then the guys experience anxiety.
Because they think they can’t be anxious when talking to women, they start to think ‘how do I get rid of this anxiety?’ and get even further inside their heads.
If they do manage to go and talk to the woman at this point in time, things go pretty poorly because they’re far to focused on trying to pretend like they’re not anxious and they’re not paying attention to her at all.
They rationalise it that they don’t have the skills to talk to her and so when they see the next hot woman, they get even more anxious.
Every time guys use this ‘hot woman – externally dependant purpose – anxiety’ loop, it becomes more and more ingrained into their brains.
The brain is incredibly powerful at creating these shortcuts (as we needed to for survival) and every time we use it, the connections become stronger.
But, if you can change on of the steps in this chain, the endpoint is totally different. It takes a conscious effort to make new connections but it can be done, and it can be done very quickly too.
Instead of guys making the hot woman = anxiety connection, they can change it to something else through conscious effort and everything will change. Eventually that new connection will become their default connection and everything will be much easier.
One exercise that I find really useful for this is:
Head out to a bar, or go about your day – wherever you find hot women and I want you to look at them. I don’t want you to approach them, I just want you to watch them.
As you’re dong it, I want you to concentrate on feeling attraction to them. How does it feel in your body? How do you feel about these creatures of feminine beauty?
Just sit there and watch. Don’t try and logically analyse the situation, feel into your body and experience how you feel about these women.
What you’re doing is starting a new connection in your brain. Instead of hot woman = anxiety, hot woman = attraction. It’s really simple yet incredibly powerful. Depending on how alien this new connection is, it could take a little while for this to start paying off but it will happen.
So this is why people have such a hard time adapting to new knowledge, because it’s not actually a new behaviour yet. But, if they choose to make it a behaviour, then the adaption will be much faster.
Question 2.
Love a beer. Give me a buzz when you get back from into the state and we can hit it up.
LoGun
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SUBSCRIBER QUESTION:
How do you I become more mentally strong and how do I not feel inadequate about myself.
LOGUN ANSWERS:
There’s a couple of things here that cold be going on but I’m going to take a stab in the dark and look at the most common issue.
The first thing I would ask you is: Who are you inadequate in comparison to? What is this definition of adequate that you’re using?
Is your definition of adequate the corporate office guys who can get some girls but spend their entire week, slaving away behind a desk in a job that they dislike, just so they can afford expensive things to get the admiration of people they don’t actually like but think it’s important to have around.
Is your definition of adequate the tormented ‘Bad Boy’ who can get girls yet spends his life running around pretending to be happy and tough yet on the inside, is battling the demons of his past.
The guy who has to get into fights and pushes people around just to make himself feel better?
Here’s an even better question, why does it even matter what other people have? Is living to their standards going to bring happiness and fulfillment into your life?
The problem here isn’t the things you have or the way you live your life, it’s your perception of how you think you’re supposed to live your life.
If you weren’t comparing yourself to other people around you all the time and spent your life focusing on doing the things you wanted to, do you think you’d still fell inadequate?
If you took all this energy that your using to focus on other people thoughts and opinions and directed it to making your life the kind of world that you want to live in, do you still think you’d have these same thoughts?
In the Inner Game Essentials videos, I talk about the difference between internally and externally dependant purposes and the impacts they have on your life.
Have a watch through it.
LoGun
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